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Putting 2yo in front seat of car???

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dontcomeatme · 06/09/2025 23:00

I've discussed this multiple times on MN but we're at the end of our tether right now.
My 2yo DS is severely travel sick. Has been pretty much since he was born, we could never drive for more than 40mins to an hour at max and he would projectile vomit. We had to forward face him at 2yo which we desperately didn't want to do but he was choking on his sick rear facing and being in the laid back position.
We're now at the point where even a 20-25 minute journey is making him sick. We are washing the car seat that often we have bought a spare to use while one is in the wash, and as soon as one is clean the other is dirty 😭 I sit in the back with him primed with sick bags but it makes him hysterical just to look at them so I feel like I'm making him worse!
We've been to the GP multiple times now but they just say its one of those things 🙄 I'm ringing on Monday and I want an emergency appointment with a different GP, this level of sickness isn't normal. It is projectile! Comes out of his mouth, nose, absolutely covers him. He goes grey and feels like sh*t for the rest of the day 😢
Do they prescribe anti sickness meds for kids or do we have to buy them? Most of the ones I've seen online are for 4yo plus and I'm hesitant to give him them.
I am seriously contemplating putting him in the front of the car, with the airbags off. Is that insane? AIBU to think this is the solution?!?! He's 28months, 99centile height and weight. We seriously don't know what else to do!
We've started walking and getting the bus everywhere just to prevent the sickness but this isn't sustainable, we missed a hospital appointment last week because the bus didn't come on time 🤦🏻‍♀️
Any suggestions at all? What worked for your DC? Can the doctors actually do anything ? Do you think front seat would help? It always helped me as a child but this was the 90s, my parents shoved me up the front without even a booster seat.
Any advice is appreciated 🙏

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WhiskyintheJarr · 07/09/2025 01:57

curious79 · 06/09/2025 23:29

I used to get violently travel sick but usually only in cars with fabric seats. I don’t know why but leather seats, particularly old leather seats, were much much better

How unfortunate.

k1233 · 07/09/2025 01:31

Can I ask how you drive? Heavy acceleration and braking? Or do you accelerate and brake slowly? I had someone drive me once and they were abrupt with everything. The car was nosing up with acceleration, nosing down on braking and heavily rolling in corners. I wanted to hurl. To check, put a basketball on your front seat. If it rolls off while you're driving, then you're too abrupt and need to practise until the ball doesn't move on the seat.

Other thought, fresh air is king when you feel nauseous, so try windows down.

Finally he may be making himself sick out of distress about getting in the car. Can you do a short trip without him being sick? If so, repeat many of those so he starts to get over the fear of being sick in the car.

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 01:22

DeliciouslyBaked · 07/09/2025 00:56

The other thing we found was that once DD got to about 3, she got pretty good at catching her own sick. We bought these, which contain everything and are absorbent, and put a towel as a blanket over her in the car. We also tried to always have an adult in the back with her, but as im sure you've experienced, it does really limit you on a day to day basis.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Medi-Grade-Vomit-Bag/dp/B082WH9G1B/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=2R1PV4XZPPBOA&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.7-ihS3C-TgwbW3VztoX78jRI7e1u4T_cI6UDKryS9IO5JPzTsD6iaf2bktbzeiKoplalfir4DI2-cJFf502E4UgrukRpWWJDsYMRHAvGT_1HxU-aeOkkCTSC_W3WGOJBcSroeXdDReJNARdp2BVMdHvIQxfLNVa82NkMjyO49Z6rqdvEdROgmFjrLTzUl-tuJbTvu2mEyxx6J--M0DzzqA.IVYNADJt74vWS7LN4V51c5DWvJIsYdtQHHYY43EtQE0&dib_tag=se&keywords=sick+bags&qid=1757202963&sprefix=sixk+%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-4

My DW just looked at these on amazon! We definitely need an upgrade from the carrier bags and random bowls 🤦🏻‍♀️

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 01:20

CookiesAreForSharing · 07/09/2025 01:04

Motion sickness herbal stickers for behind the ear. These worked absolutely brilliantly for my very travel sick kiddo. Used them and literally no more sickness, not even once. A sticker behind each ear, and they were an absolute miracle. They smell quite herbally. I recall they have an age lower limit so check on that!

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B01JCVJYL8?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

Thank you these sound great!

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 01:20

Tillow4ever · 07/09/2025 00:58

Do you always catastophise like this and assume the worst? Because it’s most likely just travel sickness. If travel sickness remedies don’t work then maybe see a GP - but it’s still not an emergency. Does your child even have any other symptoms that would suggest it’s one of those other conditions? If so, that’s what we call a drip feed and really should have been in the OP. Obviously if your child has a shit load of other symptoms that suggests migraines or whatever you get them checked out - because for that you are looking for a diagnosis. Your op suggested you were purely concerned about travel sickness though, so I replied based on that.

