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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 19:38

@TimClaypole don’t fret, Coco has been back to the thread and unequivocally confirmed that it was all in jest and at no time was she hurt or upset and that she found it funny and thought others may too, hence her post.

DareDevil223 · 06/09/2025 19:32

Wexone · 06/09/2025 18:57

God if I got offended every time my husband made a smart comment about what I wore I wouldn't wear anything at ll 🙈🤣 I wore a fab wide leg trousers and sleeveless top to work other day yes it was all black - are you going to a funeral he says ? I said well it's my day in the office so kinda is and laughed. today wearing a nice bright jumper - I should be working for the council 😩🤣 I just laugh it off

With such Wildean badinage on display, the hours must simply fly by at your house.

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 19:30

VIOLETPUGH · 06/09/2025 18:58

Sorry this has made my day, I would be laughing with him it is funny.

Sorry your day has been so dull!

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 06/09/2025 19:28

There’s someone at work who has a grey zip up Frank Bough cardigan. We wouldn’t say that to his face though.

Someone I used to work with had what we called the “he means business: Phil Mitchell’s black leather jacket”. He didn’t mind.

PiggyPigalle · 06/09/2025 19:27

JudgeBread · 06/09/2025 17:21

Why???

I mean you obviously like the coat so why are you letting one silly comment put you off ever wearing it again? Do you not think that's ludicrously oversensitive? Especially for a £200+ coat that's now just gathering dust.

I've got an oversized camel trench coat and whenever I wear it my husband calls me Gene Hunt. It hasn't stopped me wearing it because I still love the coat!

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If she thought it, so would others.

She got her comeuppance. Went to a Heroes fancy dress dress party, she chose instead of a character to make a Heroes box of chocolates from stiff card. The box that narrows at the bottom, had heroes wrappers stuck all over it.

Bus arrived and she couldn't lift her legs up the step. Imagine this mad purple box bobbing around.
Passengers had to lift her on to the bus.
Plonker!

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 19:27

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:49

It's an internet forum.

Stop taking it so seriously.

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I don’t think responding to somebody saying they were upset, with a laughing emoji is appropriate. I’m not going to change about my mind about that so don’t bother.

CeciliaDuckiePond · 06/09/2025 19:18

Betty and Wilma are animated as 'sexy wife' figures, I'd be quite flattered if someone said I looked like one of them!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 19:15

LeopardPants · 06/09/2025 19:13

Oh dear!! My mum had a long back coat years ago (down to her ankles) we used to call her the undertaker. She didn’t like that too much but we have one of those families where everyone suffers it 😄

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I'm sorry but this really made me laugh 😂

LeopardPants · 06/09/2025 19:13

PiggyPigalle · 06/09/2025 15:38

I bought two Tilda coats from Hobbs. A navy and a camel. I put on the camel one to have lunch with my daughter and she called me Del Boy.
It's never been out of my wardrobe since.

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Oh dear!! My mum had a long back coat years ago (down to her ankles) we used to call her the undertaker. She didn’t like that too much but we have one of those families where everyone suffers it 😄

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 19:12

@BexBissell oh yes that’s right ! he was standing round with hands in pockets looking ‘moody and serious ‘ in the semi darkness if IIRC

(Mum had a BexBissell it was duck egg blue, one of my earliest memories )

ETA sorry for your loss I just read your earlier post

FaintLemonLilac · 06/09/2025 19:11

I use to work with a girl who had a leather and fake fur jacket.

I called it her Planet of the Apes jacket, not to her face though.

It could have come from the set, it was really odd.

