People just turning up at house

I have a friend who does this. The worst was Christmas Eve when I was knee deep in pastry and prep when she turns up, plonks herself down asks for an cuppa (made in a very specific way) and talks constantly (about herself and what she’s doing). It’s so off putting I have to stop baking which meant that I had to finish it after she had left. We had planned to curl up together and watch some TV together as a family. She lives on her own and doesn’t have children.

Why? It is her own little family.

No, it isn't an invitation. 🤣

No, it isn't.
Lots of Scottish folk value their space and privacy too.

Keep the front door locked.
Don't answer if you don't want to.
If they call/text from outside - 'oh gosh, sorry, if you'd let us know you were planning a visit then I'd have let you know that this isn't a good time. Let's arrange something soon though.
MN will call me crazy, I call it protecting my space and well being.

In Scotland it’s a cultural thing to just turn up. I grew up in England and it’s the one thing about Scotland that I really don’t like. My sisters in law are lovely lovely people but they turn up randomly all the time and I hate it! I like to be prepared for guests.

We pretty much never lock our doors during the day either, it's nice to live somewhere nice where you don't have to, and tbh I don't want to start just because our neighbour lets herself in sometimes.

Next time say "I'm feeling sick, don't want to pass it to you! I'll ring you when I'm feeling better and sort out you visiting"
Then when you next speak to them throw in something about checking if you're up for a visit and available in future.

I think it is the height of rudeness to turn up unannounced unless you know for certain that you have an open invitation to do so or it is an emergency.

Themselves! They just walked in!!!

OP seems to be the only person in the country with a front door which doesn't lock when you close it. She already explained up thread that apparently she goes in and out the front door all the time so doesn't lock it! 😕

It's sad the days of just turning up because you're nearby, want to etc have gone.

However guess I do agree that a bit of warning helps but I'm still always delighted if someone pops round unexpectedly. These are of course dear ones who don't care what I look like and if I'm going to have a shower while there no problem.

YANBU I'd be really pissed off about that too, it's really bad manners and inconsiderate.
I would have just parked them in the lounge and gone upstairs for a shower, or said , can you come back later as it's not convenient at the moment and left them to it.
That would really grind my gears tbh.

YANBU. My sil comes round always unannounced and walks straight it. I am often in the bath or asleep it pisses me right off. I have literally been inside her house once!!

Who let them in?

Oh jeez, I sympathised anyway but that's just increased tenfold. We've got a neighbour who does this and it pisses me right off. Walks in, quite often when we're slap bang in the middle of dinner/kids' bedtime, launches into the detail of whatever stupid problem she's managed to get into today and which for some reason she needs our help to get out of, totally oblivious to the luminously obvious fact that we're having a bit of family time. She's generally really nice and is great with our kids but Christ this does annoy me.

I like family and friends coming by…but I do like some sort of heads up. A quick call or text, at least give me 10 mins to put some pants on or pick up toys up or take pots away!

I wouldn’t just turn up at someone’s house unannounced, I don’t even do that to my own mum & dad. I always give them a text first.

YANBU. Its a massive bug bear of mine.

Yeap…our door bell has a default :)
Still remembered the very loud banging on the door…too bad I was on my sofa…😏🛋️

Well.
it really depends who it is that is coming. Isn’t it?

Generally speaking, if you are close to someone, shouldn’t be any issue…coz they would know when to catch you no drama. If you aren’t close, then just no.

I hate this so so much, and I’ve just got into ‘trouble’ with my family for not answering the door when some of them turned up unannounced when I wasn’t ready for guests

I detest it when people do this
it’s always when I having cleaned or tidied up yet
like they want it catch you out and gossip or Something
I could be on the look etc
rude ! 😂

I would find it very inconsiderate and wouldn't dream of doing the same myself - unless it was some sort of emergency.

Presumably they weren't coming to stay? Even so, a phone call would be in order. Would you really lock the door and not respond to them knocking? I don't think I could do that.

The times when people (family or friends) could just pop in without calling first, are long gone.
Now everything has to be arranged in advance and there is no spontaneity.
It is so sad, but I hate it when people pop in now. It’s almost like besides the house looking ok, I also need to be mentally prepared for a visit.

Did they turn up randomly at lunch time?? Hoping you would feed them?

It’s incredibly rude to turn up at someone’s house unannounced. I mean what if you already had guests over. Next time, shut the door in their face.