I don't believe I'm catastrophising? We are washing a car seat every day, he is ill every day, our lives revolve around this now. I'm trying to think of anything that could help, prevent, make it worse, fix, cure. Absolutely anything at this point.
I don't mean to drip feed at all. I don't think he has these other things but surely getting them ruled out can't hurt?
I have occipital neuralgia and chronic migraines so when i read that article I thought, hmm, could he be similar to me. He also has had a few ear infections since he was 18 months.
My post is about all of it. How to safely navigate this, what worked for other kids, was there a specific trigger, a specific fix all remedy, what have other health professionals said etc etc.
I am purely concerned about travel sickness. But I have no way of knowing if the poor bairn has something else causing the travel sickness?

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CookiesAreForSharing · 07/09/2025 01:04

Motion sickness herbal stickers for behind the ear. These worked absolutely brilliantly for my very travel sick kiddo. Used them and literally no more sickness, not even once. A sticker behind each ear, and they were an absolute miracle. They smell quite herbally. I recall they have an age lower limit so check on that!

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B01JCVJYL8?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

Tillow4ever · 07/09/2025 00:58

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:37

@tillow4ever
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32682672/

Motion sickness can impact children even in infancy. Common comorbid conditions that may contribute to pediatric motion sickness include migraine disorders, vestibular impairment, otitis media, and motor delay. Treatments such as cyproheptadine and vestibular rehabilitation may be helpful but require further study.

Do you always catastophise like this and assume the worst? Because it’s most likely just travel sickness. If travel sickness remedies don’t work then maybe see a GP - but it’s still not an emergency. Does your child even have any other symptoms that would suggest it’s one of those other conditions? If so, that’s what we call a drip feed and really should have been in the OP. Obviously if your child has a shit load of other symptoms that suggests migraines or whatever you get them checked out - because for that you are looking for a diagnosis. Your op suggested you were purely concerned about travel sickness though, so I replied based on that.

DeliciouslyBaked · 07/09/2025 00:56

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:49

Yes I've just been reading about it after a pp mentioned piriton too. Definitely going to try this next week to see if there's any improvement! Think I'm mostly going to have to try and go no car same as what you had to do. I can't keep putting him through this.

The other thing we found was that once DD got to about 3, she got pretty good at catching her own sick. We bought these, which contain everything and are absorbent, and put a towel as a blanket over her in the car. We also tried to always have an adult in the back with her, but as im sure you've experienced, it does really limit you on a day to day basis.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Medi-Grade-Vomit-Bag/dp/B082WH9G1B/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=2R1PV4XZPPBOA&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.7-ihS3C-TgwbW3VztoX78jRI7e1u4T_cI6UDKryS9IO5JPzTsD6iaf2bktbzeiKoplalfir4DI2-cJFf502E4UgrukRpWWJDsYMRHAvGT_1HxU-aeOkkCTSC_W3WGOJBcSroeXdDReJNARdp2BVMdHvIQxfLNVa82NkMjyO49Z6rqdvEdROgmFjrLTzUl-tuJbTvu2mEyxx6J--M0DzzqA.IVYNADJt74vWS7LN4V51c5DWvJIsYdtQHHYY43EtQE0&dib_tag=se&keywords=sick+bags&qid=1757202963&sprefix=sixk+%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-4

Medi Grade Absorbent Sick Bags for Car Travel, Boat or Plane, Pack of 22 - Leakproof Travel Sickness Vomit Bags with Zero Odour – No-Mess Travel Sick Bags for Kids Turn Vomit to Gel, 750ml/Sick Bag : Amazon.co.uk: Health & Personal Care

Medi Grade Absorbent Sick Bags for Car Travel, Boat or Plane, Pack of 22 - Leakproof Travel Sickness Vomit Bags with Zero Odour – No-Mess Travel Sick Bags for Kids Turn Vomit to Gel, 750ml/Sick Bag : Amazon.co.uk: Health & Personal Care

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Medi-Grade-Vomit-Bag/dp/B082WH9G1B/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=2R1PV4XZPPBOA&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.7-ihS3C-TgwbW3VztoX78jRI7e1u4T_cI6UDKryS9IO5JPzTsD6iaf2bktbzeiKoplalfir4DI2-cJFf502E4UgrukRpWWJDsYMRHAvGT_1HxU-aeOkkCTSC_W3WGOJBcSroeXdDReJNARdp2BVMdHvIQxfLNVa82NkMjyO49Z6rqdvEdROgmFjrLTzUl-tuJbTvu2mEyxx6J--M0DzzqA.IVYNADJt74vWS7LN4V51c5DWvJIsYdtQHHYY43EtQE0&dib_tag=se&keywords=sick%20bags&qid=1757202963&sprefix=sixk%20%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-4&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-am-i-being-unreasonable-5405967-putting-2yo-in-front-seat-of-car

