I'll try to get straight to the point because frankly if it wasn't for the internet I'd be speechless. And yes, I have changed my username so as not to die of embarrassment.
Husband of 15 years decided this summer that we are probably done, citing my emotional 'instability'. Just for background, I've had postnatal depression twice in the last 8 years and suffer from anxiety. We've continued to live together as he's never actually bothered to have the difficult conversations of how a separation will function and pretty much continues as normal, the only difference being he sleeps in the spare room.
Here's the AIBU, he announced on Wednesday that he was having a vasectomy this morning. I'm laughing as I type that just so that I don't actually lose my mind. My reaction was WTF? We're right in the middle of this totally f'ed up situation where I haven't even fully got my head around the fact that my future is looking pretty bleak, pretty loveless and pretty lonely or even how I will manage alone with my children as he's taking steps to make sure he doesn't impregnate someone else???
I mean, great, yeah, responsible behaviour if he were fully separated from his wife but we're not even there yet. Is this just completely insensitive from him or AIBU? Just to be clear, my issue is not that he's being responsible about fertility, it's that it feels like a totally insensitive and emotionally manipulative thing to do right at this moment in time. It just feels like a giant FU to me.
In the interests of fairness, I will share his defence. Apparently, he requested the procedure 'ages ago' and 'no, there is no one else' and he has no interest in a new relationship. Which makes me ask, why, and why now???
Answers on a postcard please.