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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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Bloozie · 07/09/2025 00:19

I mean. She’s the origin of hot women being described as a Betty in Wayne’s World. Sch-wing!

It’s juvenile and probably very annoying but also. Worse things to be called.

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 00:00

JudgeBread · 06/09/2025 23:31

I mean if your idea of stylish is a sleeveless black fluffy top I think you're proving your own point a bit.

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You clearly have zero sense of style or trends.

LetsTryAgainNowThen · 06/09/2025 23:50

I have a hat that I really like, but DH keeps saying I look like Jeremy Corbyn in it. One "joke" I could tolerate, but I've repeatedly had to ask him to stop and it's spoiling my enjoyment of wearing it. It's really annoying.

If he keeps saying it after you've asked him to stop, yanbu.

Slebs · 06/09/2025 23:42

My DH told me he really loved a jumper of mine. Because it reminded him of Brian Clough.

And that's just one of many examples.

I think it's funny and it doesn't stop me wearing the clothes. DH only wears jeans and black/navy/grey t-shirts, so anything other than that needs some sort of classification to help him compute.

JudgeBread · 06/09/2025 23:34

PiggyPigalle · 06/09/2025 19:27

If she thought it, so would others.

She got her comeuppance. Went to a Heroes fancy dress dress party, she chose instead of a character to make a Heroes box of chocolates from stiff card. The box that narrows at the bottom, had heroes wrappers stuck all over it.

Bus arrived and she couldn't lift her legs up the step. Imagine this mad purple box bobbing around.
Passengers had to lift her on to the bus.
Plonker!

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Ok but who fucking cares if other people don't like your coat?

Also it's a bit rich of you to mock your daughter struggling to get on a bus, while also saying that her mocking you was enough to ruin a perfectly fine coat for you. Evidently the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree!

JudgeBread · 06/09/2025 23:31

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 17:44

You clearly have a boring sense of style, like most on here tbh. I don't think that most people on here are all that stylish.

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I mean if your idea of stylish is a sleeveless black fluffy top I think you're proving your own point a bit.

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 23:16

RamsaySnowsSausage · 06/09/2025 21:16

I was wearing a turtle neck and was telling DS11 to hurry up and get ready and he said 'ok, relax Steve Jobs'.

Hilarious. I think the PPs with no sense of humour probably don’t have sons.

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 23:12

TheGetAlongGang · 06/09/2025 20:38

I once bought a pale pink dress with cream spots

Dp told me I looked like Mr blobbys nan

I laughed but if he'd upset me he would have been mortified

He gives me an honest opinion if I ask for it (and annoyingly,he's always right) but if he strayed into bullying/i got upset,he would say sorry and do everything he could to make it right again

Betty rubble is sexy,his bullying isn't

Ive read you say this on another thread and was trying to remember it, thanks for the reminder, it cracked me up all over again.

MrsJeanLuc · 06/09/2025 23:05

Mercurial123 · 06/09/2025 15:36

The more you give him a reaction he'll just carry on winding you up. Funny though.

This is advice for dealing with school bullies.

That behaviour is not acceptable from your husband.

OP you should "accidentally" spill something hot, or sticky, on him every time he says it.

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 23:04

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 06/09/2025 19:28

There’s someone at work who has a grey zip up Frank Bough cardigan. We wouldn’t say that to his face though.

Someone I used to work with had what we called the “he means business: Phil Mitchell’s black leather jacket”. He didn’t mind.

I had to look up FB cardigan- yikes! Also did you know there’s a band called Frank Boughs Cardigan that came up?

Maray1967 · 06/09/2025 22:57

HelpMeGetThrough · 06/09/2025 16:09

Dark green is Boycie.

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Love it!! Boycie I am then!

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 22:53

Toooldtopretend · 06/09/2025 18:23

I have a pleated leather look skirt and my OH rasps “Hey Batman” anytime I wear it. It’s funny.