Tillow4ever · 07/09/2025 00:54

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:31

I'm just panicked. He is vomiting daily in the car and we sometimes have no choice. From what I've read online severe travel sickness can be caused by underlying conditions so I was hoping GP would rule those out and maybe point me in the direction of the best medication for his age.

I am going to try FF in the front and see how he gets on x

I get that, but it’s not an emergency. I think you’ll get faster and better advice by talking to a pharmacist. They are MUCH more clued up than doctors about medications - a doctor is the person you would go to if you don’t know what’s wrong (or it’s something a pharmacist can’t prescribe you) to be diagnosed on the whole, if you know what’s wrong the issue is, go to the medication expert first!

Needspaceforlego · 07/09/2025 00:53

Bless, you can only try.
I'd try him in the front and encourage him to look out the windscreen. Count cars, colours, anything to keep him looking forward
Put him as high as the seat goes and airbag on (off is only for rear facing).

While car seat safety is important. Its far more important that the driver (you / DH) isn't distracted by a puky child while driving. Minimise the risk of distraction and accident.

Its a long time ago but a friend was in a minor bump because a Mum being distracted by her child puking into a carrier bag.

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:49

DeliciouslyBaked · 07/09/2025 00:45

I would try the piriton liquid first as you can take it from age 1, before ff in the front seat, which really is the worst option. My eldest DD (now 4y) has been travel sick since she was 6months old including on buses and trains. When I recently bought Kewells Kids, the pharmacist told me to not to give allergy medicine on the same day, as they both work in the same way. We've basically not driven anywhere for 3.5years so i wished id found out about it sooner! So it might be worth a try. On our recent holiday, we had a couple of non-negotiable drives and for the first time, she wasnt sick at all.

I've read that some parents can get medication from the GP earlier than age 4, so you could also ask about that at your appointment.

Yes I've just been reading about it after a pp mentioned piriton too. Definitely going to try this next week to see if there's any improvement! Think I'm mostly going to have to try and go no car same as what you had to do. I can't keep putting him through this.

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:46

WilliamBell · 07/09/2025 00:39

Where do you need to drive to?

I would only use the car if you absolutely have to if it's this bad.

We're trying to get the bus more, but my partner works 12 hrs a day and I have another DC who has regular health appointments. My DS has nursery which would be 2 buses each way, swimming lessons etc. We're using buses / walking so much more but don't think we could do 100% no car. I will have to try and plan as minimal amount of car as possible.

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DeliciouslyBaked · 07/09/2025 00:45

I would try the piriton liquid first as you can take it from age 1, before ff in the front seat, which really is the worst option. My eldest DD (now 4y) has been travel sick since she was 6months old including on buses and trains. When I recently bought Kewells Kids, the pharmacist told me to not to give allergy medicine on the same day, as they both work in the same way. We've basically not driven anywhere for 3.5years so i wished id found out about it sooner! So it might be worth a try. On our recent holiday, we had a couple of non-negotiable drives and for the first time, she wasnt sick at all.

I've read that some parents can get medication from the GP earlier than age 4, so you could also ask about that at your appointment.

WilliamBell · 07/09/2025 00:39

Where do you need to drive to?

I would only use the car if you absolutely have to if it's this bad.

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:37

@tillow4ever
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32682672/

Motion sickness can impact children even in infancy. Common comorbid conditions that may contribute to pediatric motion sickness include migraine disorders, vestibular impairment, otitis media, and motor delay. Treatments such as cyproheptadine and vestibular rehabilitation may be helpful but require further study.

Severe motion sickness in infants and children - PubMed

Motion sickness can impact children even in infancy. Common comorbid conditions that may contribute to pediatric motion sickness include migraine disorders, vestibular impairment, otitis media, and motor delay. Treatments such as cyproheptadine and ves...

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32682672/

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:31

Tillow4ever · 07/09/2025 00:24

That’s definitely incorrect. You can rear face but only if the airbags are turned off. However I do not think rear facing in the front will help him - he needs to be able to see out of the windscreen. Travel sickness is caused by mixed signals - what he is seeing isn’t matching with the speed/motion he’s feeling which results in sickness. It’s why they say don’t read in a car or look out of the side windows. Front window is the best way to stop the mixed signals.

