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Can you tell your left from your right?

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TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:11

Had a random conversation yesterday where a friend and I discovered that neither of us instinctively knew our left from our right. It was part of a conversation around neurodiversity and it got me wondering whether it’s just a random blip in our brains or part of something wider. So - do you just KNOW left from right or does it not come automatically? I also struggled at school with random bits of timetables (6/7/8s - could never remember the ones where the answers were somewhere between 40 and 50, but had absolutely no problem with maths overall and got straight As st GCSE. That’s not a boast, more just that it wasn’t linked to academic intelligence!). Am also left handed if that’s relevant (but still have to consciously think about which hand I write with if asked 🙈).

YABU- duh, obviously I can tell left from right 🙄
YANBU - No! I have to really think about which is which 🙈

OP posts:
Nellieinthebarn · 08/09/2025 12:35

We'd better not have a conference, we'd never get there. 😂

MageraofCthulik · 08/09/2025 10:24

I have to pretend I'm writing to be able to to tell left from right.😂 Been like that forever.

TheYouYouAre · 08/09/2025 09:56

I think it's more of a dyslexia thing.

Anecdotally, my son (ASD, left handed) has a great sense of direction, no issues with left / right, and is brilliant with numbers, maths, etc.

Whereas me (Left handed, many ASD traits) cannot do left or right, fractions, or clock reading, have a terrible sense of direction and map reading, lack of facial recognition out of context, huge problems with dyscalculia.

I was diagnosed dyslexic in my twenties. It was never picked up on when I was at school, because I was a keen reader and no issues with words.

ScrambledEggs12 · 08/09/2025 09:12

I write with my right hand, that's how I know. I definitely don't know without thinking!

Rescuedog12 · 08/09/2025 09:00

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:11

Had a random conversation yesterday where a friend and I discovered that neither of us instinctively knew our left from our right. It was part of a conversation around neurodiversity and it got me wondering whether it’s just a random blip in our brains or part of something wider. So - do you just KNOW left from right or does it not come automatically? I also struggled at school with random bits of timetables (6/7/8s - could never remember the ones where the answers were somewhere between 40 and 50, but had absolutely no problem with maths overall and got straight As st GCSE. That’s not a boast, more just that it wasn’t linked to academic intelligence!). Am also left handed if that’s relevant (but still have to consciously think about which hand I write with if asked 🙈).

YABU- duh, obviously I can tell left from right 🙄
YANBU - No! I have to really think about which is which 🙈

I remember left because I'm left handed.cant everyone do it that way?

Floatlikeafeather2 · 08/09/2025 08:57

I have to wear specialist pressure stockings. They are made to my very precise measurements so it's very important to get them on the right leg. These socks say left or right on the label but I still have to look at my hands and make the L sign in order to know which leg to put them on. Every single time. 😂
Left handed and struggle with travelling south. Also absolutely no spatial awareness and have difficulty visualising anything in 3D.

Dangermoos · 08/09/2025 08:31

Obsesetits · 07/09/2025 10:12

Yes; the left are usually quite normal, emotionally intelligent people.
The right, not so much.

Love sarcasm.

Wildefish · 08/09/2025 08:21

As a child I mixed up Tuesdays & Thursdays Wednesday’s & Fridays. Also Left & Right. I always thought I was dyslexic but now believe I am also ADHD after my son got diagnosed at 36.

Diblin93 · 08/09/2025 05:55

I’m a Catholic. When I first started school the nuns would say eg: turn right and if we (5 year olds) were confused, they then say: the hand you bless yourself with. That’s how we learned left from right.

MrsPengiuins · 08/09/2025 05:15

Have trouble telling left and right apart. Up / down no issue, compass no issues though use news. Timetables no issues. Tests were you have to flip shapes lots of issues. Telling time on old clock difficult. Generally straight As. Do have autism in family but not me. Husband no issues. Lots of trouble with alphabet as child and spelling difficult but not dyslexic afaik.

MarxistMags · 08/09/2025 01:39

I have to say to myself, you RIGHT with this hand.
My daughter says it's a sign of intelligence....LoL
I'm also ambidextrous.

XWKD · 08/09/2025 01:35

It's funny how our brains work. Left and right are as natural to me as up and down, but I do have a problem naming colours. It's weird, but I have to think about the names of basic colours.

TheGreatWesternShrew · 08/09/2025 01:30

BooneyBeautiful · 08/09/2025 00:35

A tip for East and West which my DM taught me was that Left pretty much rhymes with West.

The best way for East and West is Never Eat Shredded Wheat - North, East, South, West when going clockwise

TheGreatWesternShrew · 08/09/2025 01:28

It took me a long time to but now I do know it automatically. But that little voice in my head still says ‘I write with my right’ every time.

