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Can you tell your left from your right?

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TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:11

Had a random conversation yesterday where a friend and I discovered that neither of us instinctively knew our left from our right. It was part of a conversation around neurodiversity and it got me wondering whether it’s just a random blip in our brains or part of something wider. So - do you just KNOW left from right or does it not come automatically? I also struggled at school with random bits of timetables (6/7/8s - could never remember the ones where the answers were somewhere between 40 and 50, but had absolutely no problem with maths overall and got straight As st GCSE. That’s not a boast, more just that it wasn’t linked to academic intelligence!). Am also left handed if that’s relevant (but still have to consciously think about which hand I write with if asked 🙈).

YABU- duh, obviously I can tell left from right 🙄
YANBU - No! I have to really think about which is which 🙈

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/09/2025 18:19

Me: easily, instinctively (possibly something to do with doing dance and the like when little and then a lot of physio later which improved both my proprioception and awareness of muscles and joints) and can flip perspectives and positions in my head without conscious thought - I also have great spatial awareness for moving things around in three dimensions, size and planning processes from multiple competing factors. Technically, I'm ambidextrous, but physically favour my right since a cervical spine fracture (so I end up dragging the mouse over to the opposite side now I can't operate a trackball as accurately as I used to).

DP: On your left. Left. Your other left. That's your right. Left. LEFT. Turn back round and it's on your left. YOUR left. The hand you write with. Your fretting hand. No, the one you actually use, not the one people thought you should use but couldn't. LEFT. PUT YOUR LEFT HAND UP IN THE AIR. Oh, FFS, wait there <stomp stomp stomp> This is your left. Let me move your hand. THERE. ON YOUR LEFT.

NannyOggsScones · 07/09/2025 18:16

Really struggle with left and right (my family have only just realised that I’m not doing this to be funny). I have to make an L shape to confirm which way is which. Weirdly I am very good at cardinal directions and map reading which no one who knows me can understand. I appear to instinctively know what direction north is. As far as I am aware I’m not neurodiverse although chronic dyslexia runs in my family (I’m not dyslexic).

TigerRag · 07/09/2025 18:10

whattheysay · 07/09/2025 13:52

I also can’t seem to walk in a straight line I always end up walking into the person I’m walking next to

I can only walk in a straight line after a drink...

I always have to think about left and right

HorsesAreRunningOn3LegsTonight · 07/09/2025 18:08

It’s a family joke that I have real difficulty telling my left from my right !
I think it’s because I’m left handed, and therefore I write ( right ….. get it ?) with my left hand, so I often have physically hold up my hand to work it out .
i think the fact write and right sound the same scrambles my brain !

SnickoryDickoryDock · 07/09/2025 18:08

I usually need to think for a second. I write with my right hand, that's my go-to when I need to determine left & right.

KawasakiBabe · 07/09/2025 18:06

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 14:20

I was a genius at times tables. I’m double crap at maths, but could learn the “chanting” of the tables, which we did every day at school, really quickly.

I used to just pretend I was keeping up, kinda like 8 7s is blahdy blah.

JustMeAndTheFish · 07/09/2025 18:06

I’m left handed. I’m fine with right and left but have to work out east and west EVERY time. I can read a map and compass, navigate on land and water and could probably explain the differences between true and magnetic north if pushed; but east and west.. nope. Never Eat Shredded Wheat. Every. Single. Time.

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 17:05

Wow, I’m so surprised at the poll results so far (although it could be self selecting). More of us out there who struggle than I realised. I wonder why that is? Up/down and back/front are no problem - why are left and right so hard (and also east/west as others have mentioned)?

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HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 14:20

KawasakiBabe · 07/09/2025 14:15

Left and Right. Is immediate some days and others I have to think really hard, lol

Times tables, 6 and 7’s are a mystery to me. Although I know 6x7=42 and so work forwards and backwards from that, luckily I’m very quick to add and subtract in my head.

I was a genius at times tables. I’m double crap at maths, but could learn the “chanting” of the tables, which we did every day at school, really quickly.

Indicateyourintentions · 07/09/2025 14:15

Left hand is Lovely Sucky Thumb (more than half a century ago 🤣) and I write with my right. Time ahead is measured in telegraph poles of weekends stretching away into the distance. Hopeless at faces; better at recognising people by the way they walk. Can’t hold more than three directions in my head at any one time.

