‘Backwards compliment’ from date, not sure if I was right to challenge it

It was crass, but at least he recognises this and apologised. He might just be a bit clumsy/awkward. If this is the only issue, I'd still see him, but be on the watch for any other slip ups that suggest he's a misogynist, and bin him off if he is.

Ewwwwww. Dump.

Ugh that's horrible.

He sound revolting TBH!

Just gross....
Inappropriate crass and gross.

WHY would you, unprompted, say that outside your own head?

Having spent over 3 years online dating i can confidently say every time I've thought "IS that a red flag?" Then thought i was being too picky or gqve benefit of the doubt... It was (sur-prise!) a red flag.

You took the time and bothered to come on to the internet to ask strangers.... it's a red flag.

More fool you. If that’s how he talks about things while he’s trying to impress you, imagine what he’s going to be like later on. Why waste your time??

The fact you see it as a compliment to you is both hilarious and depressing.

I often read things on here and wonder how so many women end up with such awful men. Now I've seen this comment and realise it's because they would rather have anyone than be single. They are so desperate, they will accept absolute dregs. If having a boyfriend is worth that much more than your self-respect then go for it girl!

More fool you.

Eeew no , he sounds awful. Telling you that you have a figure he “ can hold on to” is really not a compliment and talking to you about “ doing “ his ex is horrible. He has no respect for women !

Throw him back

This. He 100% will talk about sex with you in these terms. Massive red flare. 4 dates. Nothing invested just walk away - run.

Not a very gentlemanly comment.

Ah here, I'm a guy, that's out there.

So he's on a 4th date with you, meanwhile he's sharing how while seeing another girl other nights, her boney bum is uncomfortable when taking her from behind....

Jeez, and I thought I could be a bit too brave & stupid in my campaigning years... this guy takes the biscuit. Bin him & count your blessings, and make sure to let him know you'd prefer not to hear about suitor's intimate life with other women while you're dating them also. That guy is just thick & stupid!!

I’m not a fan of the current trend to date multiple people at once and only become exclusive several months down the line.

It almost feels as if he was using the opportunity to brag to you that he’s sleeping with other women, a weird way to make him look like more of a catch? And then the criticism of the other woman is a subtle way of saying he likes you more so if you play your cards right, he could pick you.

That’s how it seems to me at least….

I have to be honest though, it would make me wonder what he would say about me to others!! The fact that he’s saying this about a woman he’s currently sleeping with makes it way worse imo. You might expect someone to be a bit snarky about an ex but somehow it’s way more disrespectful speaking like this about a woman he’s currently seeing. I don’t think I could get past it tbh.

Mind you, I once went on a date with someone to the cinema and he was drooling over the main actress, telling me how hot she was and how much he fancied her. I stuck out the rest of evening but refused another date, much to his confusion - we all find other people attractive but banging on and on about how sexy another woman is while you’re on a first date just struck me as really rude.

Instant turn off
Highly inappropriate and ill judged comment
That would have been it for me

I never thought I had particularly high standards but if someone spoke to me like that on a fourth date and about sexual positions with another woman they were seeing, I’d never see them again.

Ooofe no. Bin.

"Funny you should say that. I know what you mean. Other men I've been with have had bigger dicks, and it can hurt."

i would end things with this man right away he sounds vile and creepy and also sounds like he sleeps with pretty much everyone he goes on dates with yuk what a catch not

Emotional intelligence none existent (him not you) The future does not look bright for you OP even if you do proceed with caution ⛔️ you need saving from yourself, never mind this absolute waste of space…

The fact that 'the dating pool is so dire' doesn't mean you should lower your standards to put up with men who speak about women like that.

Don't forget, after 4 dates he's still on his best behaviour. And if that's his best......

Edited to add: in response to the title of your OP, you were definitely not unreasonable to call him out. But it wasn't a compliment, backwards or otherwise.

How crass. I wouldn't see him again.

He talks about women like a piece of meat.

Be grateful his mask slipped so soon.

Let's say, OP, that not a single one of the good men I know would ever contemplate saying something so horrid about any woman.