Catsandcannedbeans · 08/09/2025 01:15

Lol no, never have been able to. My DH says it’s as instinctive as up and down but I think he’s lying or showing off.

HelloDenise · 08/09/2025 01:11

Yes of course I can but unless they're marked H and C, the only way I can tell which tap is hot and which is cold is to sing the Katy Perry song, as they're mentioned in order of how they appear in the sink or bath.

Thistlewoman · 08/09/2025 00:45

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:29

Ooooh this is so interesting that others struggled with the ‘middle’ times tables as well! Thought that was just me. I wonder if there’s some weird brain pathway that’s misfiring!

This has been a revelation to me! The 'middle tables' were a horror for me. We used to have to stand up & recite tables at school in front of our classmates (this is early 70s) and the 'middle tables' were the ones I dreaded! I taught myself methods to deal with it.. but I remain scarred!!

BooneyBeautiful · 08/09/2025 00:40

Helena2000 · 07/09/2025 10:22

@TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter
Hello OP - did you know this is one of the classic symptoms of Dyslexia?
And Dyslexia isn't all about difficulties with reading - that's only 1 of a list of symptoms, and it's possible to have Dyslexia yet still have learnt to read easily as a child.

That's interesting. DP really struggles with reading, and sometimes transposes numbers. I have always assumed he must be dyslexic, but he is in his mid-seventies, so dyslexia wasn't really a 'thing' when he was at school. He struggles with his left and right, despite me telling him the way to remember it is, "You write with your right hand".

Talkingfrog · 08/09/2025 00:39

I am the only one in the house that doesn't get muddled with left and right.
The other two are both dyslexic.One is left handed. The other is predominantly right handed, but can do a few things with tthe left uite well too.
When going anywhere unfamiliar, I am tthe ne that navigates, otherwise I might get told to go left instead of right.
Once in the left of three lanes, indicating left, there isn't much I can do when I am told " not that left, the other left", other than turn left, and gind somewhere to turn around. When I navigate and say left and right, if needed I also say which exit on a roundabout, or to me/to you. 😃

Tintackedsea · 08/09/2025 00:37

Had to write L and R on my thumbs for my driving test. I mix up numbers a lot - 724 becomes 427 for example. Really struggled with times tables and number patterns like phone numbers or registration too. Maps are so confusing. On google maps I move in wrong direction all the time.

BooneyBeautiful · 08/09/2025 00:35

CosyMintFish · 07/09/2025 10:18

I can’t.

When it’s mattered, I’ve written it on the backs of my hands. Also East and West.

A tip for East and West which my DM taught me was that Left pretty much rhymes with West.

Thistlewoman · 08/09/2025 00:27

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:11

Had a random conversation yesterday where a friend and I discovered that neither of us instinctively knew our left from our right. It was part of a conversation around neurodiversity and it got me wondering whether it’s just a random blip in our brains or part of something wider. So - do you just KNOW left from right or does it not come automatically? I also struggled at school with random bits of timetables (6/7/8s - could never remember the ones where the answers were somewhere between 40 and 50, but had absolutely no problem with maths overall and got straight As st GCSE. That’s not a boast, more just that it wasn’t linked to academic intelligence!). Am also left handed if that’s relevant (but still have to consciously think about which hand I write with if asked 🙈).

YABU- duh, obviously I can tell left from right 🙄
YANBU - No! I have to really think about which is which 🙈

YANBU
I literally have to wave my left and right hands to get it right 🤣🤣
There are lots of us about!!

Dramatic · 07/09/2025 23:48

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 19:47

Oooh this is so interesting! I was hoping someone might have a psychological explanation. That would make sense in terms of women having more cross- brain connections, but why is it only left/right or east/west that are the problem? Is it because the brain works across left and right? And like others have said, sometimes I mean one and say the other- why is it those specific words I have a problem with? Interesting to see that it’s far more common than I’d thought.

I always think with left and right (as opposed to up and down) it can switch, like if you look at a photo your right hand is on the left side of the image but up is still up. Another one that got me was if you say something is on your left but then you turn 180, it's now on your right, but again up is still up whichever way you turn.

Dramatic · 07/09/2025 23:42

LilacPony · 07/09/2025 23:07

I can’t do it instinctively. I have to pretend I’m picking up a pen, I have to do the actual hand movements and pick up and write with an imaginary pen. Which ever hand goes for the imaginary pen is my right hand side. 😂

I do exactly this! I struggle massively with it and will confidently say the wrong one quite often. My daughter is the same and I've recently been taking her out for driving lessons, it's been interesting to say the least cos neither of us know which direction we're talking about 😂

MargaretThursday · 07/09/2025 23:35

No I really have to think hard, and even then sometimes get it wrong.
I'm ambidextrous though which doesn't help.