Wexone · 06/09/2025 19:11

BexBissell · 06/09/2025 19:03

He was actually a smashing man, who I lost to cancer far too early. He made me laugh every single day I was married to him. We both shared a daft sense of humour and I miss him dearly. If you think he was an idiot, he would laugh at you for being po-faced and humourless so 🤷‍♀️

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sorry about your husband- he sounds just like mine. he makes me laugh nearly every day 😆 good going for 20 years. we're irish so that helps and we have the crack. it makes life more bearable. he is also kind gentle very hardworking and would do anything for me.
so to answer @ihavealwayslivedinthecastle he most certainly isnt a twerp

DeeKitch · 06/09/2025 19:09

Call him Fred!!! X

Dutchhouse14 · 06/09/2025 19:07

To say it once OK, that could be funny, it keep repeating it isn't especially when you've told him not too.
I would wear it til he gets bored.
DH and DC called my lovely green puffer jacket my Brussel sprout coat. I ignore.

BexBissell · 06/09/2025 19:06

Wexone · 06/09/2025 19:04

I am not to me it's banter 🤣🤣🤣 I am not easily offensive

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I think that poster is looking to be offended on our behalf. Probably pops balloons at parties🎈

Wexone · 06/09/2025 19:04

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 06/09/2025 19:01

If my husband came out with inane remarks like that, I'd be embarrassed I'd picked such a twerp.

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I am not to me it's banter 🤣🤣🤣 I am not easily offensive

whitewineandsun · 06/09/2025 19:04

maxisback · 06/09/2025 18:52

I get that it isnt for you or I, but if OP is hurt by something and her partner continues to do it then it can become a LTB issue. There is no way I could be in a relationship with a man who did not respect me and chose to hurt me. What OP is hurt over isn’t really the problem here, it’s the man who continues to do it.

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But this is also true.

BexBissell · 06/09/2025 19:03

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 06/09/2025 18:58

If my husband said something like that, I'd think he's an idiot.

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He was actually a smashing man, who I lost to cancer far too early. He made me laugh every single day I was married to him. We both shared a daft sense of humour and I miss him dearly. If you think he was an idiot, he would laugh at you for being po-faced and humourless so 🤷‍♀️

whitewineandsun · 06/09/2025 19:02

BotterMon · 06/09/2025 16:52

Team DH.

Is it this one? Only £2.2k. Maybe you should tell him it's Armani and you bought it in homage to the great man.

https://share.google/sWmdQwAbpZ2GyFXsS

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If it's anything like this one, I'd be telling a partner what I thought tbh. Awful.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 06/09/2025 19:01

Wexone · 06/09/2025 18:57

God if I got offended every time my husband made a smart comment about what I wore I wouldn't wear anything at ll 🙈🤣 I wore a fab wide leg trousers and sleeveless top to work other day yes it was all black - are you going to a funeral he says ? I said well it's my day in the office so kinda is and laughed. today wearing a nice bright jumper - I should be working for the council 😩🤣 I just laugh it off

If my husband came out with inane remarks like that, I'd be embarrassed I'd picked such a twerp.

SpidersAreShitheads · 06/09/2025 19:01

I would love to see the top, I bet it's really funky!!

I can't imagine how a fluffy top would look with a cardigan as well though - was the cardigan fluffy too?

I love a fluffy top OP, I'm sure you look great!

ScruffMuffin · 06/09/2025 19:00

I haven't RTFT, but am confused as to why anyone would want a top that is both sleeveless and fluffy. I wouldn't know whether I felt hot or cold!

But your husband is being annoying.

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 19:00

VIOLETPUGH · 06/09/2025 18:58

Sorry this has made my day, I would be laughing with him it is funny.

You are very easily pleased if this has 'made your day'. Good lord. It just isn't that funny.

BexBissell · 06/09/2025 18:59

bumblebramble · 06/09/2025 18:31

Sympathy op. I’m also married to a man with zero sense of style.

Years ago when trench coats made a come back I thought I was channelling the Parisian Chic vibe until my dh told me I looked like Columbo.

I bought a nice full length Mac for the school walk in winter.I was referred to as Midge Ure ( from the Vienna video)

VIOLETPUGH · 06/09/2025 18:58

Sorry this has made my day, I would be laughing with him it is funny.

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