Can't Believe What I've Just Seen at a Wedding

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My sister in law told me I had to pay for my own dress (bridesmaid) and red dresses for my dds (flower girls) and grey/white for my ds's (pageboys)

She didn't offer a penny for this-she seemed to think i should be honoured to pay (i was a skint single mum)

Silly cow then changed the colour schemes to pink/white but didn't tell me

First I knew about this was on the day-we all looked like lemons in the photos (us in red/grey and everyone else in pink/white)

Thankfully I'm nc with her now because she did nothing but slag me off for 'ruining her big day'

Her mother has never forgiven me and I don't really give a fuck

I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding where 100% of my time I was dazzled by the entertainment and unable to do anything else?

Why would it be a shit wedding because OP accessed her phone?

The only time I’ve commented on another guest’s wedding attire was where the bride’s cousin wore a white suit. Not because it was white, but because she wore no top or bra under the jacket, and I don’t think many of the people present escaped without seeing her tits. Including the vicar.

I believe you OP. I've been at a wedding where the same thing happened, so much so that people in the street thought the guest was the bride. We were all (bride included) incredulous. I do not understand how anyone can think this is appropriate!

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Afternoon wedding, on a beach. Bride in traditional wedding dress, guests mostly in smart normal wedding attire.

One guest was in a wedding dress. A proper, full on wedding dress. Strapless, corset back, full length, big full skirt with a TRAIN.

The bride had asked guests not to wear white and it wasn't white but bloody hell, who would do that? She looked amazing in it but I simply can't understand the thought process. I've no idea who she was other than a friend of the bride, close enough to go to the hen night, but I'm pretty sure the bride wouldn't have said this dress was OK if she'd been asked. She wasn't a bridesmaid, literally just a guest with no other role to play at the wedding( unless she's going to step up and sing Don't Cry For Me Argentina at the reception later which is possible I suppose!)

I'm just gobsmacked that someone would do this.

I’ll preface this with I’m not a wedding person and have zero idea of the “rules” that are apparently just common knowledge (exactly how one gains this knowledge nobody can ever explain to me) but these thread always astound me.

As far as I can tell these rules only apply to women and men can all wear matching or similar suits etc and that’s fine. But what I have learned so far from MN in terms of weddings is:

Women must not, as a wedding guest, wear the same colour as the bride. Even if we don’t know in advance what colour that is. We must not wear white because it has a recent association with women getting married in the UK (very recent, white is in no way traditional). We must not wear red because it indicates a scandal. We must not wear green because it means jealousy or is bad luck. Or black because it indicates mourning and is associated with funerals. We must not wear pale colours lest it is mistaken for white, not lace in case the brides dress has lace, nor white background patterns because of photos. No styling that might be mistaken for a wedding dress (such styling is found in a large percentage of formal wear) Also not formal enough to wear separates, and entirely frowned upon to choose anything someone might interpret as showy or with too much leg or cleavage.

Now I learn we also cannot wear pink or ball gowns.

I have worn pretty much all of above to weddings in the past including white, and including wearing the same colour as the bride, and realise I have lived my life in a perpetual state of faux pas. And yet nobody has seemed concerned and all my friends are still talking to me and most of them am still invited me to their second and third weddings so I can’t have annoyed them too much.

Please do tell me how we are supposed to intuit these mad rules and even better do tell why they only apply to women and why they only apply at the one specific social occasion of a wedding?

FFS is she totally stupid or something?

This is a great post. The rules are nonsense and instead of getting more relaxed they are becoming absurd. Guests spend stupid amounts of money to attend these events only to be made to feel uncomfortable throughout the day whilst forced to dress according to stupid rules.

For this reason alone I would applaud someone turning up in a ballgown to stick 2 fingers up at the pomposity. I mean who the hell thinks a beach wedding is a good idea? heat, wind, sand and water spray along with a dress code.

Imagine telling people what to wear to your wedding. A wedding is more than the photos, surely?

Afternoon wedding, on a beach. Bride in traditional wedding dress, guests mostly in smart normal wedding attire.

One guest was in a wedding dress. A proper, full on wedding dress. Strapless, corset back, full length, big full skirt with a TRAIN.

The bride had asked guests not to wear white and it wasn't white but bloody hell, who would do that? She looked amazing in it but I simply can't understand the thought process. I've no idea who she was other than a friend of the bride, close enough to go to the hen night, but I'm pretty sure the bride wouldn't have said this dress was OK if she'd been asked. She wasn't a bridesmaid, literally just a guest with no other role to play at the wedding( unless she's going to step up and sing Don't Cry For Me Argentina at the reception later which is possible I suppose!)

I'm just gobsmacked that someone would do this.

Actually I came home in the 'down time' photos etc. I posted because I was just so surprised by it.

And of course I can't take a photo of a stranger and post it on the internet!!! Christ. But she looks a bit like this, without the straps and with a train.
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Are you outside the UK OP? There are as far as I know hardly any places in the UK where you can actually get married on the beach itself (Lusty Glaze in Cornwall is one I know of) so if it's in the UK you might have given away what wedding you're at and roughly where you live. If you're outside the UK obviously there are no such worries.

I once attended a wedding where the MOB wore a full length white dress with a veil. 😲

I’ve worn red to a wedding twice. First time 35 years ago, red Jacques Vert suit with matching hat. Second time, twenty years ago, strappy dress, red with white print, with red jacket, accessories and fascinator. I was totally unaware of the alleged connotations.

It is a very pale pink. Ball gowns don't tend to have trains, I think it's a wedding dress she's maybe had dyed.

The bride didn't react as she didn't really see it- the guest was in the congregation and the bride was getting married.

The reception starts in ten minutes so I guess the bride will see it then!

This.

Really??? You're at a wedding but posting on MN?? WHAT A LOAD OF BS