Friend backing off it can’t be because I am looking and feeling better can it?

No idea if you do this or not but I am sick of hearing endlessly about weight loss injections they are not the messiah

People can be weird about weight loss. I think you do change when you lose
weight. You gain confidence and your focus moves to new things. This may be the reason for your friend’s strange reaction. I would just distance yourself for now and develop other friendships.

The people I know personally that went on massive weight loss 'journeys' turned into self-centred bores. You might be different, but I know several who were absolutely obsessed, from going on about each calorie and sharing every gym routine.
It felt like the ones who joined certain weight loss groups and boot camps joined a cult. Three left their DHs for partners they met there, none are still together.
This might not be you, but you've written only about weight loss. I can't imagine judging someone for dropping a few dress sizes, unless it changed their personality.

Some years ago, I lost four or five stone. Some of my close friends reacted really badly. There would be lots of remarks (“I never thought you cared what you looked like” or “Losing weight won’t change your life”) and insisting that I ate specific foods which broke my plan. I don’t think some people like you losing weight. Maybe it’s a competitive thing - they like you to stay the same.

This does happen. And there are also friends who love you while they need you BUT when fortunes reverse, show no inclination to return the favour. Similar to @Pippa12's ex-friend: they want you to carry on in your role as support animal, now gushing over how great they are and deserve to be so blissfully happy, being oblivious or even hostile to the troubles you're facing.

I was wondering this too. Maybe the timing was unfortunate, but you say you had a lot of problems before and maybe she just felt you were too much. The other thing is some people seem to like helping people, but then get jealous when they are no longer needed. Strange but true.

As they say 'misery loves company'. People are supportive when there's drama... but then hate it when those same people are doing well, ie, better than them.

A good friend would be pleased for you.

I'd let this friendship slide and not think any more about it.

she went mad. Really unlike her saying how stupid I am and how unsafe they are
It does sound like it's to do with the WLI. How weird of her. She probably prefers you being heavier for some reason.

Seems to be a thing based on how often it comes up on mumsnet. People can't win as if they lose weight and don't attribute it to WLI I've seen posts complaining about them "not being honest."

Don't bother with her unless she makes a big effort to make amends. Best to surround yourself with people who want what's best for you not mean girl jelly types.

Did you go mad when your friend said she was on WLI? And say how stupid she is? Like OP's "friend?."

With a few changed details you could be the person I’ve massively backed away from who is also on weight loss jabs and looks fantastic, on Facebook, she genuinely does.

However I’d made the decision to back away prior to her weight loss journey because she was a mood hoover! Every single time I met her I came away pretty low after what felt like a therapy session for her! The last time I saw her my husband had been extremely unwell with sepsis and I was having horrendous gynaecology issues and hadn’t been at work for over a month. She never once asked or gave me room to talk about myself. I left with her knowing not one thing about my troubles.

Shes posted a few passive aggressive statements on Instagram hinting the same, but it’s nothing to do with how she looks- she was just a really shitty friend. I serviced a few messages but have no more room for negativity like that.

Some good advice there from @GlosGirl82 You do not know what is happening in your friend's life. I would send her a friendly text focusing on her and her family and see what comes back. If you get a perfunctory or no reply then leave it. I know from experience that long term friendships can drift apart for reasons that are not readily identifiable at the time. Its hurtful because for you it is unfinished business and you have been left to simply speculate whether you "did anything wrong".

Give her another chance - you don’t know what’s going on in her life and what other factors may be impacting her. I would leave it a while and then re-engage. Focus a message on her - how she is doing etc. if no or shitty response - you have your answer. BUT it could be something is happening in her life that you are just not aware of

Well you've certainly written it in a way that points towards it being that.

That's really shitty of her. She's not your friend.

probably jealous

shes no friend