To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

I think your voting is going to confuse people because the natural inclination is vote yabu for asking people to do all that driving/put so many restrictions whereas you've done it the other way round.

Yanbu to have whatever wedding you want, its your day, but tbh if I'd been invited I would have politely declined. So you are only BU if you didn't tell people the full details before they agreed to come - i.e if you only gave them one of the venues not all three. And/or if you guilt tripped people (i.e. close family members who feel obliged) to come.

I agree with this.

I know you did put the way you want people to vote, in your OP, but it is counter intuitive, as many people will think 'YABU to arrange the day like this' or 'YANBU to arrange the day like this.

I also am not quite sure of the point of you asking now TWO WEEKS before it is happening, and everyone you invited will have replied. I mean, what would you do if everyone here said it is a terrible plan ?
If you said "We are thinking of booking this for our wedding next year" I suspect you would get a different % or replies. The fact it is happening anyway means a lot of people will think 'Well, it's too late now, no point in making her more anxious about the unusual arrangement' and tried to find positive things to say when they would really be rolling their eyes at these arrangements.

BUT

You know the people you are inviting - we don't.
You know that people have made a choice to come - either because they think it sounds great, or more likely because they love you and accept that is what you have chosen.
Which brings us back to Why ask now ?

OP I'm 99% sure I know your final venue, a few specifics the mention give it away and if so it will be great and I can also fully appreciate the geography/roads and those distances and travel times are very normal round there and nothing to worry about in my opinion! Have a great wedding!

I’ll be completely honest. I’ll start by saying that it’s probably one of these events that if I were invited to I’d moan like fuck before hand about. Having to get up, out and wedding ready for a morning service. Then all the driving sounds a bit much and wild swimming in the UK in October - brr. I’d probably also need to bring multiple outfits. I’m an old git and I don’t drink so the early night wouldn’t bother me, but I’d be a bit “oh” at not even a bit of background music.

But I can see it being one of those events that although it might not sound the best beforehand, it’d probably turn out great and I’d end up raving about how nice it was.

Dont overthink it and enjoy your day x

Is it definitely too late to put on transport?

If anyone drops out can I come in their place? Please

Can I come?

Its your wedding and you have it how you want it. It sounds like a lot of thought has gone in to it. Enjoy your day. x

Sounds lovely!

It sounds wonderful!

Not read all the comments, but sounds like this is an outside wedding evening party with no music in November? I hope you are blessed with a warm day. Having done Remembrance Parades for many years, it can be absolutely freezing in November and you’ve chosen a place that sounds beautiful for a July Wedding…but November….are coats, blankets and umbrellas being supplied? Only the hardiest of wild swimmers I know continue through the winter. 🥶

It sounds amazing. I'd love to go to a wedding like this!

It sounds lovely and really suited to you! So many weddings follow the exact same format in very similar venues, with very samey food, music, overpriced bars etc. Whilst they're fun, they do all get a bit repetitive after a while. And tbh they've all merged into one, not much stands out to me from them as being special. The one wedding I do remember very well was much more informal, in a relaxed setting much like yours. Yours sounds way more interesting and varied than the usual wedding. Noone who loves you will begrudge driving a bit throughout the day.. some of these posters must lead extremely miserly lives if they wouldn't do a bit of a drive to have an amazing day with people they love.

It sounds wonderful. I want to come!

it all sounds amazing! I don’t like dancing and loud music and would love to be tucked up in bed by 10pm. Congratulations.

I think it’s a lot to be expected from guests I wouldn’t want to be driving that much as a wedding guest as nice as it does sound the whole thing I think this may not be enjoyed as much if you can’t even listen to music at the last venue either

Same.

Have a great day, though, sounds like your guests are up for it.

Organised in two months…very impressive. Enjoy the day and be glass half full if there are any hiccups. My friends daughter got married and as we arrived at the venue it poured with rain. We all rushed inside and after a while started to drift back out and there was a beautiful double rainbow. You will have a lovely day.

Sounds lovely to me.

They’re coming for you. The logistics might not be ideal but it won’t matter. Enjoy and congrats!

It sounds lovely to me OP. I hope you have a wonderful time!

Love the sound of this wedding. The driving and non-drinking wouldn’t bother me. There’ll be drinks later! I like the idea of breaking up the day. I’ve been to weddings where you’re stuck in one venue all day and it’s tedious! I love a DIY wedding rather than the off-the-shelf ones. Good luck and have a great day 💐💍💒🥂🩱

You've got people driving from the pub, so some are drinking alcohol, to another venue 20 minutes away, where there's food and more alcohol and a lake.

Are people going to be drinking and driving home from the lake? Is there a lifeguard around the swim area at the lake?

Drinking and driving and drinking and cold lake swimming would be my concerns.

I wouldn’t look forward to this due to the driving, number of venues and lack of music. But I’m sure you’ll enjoy the day and it isn’t likely that any of your guests will complain so I’d just crack on with it at this point!

please can i come!?

sounds absolutely wonderful! Have an amazing day!

p.s to the haters - if you need to drink to have a good time, time to have a good chat to youself!