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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 18:22

@CatAsstrophe they do love to show you a close up of their Banana Slice, it’s a sign of love ❤️ - apparently

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 18:20

diddl · 06/09/2025 18:14

What do people who do this (keep repeating a "put down" when asked not to) hope to achieve by it?

Do you really see a bit of piss-taking as a "put down"?

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 18:19

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 18:14

@CatAsstrophe
we are exonerated CatAss as ‘Coco Trousers Poster ‘ has just confirmed it was intended to be funny.

#Vindicated 😂

We're officially not psychos @CalzoneOnLegs

CatAss user name is due to my cat sticking her bum in my face - Every. Single. Day.

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 18:19

@thisoldcity it is 🤣 but ‘there’s always one’ as the saying goes

Not2identifying · 06/09/2025 18:18

OP, you are in good company. Prince William once named one of his wife's dresses 'the banana dress' but she wore it several times and looked great doing it. If you like the top, that's all that matters.

thisoldcity · 06/09/2025 18:18

@CatAsstropheone of the things that I love about my dh is that he still bothers to make me laugh by saying things like that! A shared slightly stupid sense of humour has got us through a lot 😂😂

thisoldcity · 06/09/2025 18:15

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 17:47

I don’t believe the poster said she was ‘upset’ or ‘hurt’ she said that she did not ‘feel the same’ about the Coco trousers after her husbands (funny) remark about Coco phoning in

@CatAsstrophe I think your username is funny too as it happens

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@CalzoneOnLegsit made me laugh a lot at the time, it wasn't hurtful at all. I thought this was a light-hearted thread 😂😂

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 18:15

thisoldcity · 06/09/2025 18:08

To be quite clear, my original post about my enormous clown trousers was meant to be funny!

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Thank you for posting this @thisoldcity

I'm glad you have a sense of humour 😃

I was crying with laughter at your post, which I read out to my DH. He thought it hilarious too and said that if he said that, it would have the opposite effect the comment had on you. I'd wear the trousers every week and call myself Coco!!

diddl · 06/09/2025 18:14

What do people who do this (keep repeating a "put down" when asked not to) hope to achieve by it?

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 18:14

@CatAsstrophe
we are exonerated CatAss as ‘Coco Trousers Poster ‘ has just confirmed it was intended to be funny.

alloutofcareunits · 06/09/2025 18:13

My DH once bought a tan coloured jumper, he also had some (only worn once) tan cord jeans. He (very stupidly) put them on together - he looked like a skinny Bungle from Rainbow, obviously I told him and we both fell about laughing, then he got changed 🤣

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 18:11

thisoldcity · 06/09/2025 18:08

To be quite clear, my original post about my enormous clown trousers was meant to be funny!

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Thank you so much for coming back and clearing that up, much appreciated, honestly

JNicholson · 06/09/2025 18:11

He’ll keep on saying it as long as you keep giving him a reaction. Just ignore him and wear what you want.

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 18:10

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:22

It’s only funny if the person who is the recipient of the joke also finds it funny. Otherwise it starts to become pretty unpleasant.

if my kids were mocking somebody about their clothing and the other person was getting upset, I would tell them to stop it, however ‘funny’ it was. It’s called being a decent person.

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The poster who posted about Coco the Clown trousers didn't mention being upset about the comment, nor did she express any distress within her post.

The comment about Coco the Clown, NOT Wilma/Betty/Barney was hilarious.

How, by me laughing in the privacy of my own home, and posting that a comment was hilarious, am I going to cause someone to be upset and/or where am I demonstrating that I'm laughing at someone being upset?

thisoldcity · 06/09/2025 18:08

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 06/09/2025 16:17

Because its funny😂

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To be quite clear, my original post about my enormous clown trousers was meant to be funny!

MyDeftHedgehog · 06/09/2025 18:07

Sorry OP but I'm finding this far funnier than it ought to be. My DH wants to know why Im laughing so much
Yabbadabba doooooo 😅

bugalugs45 · 06/09/2025 18:07

Just remembered my ‘ Dennis the menace ‘ top ,
red & black horizontal stripes , I thought I looked the bees knees & it was the 90s but my bf at the time affectionately named it the above , but I quite liked the reference 😂

mcmooberry · 06/09/2025 18:06

Tell him to Yabba Dabba Don't!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 18:05

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 18:04

It’s the repeating it multiple times. It would be fucking irritating. It’s not that it was a particularly amusing joke the first time around.

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Yep, and the best response to someone being irritating is to just ignore them.

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 18:04

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:57

If your husband joking about about you looking like a Flinstones character is genuinely upsetting you, I think there are bigger issues at play in your marriage, tbh.

One of the things that attracted me to DH is the fact that he can laugh at himself and doesn't take himself (or life) too seriously. I'm glad I don't have a marriage where you constantly have to check yourself in case you cause offence.

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It’s the repeating it multiple times. It would be fucking irritating. It’s not that it was a particularly amusing joke the first time around.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 18:03

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 06/09/2025 18:01

Did you read the post I was replying too? The poster was advising it was really important the OP didn’t give a reaction as he’d only do it more. That’s how you deal with bullies. The idea that you can’t let your DP see they have upset you as the obvious reaction of the man is to do it more is grim.

how low are your standards if that’s your advice?

the op should be able to let her DH know he’s upset her. His reaction to realising he’s upset her should be to be sorry.

The point isn’t if she’s right or wrong to be upset, if is upset she shouldn’t have to hide that from her husband of all people.

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Yes, I read the post.

Not everything in life has to be so bloody serious.

If you can't have a laugh with your partner and tell them they look a bit daft in something then, honestly, what's the point?

I never said she had to hide her upset either, my point was that it's not a good idea to take everything in life so seriously. Not all actions that cause upset are intentional or nasty.

butterpuffed · 06/09/2025 18:03

oviraptor21 · 06/09/2025 16:25

So when someone finds something funny they just ignore that someone else is upset about it? Nice 🙄

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I don't think OP is that upset or she wouldn't have added that her DH almost fell off the breakfast stool when he saw her in it 😅

viques · 06/09/2025 18:02

BotterMon · 06/09/2025 16:52

Team DH.

Is it this one? Only £2.2k. Maybe you should tell him it's Armani and you bought it in homage to the great man.

https://share.google/sWmdQwAbpZ2GyFXsS

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Oh dear! I would burst out with early Sonny and Cher tunes if I saw someone wearing that

“I was five and you were six we played on horses made of sticks….”

RIP Cher’s teeth. Unfortunately 😷too sad to show!

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 06/09/2025 18:01

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:50

Raise your fucking standards.

Or just lighten the fuck up.

Not everything is serious. Not everything is bullying or abuse or nastiness. Sometimes people are just having a laugh.

Did you read the post I was replying too? The poster was advising it was really important the OP didn’t give a reaction as he’d only do it more. That’s how you deal with bullies. The idea that you can’t let your DP see they have upset you as the obvious reaction of the man is to do it more is grim.

how low are your standards if that’s your advice?

the op should be able to let her DH know he’s upset her. His reaction to realising he’s upset her should be to be sorry.

The point isn’t if she’s right or wrong to be upset, if is upset she shouldn’t have to hide that from her husband of all people.

JockTamsonsBairns · 06/09/2025 17:58

Years ago, I bought a loungewear set from the White Company. It was in the sale, but still cost me an arm and a leg.

First time I wore it, DH said I looked like Elvis. It made me laugh, but didn't stop me wearing it.

For a few weeks, I had to suffer that Elvis impression - "Uh huh", but thankfully it wore off quickly.

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