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Putting 2yo in front seat of car???

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dontcomeatme · 06/09/2025 23:00

I've discussed this multiple times on MN but we're at the end of our tether right now.
My 2yo DS is severely travel sick. Has been pretty much since he was born, we could never drive for more than 40mins to an hour at max and he would projectile vomit. We had to forward face him at 2yo which we desperately didn't want to do but he was choking on his sick rear facing and being in the laid back position.
We're now at the point where even a 20-25 minute journey is making him sick. We are washing the car seat that often we have bought a spare to use while one is in the wash, and as soon as one is clean the other is dirty 😭 I sit in the back with him primed with sick bags but it makes him hysterical just to look at them so I feel like I'm making him worse!
We've been to the GP multiple times now but they just say its one of those things 🙄 I'm ringing on Monday and I want an emergency appointment with a different GP, this level of sickness isn't normal. It is projectile! Comes out of his mouth, nose, absolutely covers him. He goes grey and feels like sh*t for the rest of the day 😢
Do they prescribe anti sickness meds for kids or do we have to buy them? Most of the ones I've seen online are for 4yo plus and I'm hesitant to give him them.
I am seriously contemplating putting him in the front of the car, with the airbags off. Is that insane? AIBU to think this is the solution?!?! He's 28months, 99centile height and weight. We seriously don't know what else to do!
We've started walking and getting the bus everywhere just to prevent the sickness but this isn't sustainable, we missed a hospital appointment last week because the bus didn't come on time 🤦🏻‍♀️
Any suggestions at all? What worked for your DC? Can the doctors actually do anything ? Do you think front seat would help? It always helped me as a child but this was the 90s, my parents shoved me up the front without even a booster seat.
Any advice is appreciated 🙏

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 11/09/2025 17:53

dontcomeatme · 11/09/2025 17:41

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne PP keep mentioning another thread I started regarding this but I have zero memory of it and I've looked through my threads I've started and there isn't any there? Which thread are you referring to? Was it about motion sickness or did that just end up in conversation?

I really hope it does help! Thank you x

It was about motion sickness, and it may not have been you. Unless you N/C.
Apologies if I'm mistaken.

dontcomeatme · 11/09/2025 17:41

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 11/09/2025 16:24

Promethazine is phenergan, which was recommended on your previous thread.

It really should help! I hope it does as this is miserable for your poor child, and messy for you (of course).

Good luck @dontcomeatme

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne PP keep mentioning another thread I started regarding this but I have zero memory of it and I've looked through my threads I've started and there isn't any there? Which thread are you referring to? Was it about motion sickness or did that just end up in conversation?

I really hope it does help! Thank you x

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maggiecate · 11/09/2025 16:30

promethazine has been around for a long time - it’s the active ingredient in phenerghan, which is what I took for travel sickness when I was young so 45 years ago. It’s an antihistamine which is effective for travel sickness. It used to taste amazing - had loads of sugar in it! The main side effect is drowsiness which is why it’s not the first line treatment nowadays but it’s not a huge problem for a two year old I guess! I used to have it the night before a trip and in the morning. Risk-wise it’s safer than having you driving while distracted by a vomity baby.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 11/09/2025 16:25

And @dontcomeatme I would give him the full dose. Don't bother with the lowest one.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 11/09/2025 16:24

dontcomeatme · 11/09/2025 16:17

Just an update if anyone is still hanging around. The GP said his sickness was definitely on the severe side and agreed to keep him in the front of the car until we could figure out something to help him. She's referred him for his eyes as well as ENT and in the meantime prescribed promethazine, which I had never heard of before. After a brief Google I'm a little hesitant to give it to him, but going to trust the doctors advice and try a low dose and see how he goes 🤞 I'm just so relieved it's been taken seriously! Thank you everyone for your advice and help x

Promethazine is phenergan, which was recommended on your previous thread.

It really should help! I hope it does as this is miserable for your poor child, and messy for you (of course).

Good luck @dontcomeatme

dontcomeatme · 11/09/2025 16:17

Just an update if anyone is still hanging around. The GP said his sickness was definitely on the severe side and agreed to keep him in the front of the car until we could figure out something to help him. She's referred him for his eyes as well as ENT and in the meantime prescribed promethazine, which I had never heard of before. After a brief Google I'm a little hesitant to give it to him, but going to trust the doctors advice and try a low dose and see how he goes 🤞 I'm just so relieved it's been taken seriously! Thank you everyone for your advice and help x

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dontcomeatme · 10/09/2025 07:25

biscuitsandabreak · 10/09/2025 06:59

@dontcomeatme you’ve got a repeat troll coming and goading, being banned then re registering and returning. Just FYI.

