People just turning up at house

I think the world is divided in to "poppers in" and people who wouldn't dream of popping in unless invited or they had called ahead to check it's convenient. I am firmly in the latter camp so I get you.

I remember this led to misunderstanding between PIL and ex-SIL. MIL had had a difficult relationship with her own, overbearing MIL, and recalled occasions when her MIL had unexpectedly popped in with all her friends when she was a new mother and found her with an untidy house and buckets of nappies soaking. Consequently she always vowed she would never be that sort of MIL herself and she and FIL always pre-arranged visits.

BIL and SIL lived about 2 miles away in the same town. SILs family all lived within a few streets of each other and were very much poppers in on a daily basis. Hence SIL thought PILs very standoffish for calling ahead, whereas they thought they were being considerate!

Because it’s twee and annoying

Yanbu. I'd be pissed off too.

I can honestly say I have NEVER turned up at anyones house unannounced. Even in the days before mobile phones. Social arrangements were made in advance by phone or letter.

If someone calls without an arrangement they are saying that their time is more important than mine and it doesnt matter how inconvenient it is to me. They are, quite literally. stealing my time.

I don't know where you are, but it's not normal for any of the people I know, in any of their various countries they live in 😂

People in the real world don't live like this...
people in the real world have lives, and others are not that rude they assume everyone will drop everything to host randomly.

@Canipetthatdawg78 "like a goblin" I LOVE that!

My grndmother divided the world into those whom she "knew socially" and others. Those whom she knew socially might be invited in but the "others" would never have got past her door unless it was to scrub the floor or fold the laundry. She also had an excellent way of getting rid of visitors who had (in her eyes) outstayed their welcome. She had a clock which loudly produced Westminster chimes on the hour and half hour. She would look up in fake surprise when it struck and exclaim "Godness, is tha the time? Well I must get on. Thank you for your visit. I will see you out/fetch your coat." No one ever argued with my grandmother. She was only 5 ft 4 ins but a very formidable lady.

Nowadays I use my cctv and ring doorbell to ensure that I only open to those I am expecting, unless they are holding a parcel to be delivered. If Im not expecting you and you are not a courier I usually dont acknowledge you.

Wish people would do this more really - so as it’s good intentions and just to be friendly

It's completely normal for people to turn up unannounced... What does it matter what state you or the house is in?

Only on here do people say you need to book an appointment to visit. People in the real world don't live like this...

You must be very welcoming in general, because no one I know would dare doing this even to their closest family.

It's beyond weird to just walk in someone's house.

They are rude and inconsiderate, and yes, at least lock the door. I can't stand people who just "pop in", they might have a boring life and nothing to do, but the rest of us are busy!

Let's not even go into the posters falling over themselves to explain that 5am is so LAAAAATE in the morning and they have been up for hours 😂(good for you Linda, I have a life, some of us go out and don't go to bed at 5pm every evening)

Strange person upthread.

OP, I don't like people unannounced except for brother and SIL. I keep my door locked unless gardening out front.

I never lock my door either OP. We live rural with a few houses around. PIL used to have form for this when we lived in caravan type place temporarily. They did text us to say they were coming ( in 15mins) but there was no 'is it OK'. DP was at work and I tried to run out the other side of the caravan park cause I really wasn't feeling up for visitors. MiL didn't have the number if our caravan however she knocked on ppls doors and showed a picture of us until she got directed to right caravan and then loads of my neighbours and the site managment all called me to say there was someone looking for me!!! So i had to come back!! MIL was soo persistent!
at the same place FiL also turned up on the day we were ment to move out ( with no warning) wanting to take us out for a pub meal he had booked!! Dp went for the meal while I did all the moving ( had hired a van) it me 5 yrs to forgive him! I have no idea if he ever realised his faux par!!
Thank full they have both realised that they need to give us notice now

I hope you didn't jump up and start catering to them, OP.
If people turn up uninvited to our house they've got to take us as they find us.

YABVU for using the expression ‘my own little family’

What an odd thing to say.

Think yourself lucky you have some guests. There's alot of lonely people out there. They would swap with you in an instant.

Can‘t stand this!

And they never show up when the house has just been cleaned and tidied, do they?!

Our door locks automatically so never need to worry about things like this!

I would absolutely hate for people to just be able to walk in, I'd never be able to relax.

Even if I've been invited to visit someone or am expected, it is very rare that I would just try the door without knocking and waiting. The only time that happens is at big family gatherings where there are clearly already people visiting and making someone come to answer the door would be inconvenient (and rude in its own way).

I think just dropping by is much less common in my circle these days then it was when I was a child (and back then, I still don't think most people appreciated random callers without warning). Today it is so easy to quickly text someone beforehand that there's really no excuse not to. I wonder if people who don't are just lazy or if it's a selfish, calculated measure to avoid being told that it's a bad time.

The bigger issue is knocking and walking in. Keep the door locked so they can’t do that (or anyone else).

I think it’s actually quite rude to turn up at someone’s home without warning, or even asking, first. I hate it happening to me, usually because I’m in my PJs, scruffy clothes or my hair is a state, the house is messy etc, so I would never do the same to others.