My middle son has always had awful travel sickness. We found kids Kwells the best medication. We used the accupressure travel bands when little, but the last couple of years we use motion sickness patches - you stick one behind the ear and one above the naval and they work amazingly well!

I doubt a GP can or will do anything, and you don’t need an emergency appointment with all due respect - how on earth is this an emergency? You’d be better going and speaking to a pharmacist.

I also find that making sure they have something to eat before travelling helps more than an empty stomach.

I'm just panicked. He is vomiting daily in the car and we sometimes have no choice. From what I've read online severe travel sickness can be caused by underlying conditions so I was hoping GP would rule those out and maybe point me in the direction of the best medication for his age.

I am going to try FF in the front and see how he gets on x

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:28

Dartmoorcheffy · 07/09/2025 00:24

Is it the rear facing movement that is making the sickness worse? How is he if forward facing?

We had to forward face him a few months ago because he just screamed, sobbed and vomited rear facing

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:26

Mmr224 · 06/09/2025 23:30

Have you tried piriton liquid? My daughter has it on prescription for her skin condition which causes itching but it also work for travel sickness. 2.5ml 30 mins before travel. Run the AC in the car cold too, and or leave the window open a crack for a breeze. We also used puppy pads or bed pads on the seat to absorb sick. And if it works you may be able to go back to rear facing.

https://lloydspharmacy.com/products/piriton-hayfever-allergy-relief-syrup-for-children-150ml?srsltid=AfmBOoq6PY7pf5jOpYXskL4WdMogXYUZpG9DWGdkBC9h6MhtaOaMDPyK

Edited to add her hospital contract suggested this, as did her GP. It definitely works for her, we went from 8 changes of clothes on a long journey to none. But do need to get out a couple of times for fresh air. We're doing 5-7 hour journeys though.

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I never thought of this! I have piriton in the cupboard will definitely try this! Thank you x

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Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 07/09/2025 00:26

There are a lot of travel sickness remedies that aren't pharmaceuticals. His might be too severe for this, but worth a try?

Green apples
Ginger - crystalline or in tablet form
Essential oils on pulse points (called Motion Eze or something like that? It's largely peppermint based).
Acupressure wrist bands.

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:25

Reportingfromwherever · 06/09/2025 23:34

Can you put him on the middle seat in the back so that he can look forward and see where he’s going? Kids really should be in the back, it’s much, much safer.

That's where he is now it doesn't seem to be helping x

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:25

OneSharpFinch · 06/09/2025 23:39

I wonder, if my ds has milk before a long car journey - well anything over 20 minutes he will throw up.

My DS doesn't have milk anymore, other than cereal or a glass for bed. We've tried and tested no food before, it does reduce the amount of vomit but he just ends up dry heaving or vomiting bile 😢

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Tillow4ever · 07/09/2025 00:24

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:14

In the UK its illegal to RF in the front seat. That's why I'm so torn.

That’s definitely incorrect. You can rear face but only if the airbags are turned off. However I do not think rear facing in the front will help him - he needs to be able to see out of the windscreen. Travel sickness is caused by mixed signals - what he is seeing isn’t matching with the speed/motion he’s feeling which results in sickness. It’s why they say don’t read in a car or look out of the side windows. Front window is the best way to stop the mixed signals.

My middle son has always had awful travel sickness. We found kids Kwells the best medication. We used the accupressure travel bands when little, but the last couple of years we use motion sickness patches - you stick one behind the ear and one above the naval and they work amazingly well!

I doubt a GP can or will do anything, and you don’t need an emergency appointment with all due respect - how on earth is this an emergency? You’d be better going and speaking to a pharmacist.

I also find that making sure they have something to eat before travelling helps more than an empty stomach.

Dartmoorcheffy · 07/09/2025 00:24

Is it the rear facing movement that is making the sickness worse? How is he if forward facing?

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:23

MrsKateColumbo · 06/09/2025 23:44

I swear by the acupressure bands. I went through a period of being sick in every vehicle and the bands were brilliant. They are small so should work for a child.

The GP recommended those but they have zero effect. Someone mentioned kids kwells to me or dramamine but I'm anxious to try. Going to order something now i think

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dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 00:21

DeliciouslyBaked · 07/09/2025 00:15

It is not illegal to RF in the front seat in the UK. Who told you this? It absolutely is not true.

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Ah it says "if the airbag is active it is illegal". I will check in the morning if our airbag can be deactivated it should be 🤞
It states on this site if you have to put a child in the front seat it's safer FF. Plus the only reason I would be placing him front seat is so he can see where he's going to try and prevent the sickness, absolutely pointless if he's RF again x

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