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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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KitWyn · 06/09/2025 17:58

I had a beautiful black mohair knitted round-neck tank. I loved it. My 5-year old niece called it my baby chimp top.

Barney Rumble was, if I remember correctly, a much better husband than the rather grumpy & selfish Fred!

MrsShawnSpencer · 06/09/2025 17:57

I wore a pair of dungarees last week with a tie dye t-shirt, didn't even realise the sleeves were mostly yellow. I got called a minion all day by the dc and dh 😂 I just said, well I rock the minion look actually.

YANBU though OP, if it's upsetting you and you have asked him to stop then he's just being mean now.

Upset about new top
Funnywonder · 06/09/2025 17:57

Sorry but 🤣🤣🤣

I still feel your pain though. I have a similar ‘comedian’ at home and sometimes it gets very wearing.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:57

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 17:52

Multiple times. With the same joke. When someone else is getting upset about it. I mean, other jokes are available.

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If your husband joking about about you looking like a Flinstones character is genuinely upsetting you, I think there are bigger issues at play in your marriage, tbh.

One of the things that attracted me to DH is the fact that he can laugh at himself and doesn't take himself (or life) too seriously. I'm glad I don't have a marriage where you constantly have to check yourself in case you cause offence.

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 17:55

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:53

I forgot.

Straight to jail.

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You’re fine, loads of people on this thread think OP’s husband is hilarious.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:53

Notmyreality · 06/09/2025 17:52

Except on MN. It’s against the rules.

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I forgot.

Straight to jail.

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 17:53

Notmyreality · 06/09/2025 17:52

Except on MN. It’s against the rules.

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I mean, evidently not.

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 17:52

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:50

Raise your fucking standards.

Or just lighten the fuck up.

Not everything is serious. Not everything is bullying or abuse or nastiness. Sometimes people are just having a laugh.

Multiple times. With the same joke. When someone else is getting upset about it. I mean, other jokes are available.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/09/2025 17:52

GeorgeClooneyshouldhavemarriedme · 06/09/2025 14:03

Hands up everyone who just googled Betty Rubble!

Didn’t need to - I’m old !! I think he’s confusing Betty Rubble with Barney Rubble, who wore something similar to OP’s description but it was brown. There wasn’t any character that I can remember who wore a black fluffy sleeveless top and Betty Rubble wore a blue dress.

Notmyreality · 06/09/2025 17:52

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:50

Raise your fucking standards.

Or just lighten the fuck up.

Not everything is serious. Not everything is bullying or abuse or nastiness. Sometimes people are just having a laugh.

Except on MN. It’s against the rules.

NoThanksNeeded · 06/09/2025 17:52

Need to see a picture

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:52

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 06/09/2025 17:50

There have been numerous threads on here in the past where someone complaining about an article of their DH's clothing has been told to "accidentally" throw it away.

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Exactly. So many threads on here about their husbands wearing ratty t-shirts or awful looking combinations of clothes.

If my DH thought I looked ridiculous I'd want to know.

Notmyreality · 06/09/2025 17:51

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:47

Someone said they were upset by a comment their husband made. And a poster responded with laughing emojis. That is shitty behaviour.

My husband and I mock each other all the time affectionately and it wouldn’t bother us. But it bothered that poster and the emojis seemed inappropriate to me.

Anyway, I will leave it there. As I said, lack of emotional intelligence. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Lack of emotional intelligence
in the OP you mean? I agree. If she had well developed emotional intelligence she wouldn’t let such a minor issue upset her. She would explore the option that maybe the DH had a point. And she certainly wouldn’t post about it on MN.

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 17:51

I bet he loves pranks too.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:50

Raise your fucking standards.

Or just lighten the fuck up.

Not everything is serious. Not everything is bullying or abuse or nastiness. Sometimes people are just having a laugh.

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 17:50

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 17:17

There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

And a sense of humour bypass for others.

@CalzoneOnLegs I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the 'Coco the Clown' post hilarious!

I don’t think so… make the joke once, if you must, but if someone doesn’t find it funny then best not keep repeating ‘yabba dabba doo’ at them over and over. Even if you don’t care about other people’s feelings then it’s for the best to not look like an idiot.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 06/09/2025 17:50

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 17:49

I’m sure that there are plenty of women who have a laugh at some of their partners clothing choices from time to time too.

There have been numerous threads on here in the past where someone complaining about an article of their DH's clothing has been told to "accidentally" throw it away.

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 17:50

@TimClaypole read their post again, they did not say they were upset you are just being argumentative

KitsyWitsy · 06/09/2025 17:50

I have a dress that my family say makes me look like a waitress. I have to put up with being asked what the specials are, all the time!

It cost me $240 so I wear it a lot!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:49

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:47

Someone said they were upset by a comment their husband made. And a poster responded with laughing emojis. That is shitty behaviour.

My husband and I mock each other all the time affectionately and it wouldn’t bother us. But it bothered that poster and the emojis seemed inappropriate to me.

Anyway, I will leave it there. As I said, lack of emotional intelligence. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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It's an internet forum.

Stop taking it so seriously.

Notmyreality · 06/09/2025 17:49

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 06/09/2025 17:34

Urgh, I really hate it when men try to control what their wives wear via insulting anything they don’t approve of until it’s rejected in favour of clothing style they want their wife to be dressed in. Always done as jokes and banter, but it’s not far removed from just telling you that you aren’t allowed to wear that.

Wow, well that a load of bollocks. If my DH wears something awful, I’ll tell him and heaven forbid might make a joke about it. Similarly if I wear something he doesn’t like I would expect the same. We’re in an adult relationship where you can depend on your life partner to tell you when you look like an idiot. It’s called having each others back. It’s called being open and honest.

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:49

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 17:41

I'm surprised at some of these comments. Maybe it's just my sense of humour, but I really don't think that the 'joke' was funny the first time, let alone subsequent times. I wouldn't be especially offended by it, but I just wouldn't find it amusing. People on this site seem to find a lot of things 'hilarious' which I don't find even mildly amusing.

So true! People are often crying with laughter and snorting their tea out of their noses about something extremely banal.

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 17:49

I’m sure that there are plenty of women who have a laugh at some of their partners clothing choices from time to time too.

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:47

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:46

And others need to stop being so fucking uptight about everything.

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Someone said they were upset by a comment their husband made. And a poster responded with laughing emojis. That is shitty behaviour.

My husband and I mock each other all the time affectionately and it wouldn’t bother us. But it bothered that poster and the emojis seemed inappropriate to me.

Anyway, I will leave it there. As I said, lack of emotional intelligence. 🤷🏼‍♀️

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 06/09/2025 17:47

Mercurial123 · 06/09/2025 15:36

The more you give him a reaction he'll just carry on winding you up. Funny though.

That’s the advice you give someone dealing with bullying.

If the person you love “gives you a reaction” to your comment - ie is upset by what you said, what sort of person would continue to say it?!

“Ooh, don’t let him see he’s upset you, it’s normal to expect a man to enjoy upsetting his wife and so he’ll carry on being nasty to you for his own amusement.”

Raise your fucking standards.

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