‘Backwards compliment’ from date, not sure if I was right to challenge it

Imagine all the other occasions he can ruin by saying something equally as appalling - if this is how he thinks …he’s given you fair warning

Yuck.🤮

Well done for calling him out, but I would tread carefully if you move forward with seeing him, boundary pushing and all that. Plus, what’s he going to say about you to the next woman.

😂

His comment deserves a sick burn like this.

I read it as him still seeing her. Another reason to bin him. - as if the comment itself wasn’t enough.

It may be on the wrong thread, but I'd much rather have a date with one of these!! I'm adding this to my Christmas food list...

Grim, so mysoginistic. Reducing women to body parts.

she's not an ex. She is someone he is seeing at the same time he is seeing the OP.

And the sex comment ,shows you a lot about him
That he thinks sex is doing it to a woman
I can't see him being much of a lover with that attitude

4th date? So this is what he says when he's trying to impress you? Run for the fucking hills.

gross.

He does not have enough respect for the other woman he is dating to not share details about her naked body and the sex he has with her. You can be sure he does not respect you either.

He is at best a crass caveman who only views women from a prism of how they get him off.

Dump and run.

That would have been our last date for me. Absolutely no need to mention either of the things that he did. He accidentally let his mask slip, if he's saying things like that/making comparisons on date #4 it's only going to get worse from here on in!

He's having a dig , clearly thinks a size 12 is bigger

He then said he was seeing someone who was really slim and it hurt when he ‘did her from behind’ (his words) as her bum was ‘boney’.

Fair enough he could say very slim women are not my type - that is a back handed, maybe clumsy compliment. Same way women may not prefer slim men, muscular, tall, beards etc.

The above was way too much detail, disrespectful, and might be the start of a slippery slope downhill.

He's disgusting, there wouldn't be a 5th date.

You could have said "Yes, that is often the result, if you have a short penis".

If he is otherwise brilliant I would give him another chance but I suspect that was the real him coming out that you would see a lot more of if you were to go out with long term

Sorry? Je suis single - unless you count the male cat on my lap watching the rugby with me?! Sorry if I was unclear. I am typing with a broken thumb so some of my posts recently have extraordinary typos which I only notice once it’s too late to correct!

I am so tired of men at this point.

@Arlanymor I am sorry but if I were you, I would leave this one alone.

I don’t know why any man would think it’s appropriate to bring criticism of an ex’s body during sex into a conversation with a brand new partner over dinner. ‘Doing her from behind’ - does he really think you want to hear all about this? Does he have no judgment at all?!

Please ignore the photo, I’ve accidentally commented on the wrong thread 🤦‍♀️
Sorry and best of luck!

Dear God 😒

When he sent the long message, did he seem to understand why what he said was gross and disrespectful? As in:

"I've been thinking about how I commented about an ex partner's body and I'm really embarassed at how disrespectful it was, to both you and her. In the moment, I was clumsily trying to pay you a compliment about how much I like your body shape, but I realise it was just really ill-judged to bring up unasked-for details about my previous sex life, and also to speak to dismissively of an ex partner. I expect it also made you wonder how I'd talk about our intimate moments to other people. I hope you can give me a chance to show that was a one-off."

Or was it more like "Sorry for upsetting you, I know women don't like it when they hear about their rivals. I expect you felt jealous and insecure. I'll be more careful in future and save that talk for the boys."

Would I have said something? Yes … goodbye!

Surely you aren’t even considering seeing this twat again?

My husband of 10 years wouldn’t dream of saying something so vulgar about another woman!

God, men like this are so depressing.