@biscuitsandabreak aw how fun 😕 I don't know how people have the time for it.

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biscuitsandabreak · 10/09/2025 06:59

@dontcomeatme you’ve got a repeat troll coming and goading, being banned then re registering and returning. Just FYI.

dontcomeatme · 10/09/2025 06:41

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@Emailsshow didn't it!

He was definitely better in the front the first time I tried for 35 minutes. But we had to nip out yesterday and although he wasn't sick, which is huge, he did start crying a bit and saying "mammy tummy hurts". We came home straight away. So it has improved the situation but definitely hasn't eliminated the problem. I have an appointment this afternoon for him!

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Wow. Okay. Enjoy your night

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Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:40

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dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:39

Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:37

Just seen you lecturing many a poster on there is no need to drive

🤷‍♀️

Lecture is a strong word jeez 🙄 if anything people lectured me about not driving. My baby has been in and out of hospital for 5 months and you're nit picking over the fact I've had to depend on a car more frequently? Seriously not okay behaviour. Show a little empathy maybe. Less stalkerish behaviour wouldn't go amiss either.

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Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:37

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:34

You're not a very nice person are you ? Thanks but no thanks.

Just seen you lecturing many a poster on there is no need to drive

🤷‍♀️

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:35

Lavender14 · 09/09/2025 19:33

I would have had issues (although not to this extent) as a child and had issues with my eyesight and frequent ear infections. I would be inclined to go back to a different gp and ask specifically for an eye test and for someone to look at whether this is a problem with his inner ears that the motion is disregulating.

@Lavender14 yes that's what I was thinking to, I've managed to get a GP appointment tomorrow afternoon so I'm going to ask for a few referrals. Even if it just rules out any underlying issue, I think its worth investigating x

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dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:34

Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:33

Sure OP 😊

You're not a very nice person are you ? Thanks but no thanks.

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Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:33

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:33

I really never expected to have to put all of that information on a thread about motion sickness. How bizarre are you.

Sure OP 😊

Lavender14 · 09/09/2025 19:33

dontcomeatme · 07/09/2025 07:43

Yes I've wondered if it could be an inner ear issue, I didn't actually think about his vision, it seems okay but we all have quite severe astigmatism so I'll get him an eye test booked as well! I'd rather rule everything out see if I can figure out a way to help him x

Thank you I'll definitely try these, dramamine seems the most effective option online x

I would have had issues (although not to this extent) as a child and had issues with my eyesight and frequent ear infections. I would be inclined to go back to a different gp and ask specifically for an eye test and for someone to look at whether this is a problem with his inner ears that the motion is disregulating.

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:33

I really never expected to have to put all of that information on a thread about motion sickness. How bizarre are you.

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dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:31

@Just3ok
If you need our life story -
My wife works 12hrs a day and normally the car would be with her, and I would use bus/walk. Which I still do. But since our 5 month old was diagnosed with some health issues weve been in and out of hospital constantly. If he crashes while my wife's at work I need a way to get him quickly to the hospital.

She now leaves the car at the house, and if needed, either my very close friend, his nana, my mother in law, or at a push my neighbour drives the car. Because 1, I cannot drive and 2, although it makes sense to just use their car in an emergency, as I've already said, DS is sick so often I felt guilty him being sick in everyone's car as ita not their responsibility to clean up after him. Plus the car seats are already fitted in ours so quicker to just use that.
Satisfied?

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Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:31

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:25

I didn't actually, I said "we are all cautious drivers", meaning, everyone who drives my car 🤣

You're getting a bit obsessive over who drives my car

Who else drives your car?! 😆

Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:30

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:25

Nope. Never said that at all.

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Indicates you need to drive because your DW works 12 hrs a day

Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:28

Maybe you should update all the threads where you’ve been lecturing posters about no one needs to drive 😆

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:25

Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:25

Surely this is you driving?

Nope. Never said that at all.

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dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 19:25

Just3ok · 09/09/2025 19:24

You said you were a cautious drive 😆

I didn't actually, I said "we are all cautious drivers", meaning, everyone who drives my car 🤣

You're getting a bit obsessive over who drives my car

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