KawasakiBabe · 07/09/2025 14:15

Left and Right. Is immediate some days and others I have to think really hard, lol

Times tables, 6 and 7’s are a mystery to me. Although I know 6x7=42 and so work forwards and backwards from that, luckily I’m very quick to add and subtract in my head.

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/09/2025 14:10

WhereAreMyAirpods · 07/09/2025 13:43

Have been driving 30 years and no idea what nearside and offside means.

Driver's side, passenger side.

Easiest way to remember, near side = near the kerb

rainbowstardrops · 07/09/2025 14:05

I can tell left from right, up from down and east from west but I just cannot get it in my head the number bonds 8+5 and 7+5. I just can’t get it to stay in my head! I literally have to count it out on my fingers!
Oh and I’m in my 50’s and have worked in a school 🙈

ChaToilLeam · 07/09/2025 13:55

I have real problems distinguishing left and right. My sister is the same and sat her driving test with the letters L and R written on the back of her hands.

I'm right handed, but can do almost everything, including writing legibly, with my left. I'm a teacher and when I injured my right hand, I just wrote on the board with my left. No problems reading or with multiplication tables, I can remember number strings easily, great sense of direction but clumsy as hell.

whattheysay · 07/09/2025 13:52

TheNinthLockUnlocked · 07/09/2025 10:49

Spatial awareness - I have none. I bump into things all over the place. I also cannot see a straight line for love nor money. I cannot line things up in a straight line. I don't walk in a straight line - always veer off, mostly to the left.
I am exceedingly clumsy. Can't catch a ball. Totally uncoordinated.

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I also can’t seem to walk in a straight line I always end up walking into the person I’m walking next to

Denim4ever · 07/09/2025 13:51

I'm pretty much ambidextrous and I really struggle with distinguishing left and right. I've trained myself to treat right - the slightly dominant hand - as the go to and it's helped, I can even give directions now 🤣

By the way, I'm your woman in a rounders or cricket match. Catching stuff is my forte. But, in all seriousness, I wouldn't ask me for directions just after a match

LoveItaly · 07/09/2025 13:51

Obsesetits · 07/09/2025 10:12

Yes; the left are usually quite normal, emotionally intelligent people.
The right, not so much.

I have found it to be the opposite, although not the point of the thread as the OP has pointed out.

WhereAreMyAirpods · 07/09/2025 13:49

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 07/09/2025 12:08

@TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter hopefully none of you drive on the roads!!

Why? I struggle with left and right. But only when directing other people. I know exactly where I'm going, what lane I need to be in, how to use my indicators. Sat navs use maps with arrows, they don't talk to you (or at least mine doesn't).

There is nothing that makes those of us who struggle with left and right unsafe on the road. It's just the NAMES for the directions which confuse us, nobody is going the wrong way round roundabouts or driving on the wrong side of the road.

whattheysay · 07/09/2025 13:47

VivaForever81 · 07/09/2025 12:33

I can’t, I have to do the whole what thumb and finger make an L shape. Also when people say, your left or my left, my brain goes into mayhem.

I wouldn’t have a clue if someone said ‘my left’ as I can’t even work out my own left

whattheysay · 07/09/2025 13:45

I know which is left and right but it takes me a while to figure it out, if someone says to me look left I don’t know which way to look. I say to myself I am right handed so that’s the right.
I also have trouble reading maps and direction is not great either.

However I’m not neuro diverse, I don’t have autism or adhd and I don’t have dyslexia or dyspraxia - so I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
Dh is used to it if he says it’s on the left and when I go the wrong way he just says the other left

3pears · 07/09/2025 13:45

I have to really think about it. So does my friend. We’re both NT. I think it’s just something that’s really common

WhereAreMyAirpods · 07/09/2025 13:43

Nellieinthebarn · 07/09/2025 12:26

Yes, that should be banned.

Have been driving 30 years and no idea what nearside and offside means.

Driver's side, passenger side.

LouH1981 · 07/09/2025 13:36

I’m good for left and right.
That’s not a boast because other things like vertical and horizontal absolutely pickle my brain. (I have to remember that Vertical Limit was a film about rock climbing and therefore up not across!)

caringcarer · 07/09/2025 13:34

Ineedanewsofa · 07/09/2025 10:22

No problem with L & R but the times table thing definitely resonates, certain ones would not stick no matter how much I tried. Same with some spellings, ‘necessary’ (thank you auto correct!) is one that I could not get right even if my life depended on it. No idea why…

Never eat cake eat sausage sandwiches and remain young.

BMW6 · 07/09/2025 13:33

I'm truly shocked by the poll result! 😧