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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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RobertJohnsonsShoes · 07/09/2025 19:20

My mam had a kinda greeny browny matching suit/skirt thing which we teased her for and called it the cow pat suit.

Marieb19 · 07/09/2025 19:20

Saying something insulting but vaguely funny once is acceptable. To keep repeating it, to deliberately hurt your feelings is not. Ask him why he continues to this? If he continues and values his less than mediocre witisism more than your feelings then you have a real problem. People get upset by different things and the person you share your life with, should respect that and try not to hurt you.

Sortalike · 07/09/2025 19:08

My friends dad was captain of the local golf club and all captains get a red jacket with black lapels to wear at their dinner parties etc.

First time he wore it she said "alright Pa, what time are Showaddywaddy on?"

Packetofcrispsplease · 07/09/2025 18:42

Oh my god ..he needs to shut up as it’s annoying you.
I got a new casual top a few years back
Husband “ oh you look like a mannequin “
Me “ oh thank you, but I think I’m several inches too short and about 30 years too old to be any kind of model “
Him “ erm I meant one of those clown things “
me “ ???? “
him “ you know with too many colours on their clothes and like a diamond pattern “
me “ I think you might mean a harlequin “ 🙄
The top went to the charity shop 🤣

GlitteryRainbow · 07/09/2025 18:39

Go Betty Rubble and hit him with a large rock. See how he likes it.

FattyMallow · 07/09/2025 18:35

Difficult to decide without a pic of that top. Come back with: Betty Rubble's hubby should know... And BTW sex is only for Betty's husband and not anyone else.

Let's see how well Yabba Dabba Do this one.

Chinsupmeloves · 07/09/2025 18:24

There have been many times I've loved a new outfit and DH and DH has not been complimentary.

Give it a go and see if anyone else thinks the same lol 😆

wasdarknowblond · 07/09/2025 18:15

My husband said I looked like I was in the military, just because I wore a top with buttoned down breast pockets. Men can be arses when it comes to fashion.

CatAsstrophe · 07/09/2025 18:12

GlastoNinja · 07/09/2025 17:31

Why the need to be so unpleasant to people?

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I agree.

Imagine dealing with that IRL 🙄

Plutotheplanet · 07/09/2025 18:11

This made me giggle. Before I really knew DH he called me Betty Rubble. We were on a degree course together and I was wearing a blue leopard print mini dress. Other lads on the course laughed, but called him mean. But I found it funny. When we later started dating, his defence was 'she was the hot one'.

Sorry Op, I can imagine if he keeps laughing it would be annoying. If you like the top, just ignore him, he'll soon get bored.

Trishyb10 · 07/09/2025 17:46

Folk dying in the world and u stressed about a top……

GlastoNinja · 07/09/2025 17:31

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 22:50

Oh, I laugh plenty. Just not at such simple 'jokes'. I

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Why the need to be so unpleasant to people?

SeraphinaValentina · 07/09/2025 16:51

I bought a lovely Mach green dress with small multicoloured stars all over - my DH and teenage daughters decided I looked like a Christmas tree🎄! I now only wear it in December 😂

mummybear35 · 07/09/2025 15:57

He feeds off your reaction, so don’t react 🤷🏻‍♀️ you like your top, what does it matter what he thinks?

DogMa73 · 07/09/2025 15:19

Betty was a sexpot. Ignore him and his lack of fashion knowledge and comedy skills.
I usually find a ‘yeah whatever, Grandad’ response puts them in their place !

diddl · 07/09/2025 14:06

It's fine to have a laugh. However, I don't see the OP's husband's joke as funny.

Me neither & more to the point neither does Op.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 11:11

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 11:07

It's fine to have a laugh. However, I don't see the OP's husband's joke as funny.

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Great. Other people do.

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 11:07

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 11:00

I think sometimes it's fine to laugh at the silly things. It makes it easier to deal with the big things if you can laugh at the stuff that doesn't matter, IMO.

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It's fine to have a laugh. However, I don't see the OP's husband's joke as funny.

Hairshare · 07/09/2025 11:04

It must be tedious and irritating for DH to keep repeating this 'joke'. I wouldn't like it. Don't think it's LTB territory though.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/09/2025 11:00

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:46

Personally, I don't really fall into either camp. I don't necessarily think it's 'bullying'. I just think it's a bit simple minded. I couldn't be with someone with such a basic sense of humour.

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I think sometimes it's fine to laugh at the silly things. It makes it easier to deal with the big things if you can laugh at the stuff that doesn't matter, IMO.

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:58

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:49

Agree with this as well.
It's basic, that's all.

Eta: Am genuinely surprised it was so lauded on mumsnet.

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I'm not all that surprised. A lot of people on this site are very, very easily amused. I remember a thread a few months ago where someone posted because their friend had expected them to pay for a takeaway because said friend didn't fancy what they were cooking. The poster autocorrected the 'spaghetti carbonara' which she'd been planning to serve with 'spaghetti in a tyre'. People would.not.let.it.go. It was pointless reading the rest of the thread because people were too busy 'falling over laughing' at the 'hilarious' typo. I genuinely wouldn't have laughed so much at a simple mistake when I was a child of seven.

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:52

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:48

Honestly, I'm on the fence on this issue because I liked the 'Steve Jobs' comment too. That was witty and well-placed and not laboured. Funny is funny.

Labouring the point because you enjoy seeing your subject squirm is shitty.

You're spot on! It was just spontaneous and witty and not laboured.

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:49

AliceMaforethought · 07/09/2025 10:46

Personally, I don't really fall into either camp. I don't necessarily think it's 'bullying'. I just think it's a bit simple minded. I couldn't be with someone with such a basic sense of humour.

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Agree with this as well.
It's basic, that's all.

Eta: Am genuinely surprised it was so lauded on mumsnet.

pictoosh · 07/09/2025 10:48

Honestly, I'm on the fence on this issue because I liked the 'Steve Jobs' comment too. That was witty and well-placed and not laboured. Funny is funny.

Labouring the point because you enjoy seeing your subject squirm is shitty.

AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 07/09/2025 10:47

My DH bought a new pair of shoes for a wedding and I nearly died laughing because he looked like Neil Patrick Harris Olaf in a series of unfortunate events and my sister said they looked like the shoes Simon swapped with homeless man in the inbetweeners

we all laughed heartily

my DH looked very handsome when he had the whole attire on though and humour is a huge part of our marriage

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