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Upset about new top

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BykeP · 06/09/2025 13:57

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

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CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 17:47

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:09

There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

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I don’t believe the poster said she was ‘upset’ or ‘hurt’ she said that she did not ‘feel the same’ about the Coco trousers after her husbands (funny) remark about Coco phoning in

@CatAsstrophe I think your username is funny too as it happens

ThatCyanCat · 06/09/2025 17:46

I had a boyfriend once who said shitty things about what I wore. I didn't care and carried on wearing them, but we both married other people.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/09/2025 17:46

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:09

There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

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And others need to stop being so fucking uptight about everything.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 06/09/2025 17:45

I all seriousness it would annoy me. I have a beautiful A line black and white striped skirt. Dh screams “skunk” or sometimes “badger” if I wear it. Hence I’ve only worn it a few times as it puts me off it.

Notmyreality · 06/09/2025 17:45

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:09

There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

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There’s a real lack of a sense of humour in others also.

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 17:44

BeltaLodaLife · 06/09/2025 17:41

A sleeveless black fluffy top? It doesn’t sound great…

You clearly have a boring sense of style, like most on here tbh. I don't think that most people on here are all that stylish.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 06/09/2025 17:43

Betty Rubble wore a blue dress. Wtf is he on about?

AliceMaforethought · 06/09/2025 17:41

I'm surprised at some of these comments. Maybe it's just my sense of humour, but I really don't think that the 'joke' was funny the first time, let alone subsequent times. I wouldn't be especially offended by it, but I just wouldn't find it amusing. People on this site seem to find a lot of things 'hilarious' which I don't find even mildly amusing.

BeltaLodaLife · 06/09/2025 17:41

A sleeveless black fluffy top? It doesn’t sound great…

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 06/09/2025 17:34

Urgh, I really hate it when men try to control what their wives wear via insulting anything they don’t approve of until it’s rejected in favour of clothing style they want their wife to be dressed in. Always done as jokes and banter, but it’s not far removed from just telling you that you aren’t allowed to wear that.

BettyRubblecausestrouble · 06/09/2025 17:32

Betty Rubble rocks!
take it as a compliment

hereismydog · 06/09/2025 17:31

I’m struggling to imagine such a garment! Please can we see it?!

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:22

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 17:17

There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

And a sense of humour bypass for others.

@CalzoneOnLegs I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the 'Coco the Clown' post hilarious!

It’s only funny if the person who is the recipient of the joke also finds it funny. Otherwise it starts to become pretty unpleasant.

if my kids were mocking somebody about their clothing and the other person was getting upset, I would tell them to stop it, however ‘funny’ it was. It’s called being a decent person.

JudgeBread · 06/09/2025 17:21

PiggyPigalle · 06/09/2025 15:38

I bought two Tilda coats from Hobbs. A navy and a camel. I put on the camel one to have lunch with my daughter and she called me Del Boy.
It's never been out of my wardrobe since.

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Why???

I mean you obviously like the coat so why are you letting one silly comment put you off ever wearing it again? Do you not think that's ludicrously oversensitive? Especially for a £200+ coat that's now just gathering dust.

I've got an oversized camel trench coat and whenever I wear it my husband calls me Gene Hunt. It hasn't stopped me wearing it because I still love the coat!

HelenaWaiting · 06/09/2025 17:19

I had a pink onesie. Whenever I wore it I was "Six Foot Baby". He ran and ran with it. Six Foot Baby became a crime fighting superhero. He even made up a theme tune.

CatAsstrophe · 06/09/2025 17:17

There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

And a sense of humour bypass for others.

@CalzoneOnLegs I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the 'Coco the Clown' post hilarious!

Vitriolinsanity · 06/09/2025 17:16

I had a fluffy top. I’m also tall and gangly so I looked like a tarantula

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 06/09/2025 17:15

BykeP · 06/09/2025 14:45

Yes you’re right but he thought it was inappropriate to call me Barney! It was fine first thing as I was wearing a cardigan so he assumed it had sleeves but when I removed my cardigan he almost fell off the stool at the breakfast bar as clearly I represent one of the Flintstones.

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If he almost fell off the stool at the breakfast bar at the sight of a fluffy armless garment, he is clearly not up to the rigours of Stone Age life, even a cartoon version. Send him out to get some stegosaurus ribs for the barbecue to prove he is deserving of Betty.

Gladysknightjustwalkinmyshoes · 06/09/2025 17:13

CalzoneOnLegs · 06/09/2025 14:01

Betty rubble wears a blue dress though

And for a cartoon.. gorgeous 😍 🤣🤣

ChatOff · 06/09/2025 17:13

Once or twice maybe but beyond that is what my Dad has always called, "milking a joke"... and that's from a man who commented when I was wearing something similar "Come on in love, can I get your top a drink?"

Onlythecrumbliest · 06/09/2025 17:10

OP your top sounds cute!

TimClaypole · 06/09/2025 17:09

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 06/09/2025 16:17

Because its funny😂

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There is a real lack of emotional intelligence with some posters here.

PatienceOfEngels · 06/09/2025 17:08

I have a pair of cropped wide legged tan cords I love and every time DH sees me in them he says 'Aargh!' because he thinks they make me look like a pirate.

abracadabra1980 · 06/09/2025 17:03

Oh god I’d love to have a DP with that kind of humour! Who cares what he thinks - you’re an adult - lighten up!

Anyahyacinth · 06/09/2025 17:02

BotterMon · 06/09/2025 16:52

Team DH.

Is it this one? Only £2.2k. Maybe you should tell him it's Armani and you bought it in homage to the great man.

https://share.google/sWmdQwAbpZ2GyFXsS

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Fabulous 🤣♥️