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To think DH should share his windfall

257 replies

Myy · 07/09/2025 09:25

I haven’t asked DH to share anything but I’d like to get your thoughts…
DH has gained a windfall from investing in Crypto with his “fun money” - money we have to spend on ourselves.

Although we are financially stable, I think this money could be used to pay off a substantial part of our mortgage or be used for a 1000 other things. All he has done is cash in small amounts to buy his “toys” and overpay small amounts of the mortgage

AIBU to think he could be generous and share with me.

OP posts:
Coffeeishot · 07/09/2025 09:32

Maybe if he/you didn't talk about "fun money" then he would probably be mature enough to spend it wisely.

PeachyKoala · 07/09/2025 09:32

What did you spend your "fun money" on? Did you use it to benefit you both?

PoshDuckQuarkQuark · 07/09/2025 09:32

You agreed this was HIS fun money pot and he took a risk with his and it paid off so it goes back into his fun pot.

You also have your fun pot and couls have done the same?

smallpinecone · 07/09/2025 09:32

Why don’t you start investing then?

YABU and grabby. If I’d taken the time and effort to learn how to do this I’d take a dim view of my DH wanted to dictate to me how I should spend that money. You say you’re financially stable, so there’s no real need. You just sound jealous.

Remingtonsteele · 07/09/2025 09:31

I wouldn’t share. It’s his fun money and he did what he considers fun. It’s up to him if he wants to share.

sparrowhawkhere · 07/09/2025 09:30

How much is it?

DonnaBanana · 07/09/2025 09:29

It’s half yours if you were to get divorced anyway. So yes, I don’t necessarily think you should be splitting it down the middle but you should be benefiting from it whether through a big chunk of the mortgage, holidays, etc.