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Not sure what to make of my husband's comment?

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Sjb85 · 07/09/2025 04:41

Sorry, this is a bit crude but I'm not sure how to take my husband's comment?

We're laying in bed and he turned to me and said "Well there's no point in it being hard babe if you're not going to suck it". He then tried to guide my head under the covers.

I got cross and he said it was just just a light hearted joke. I'm not sure if I've overreacted by getting pissed off but currently sleeping in the spare bedroom away from him.

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Auroraloves · 07/09/2025 06:20

The pushing your head down is vile. 🤢

Wherehaveallthegoodmengone · 07/09/2025 06:19

I don’t think much of his seduction techniques. Is he usually so crass?

Zanatdy · 07/09/2025 06:17

Pretty rude, especially pushing your head.

nomas · 07/09/2025 05:35

What a knobhead. It wasn’t even funny if it was a joke.

Thepossibility · 07/09/2025 05:33

I'd be mad, I'm not a sex toy to be used at my DH leisure. So disrespectful.

arcticpandas · 07/09/2025 05:17

🤮 how disgusting. You're supposed to be his wife not his fucking whore willing to "get to work" as soon as he's got a hard on. Grim.

Chiseltip · 07/09/2025 05:15

Yeah OP, a massive overreaction.

Presumably you've seen your own husbands cock before, and probably even sucked it before . . .

whoboo · 07/09/2025 04:57

TBF if I actually liked them, I really don't think this would be offensive.

Maloneyb · 07/09/2025 04:52

YANBU. Could you add more context - was it out the blue? Randomly just said that or was it during a moment?
Regardless, you have every right to be upset with him forcing your head down.

whoboo · 07/09/2025 04:50

Well you obviously didn't like it, so that's valid. Were you engaging in relations at the time, or was it apropos of nothing?

Could an indicator of how he sees you, or a clumsy comment. You know him