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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:46

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 10:44

I guess I just don't see it as "pointing and laughing" to have a joke with your partner and tell them they look a bit daft in a certain outfit.

I do think keeping on with it can be a bit tiring - but this thread is clearly divided between people who think this is nasty, bullying behaviour and those of us who see it in a bit more of a light-hearted way.

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Personally, I don't really fall into either camp. I don't necessarily think it's 'bullying'. I just think it's a bit simple minded. I couldn't be with someone with such a basic sense of humour.

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:44

IsItWickedNotToCare · 07/09/2025 10:41

My husband thinks it's hilarious to say 'hallo, sailor' every time I wear a stripy top. I just ignore him 🙄

That sounds tedious. Not that funny the first time, let alone the nth time. I'm really glad that my DH appreciates style and fashion, even though he isn't into clothes himself.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 10:44

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:38

No...but personally speaking, I think pointing and laughing at other people's clothes is in poor taste to begin with, never mind keeping on with it.

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I guess I just don't see it as "pointing and laughing" to have a joke with your partner and tell them they look a bit daft in a certain outfit.

I do think keeping on with it can be a bit tiring - but this thread is clearly divided between people who think this is nasty, bullying behaviour and those of us who see it in a bit more of a light-hearted way.

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:42

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:27

Tbh, I'm baffled as to why so many posters have found this hilarious too.
That's not a superior intellect grab (believe me) it's just not that funny. 🤷‍♀️

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Exactly. The poster's son who said 'OK Steve Jobs' was quite funny, I thought. It was a quick, throwaway remark which gave me a brief chuckle (although not to the extent that I 'spluttered my tea' or did any of the hyperbolic reactions of most mumsnetters) However, the Betty Rubble and Coco Clown comments were just a bit dumb, especially after they'd been repeated ad nasueam.

IsItWickedNotToCare · 07/09/2025 10:41

My husband thinks it's hilarious to say 'hallo, sailor' every time I wear a stripy top. I just ignore him 🙄

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:38

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 10:34

Surely you can't find it that "baffling" that different people find different things funny?

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No...but personally speaking, I think pointing and laughing at other people's clothes is in poor taste to begin with, never mind keeping on with it.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 10:34

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:27

Tbh, I'm baffled as to why so many posters have found this hilarious too.
That's not a superior intellect grab (believe me) it's just not that funny. 🤷‍♀️

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Surely you can't find it that "baffling" that different people find different things funny?

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 10:33

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 07:54

Does it really matter what the top looks like? I swear people on here have the maturity of eight year olds (that's me being generous!)

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Yes, heaven forbid people have a bit of fun and don't act like stuck up bores the entire time.

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:27

Tbh, I'm baffled as to why so many posters have found this hilarious too.
That's not a superior intellect grab (believe me) it's just not that funny. 🤷‍♀️

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:25

CalzoneOnLegs · 07/09/2025 10:06

if this thread, is not stimulating enough for your superior intellect ( which is the impression you are attempting to make quite frankly) then why bother to read it and post snippy little remarks ? Just move on/ignore

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It's a public thread and I'll post as I please. People seem to feel free to call out the OP and tell her she is being pathetic, so why shouldn't I offer my opinion as well? Which is that the level of humour of many posters is fairly infantile.

CalzoneOnLegs · 07/09/2025 10:06

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 07:54

Does it really matter what the top looks like? I swear people on here have the maturity of eight year olds (that's me being generous!)

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if this thread, is not stimulating enough for your superior intellect ( which is the impression you are attempting to make quite frankly) then why bother to read it and post snippy little remarks ? Just move on/ignore

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 09:10

There's nothing amiss about a bit of piss-taking if everyone's on board and enjoying the banter. We do it in our house...our family mealtimes can be quite raucous.

When the subject makes it clear they're hurt or embarrassed and you keep going...YOU are the problem.

TheGetAlongGang · 07/09/2025 08:58

Hellohelga · 06/09/2025 23:12

Ive read you say this on another thread and was trying to remember it, thanks for the reminder, it cracked me up all over again.

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Hahaha

I was once hoovering up while wearing a skirt and high-ish heels and he told me I looked like Freddie mercury in the 'I want to break free' video

'With that skirt,heels and your tash love,your a dead ringer for him!'

Thisismetooaswell · 07/09/2025 08:03

I honestly can't believe the things some people get upset about

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 07:54

d317 · 07/09/2025 03:02

Still haven’t seen a photo of the fluffy top 😕

Does it really matter what the top looks like? I swear people on here have the maturity of eight year olds (that's me being generous!)

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 07:52

Phatgurslyms · 07/09/2025 01:00

Come on, the coco the clown post is hilarious! I am trying to picture the trousers that elicited such a comment and it cracks me up.

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No, it really isn't 'hilarious' unless you are very easily amused.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 07/09/2025 05:59

I bet that @BykeP‘s DH is slopping around in jeans or joggers, or the shorts version.

JustReal · 07/09/2025 05:41

Funny to me but that is mostly because I don't care what my dh says about clothes, to a large degree, and I have an unsinkable sense of humour when it's self-deprecating.

SomewhatAnnoyed · 07/09/2025 05:08

BykeP · 06/09/2025 14:41

He originally started with Wilma then said he didn’t particularly like the character so decided I was Betty instead.

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So the next time he wants sex, ask him if he finds Barney Rubble sexy. If he says no, ask why he’d want sex with you then. (He wasn’t comparing you to Betty, he just preferred the name if he tries any of that shit). Tell him it’s the last you want to hear about it or you’ll assume he fancies short, blonde cavemen. Then start taking the piss out of him for that. Be interesting to see how he funny it is then.

d317 · 07/09/2025 03:02

Still haven’t seen a photo of the fluffy top 😕

Icebreakhell · 07/09/2025 01:14

Crumbs, we are a family of piss taking bastards. My poor aunt and mum were so pleased with their matching leather jackets and then my cousin shouted Chas and Dave.

My aunt was He-Man and Richard III with various fringes.

Years ago I bought a cap and DH named me Jodie Marsh. Went straight to charity shop. He put on a bit of weight and his short sleeved top looked tight- Eric Bristow. He spent hundreds of £ on some glasses that darken in bright sunlight- Cliff Richard.

user1492757084 · 07/09/2025 01:10

Well, you have to remember the rest of the lyrics and sing with full gusto, Op.
Does DH have a stubble line?

Phatgurslyms · 07/09/2025 01:00

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 22:50

Oh, I laugh plenty. Just not at such simple 'jokes'. I

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Come on, the coco the clown post is hilarious! I am trying to picture the trousers that elicited such a comment and it cracks me up.

MsAmerica · 07/09/2025 00:56

I can see where his reaction would be annoying, but to call it "hurtful" seems to me another example of the melodramatic overreaction I often see here. A sensible reaction would be to play along.

Phatgurslyms · 07/09/2025 00:54

GeorgeClooneyshouldhavemarriedme · 06/09/2025 14:03

Hands up everyone who just googled Betty Rubble!

Only the young ones. You really missed out. It was a beautiful tv show. Loved it.

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