Doesn’t he mean
Father to a murdered son, husband to a murdered wife…

JustChillin70 · 06/09/2025 22:51

Got to admit I did actually laugh out loud reading the OP

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 22:50

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 22:15

Laughing is good for the soul. So is switching on your imagination. You should try it. It might help you lighten up.

Have a nice life 😁

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Oh, I laugh plenty. Just not at such simple 'jokes'. I

SoManyIdiotsSoLittleWine · 06/09/2025 22:46

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 22:24

My thoughts exactly re: hard work.

Life can be hard enough without creating more drama/offence/hurt feelings etc out of virtually nothing.

Some people need to get the stick out of their ass!

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I think a lot of the comments on here are funny, but what I wouldn’t think is funny if they just kept saying it over and over again. It’s like, it’s witty when you come out with the first time but when you keep saying it, it’s just annoying. And kind of cringey.

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 22:43

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 06/09/2025 17:50

There have been numerous threads on here in the past where someone complaining about an article of their DH's clothing has been told to "accidentally" throw it away.

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Wasn’t that the old sheepskin jacket or lumber jacket he’d been wearing for years?

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 22:34

jonthebatiste · 06/09/2025 16:46

The number of times I’ve thought “Suzi Quattro’s Nan” and “fat matchstick” to myself when trying on inappropriate clothes! These two comments have been amongst my most major takeaways from MN over the years.

I get it, some people find this sort of thing funny, others find them insulting. If your DH insists on ribbing you after you’ve told him the comments hurt you, that’s not on. He’s basically taking joy out of hurting you, which is sadism. But if you’re just a bit put out or a bit offended/insulted, just give as good as you get. And be aware that there may be other people out there who will reach the same conclusion as him (if you care)!

Oh yes suzie quatros fat nan is one of my faves but now I’m adding one hundred and eighteeee and come on Eileen.

Gremlins101 · 06/09/2025 22:26

My husband insisted I looked like lord farquart from Shrek after my last haircut. I wouldn't pay your husband much notice.

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 22:24

Toooldtopretend · 06/09/2025 21:54

I think it’s more because of the swooshing noise when I walk and the general overall look. Regardless it’s a bit of banter and I can’t believe the comments on this thread turning things into something they aren’t. There must be some seriously hard work houses/relationships out there!

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My thoughts exactly re: hard work.

Life can be hard enough without creating more drama/offence/hurt feelings etc out of virtually nothing.

Some people need to get the stick out of their ass!

MolluscMonday · 06/09/2025 22:23

“Pack it in Steve. You’ve got a tiny penis but I don’t make jokes about acorns every time you enter a room, do I?”

Wexone · 06/09/2025 22:22

Leedssdeel · 06/09/2025 20:20

I wouldn’t worry. My DH takes the mick out of me every time I wear my Birkenstock dupe sandals - he calls them my 2000BC’s 🤣

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I had a friend when we were younger and going out clubbing would wear the bircks arizona all the time - she became known as the girl who always wore the Jesus sandals 🙈🙈🙈🙈🤣🤣🤣

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 22:15

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 21:51

That you are exceptionally easily amused. I'm envious, in a way. It must be quite nice to be able to laugh (to the point of crying) at such simple, anodyne humour.

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Laughing is good for the soul. So is switching on your imagination. You should try it. It might help you lighten up.

Have a nice life 😁

Toooldtopretend · 06/09/2025 21:54

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 18:27

I’d have thought more of a Roman Soldier 🤣 does Batman wear a skirt ? 🤣

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I think it’s more because of the swooshing noise when I walk and the general overall look. Regardless it’s a bit of banter and I can’t believe the comments on this thread turning things into something they aren’t. There must be some seriously hard work houses/relationships out there!

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 21:51

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 21:41

Yes. And your point is?

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That you are exceptionally easily amused. I'm envious, in a way. It must be quite nice to be able to laugh (to the point of crying) at such simple, anodyne humour.

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 21:41

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 21:10

You were 'crying with laughter'?

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Yes. And your point is?

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