To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

Honestly sounds like a stressful, badly planned day. Having your daughter in the aisle is fine. I’d actually think that was lovely The multiple drives will be a nightmare. Finding parking, people getting lost, not everyone is a confident driver etc. someone will be late for your meal so what do you do then? Who cares that it’s in a national park? You won’t be going for a walk. Scrap the middle venue and just go straight from church to venue. The venue should be close to the church or find another one. No music sounds awful too. Will your friends and family be getting dressed up for the wedding? Will you all want to go in a jacuzzi? Very odd. Is it a campsite? Does that suit your guests? Catered breakfast sounds great, leaving at 10am not good at all after a night of drinking for some and then everyone wanting to talk to you with your kids running round, dealing with the caterer surely you’ve got no chance of packing up and being ready to leave by 10?

The plan sounds great; I would not fret for another minute! Regarding the transportation, perhaps you might ask a good friend if they would coordinate a carpool by asking everyone where they're driving from, whether they will be staying overnight, and how many people will be in their car, and putting together a plan. That will ensure that everyone has a ride, and might enable a few more people to have a drink or two if they wish.

If you live in countryside Devon (rather than city) then driving 30/40mins is a drive to the nearest city/supermarket and really not a big deal

It sounds lovely!

Have to say this was my experience too. Pizza is the slowest "street food" offering.

been too two pizza van weddings, first 2 people in van, took forever to order and serve 100 pizza's, Second 5 staff 2 ovens 100 to serve slightly quicker, wrote name and order on pizza box then called when ready, nice touch was newly weds had white pizza box's. Consider pre decide what guest want and write on box maybe.

I’m wouldn’t be too bothered about the drive, weddings are a long, long day and having a break isn’t a bad thing, but…

The no music will be a disaster, I’ve never been to a wedding where there’s no music. Ever. In fact I’m sure the venue couldn’t believe their luck to get a wedding booking.

Have you considered hiring a silent disco?

I'd enjoy a wedding like that.

I think it all sounds lovely and I hope you all have a wonderful happy day x

I think it sounds lovely. I've never been to a wedding where there wasn't a bit of a drive between church and venue. Maybe your guests can double up. Everyone can drink at the final place.. Or could you hire a mini van? Anyone who doesn't drink available to drive it?
If it hasn't been suggested already.. What about renting a set of silent disco headphones for the evening guests.. We've seen them used at several events that go on after hours and its always been a big success because of the novelty.
Have a wonderful day.

I think if all your friends and their +1s are very similar people to you, it will be fine. It sounds like hard work to me and very bitty. Cheesy dancing at weddings is popular because people enjoy it. Once your clubbing days are over, you don't get that many chances to get on a dance floor.

Sounds literally perfect. Can I get an invite? 🤣

I think it sounds fantastic, can I come please?

Sort some transport so people can have a drink before the final destination. It takes 2 mins to pick up the phone to a bus company. It will vastly improve everyone's day.

10am checkout will be a rush

Suggest you try to negotiate a later check out, perhaps offer to pay for that. Or offer to get the guests to strip their own beds

I've asked occasionally and its usually OK to video they don't have new guests arriving same day

It sounds wonderful, I would love this.

I generally hate weddings (we eloped) but this sounds great to me - especially the lack of music and (presumably, if people are driving) guests who aren't insanely drunk. Have a lovely time!

The thing is, everyone who has accepted the invitation understands the format of the day, and is on board!

I think it sounds absolutely brilliant and I would love it as a guest. I actually would prefer no organised transport, and to make our own way there in our own time. It’s lovely and relaxed and sounds amazing.

It sounds so good, I would book the rest of the week off work and tag a holiday on the end.

OP please don’t overthink it. It sounds like you’ve already done a lot of thinking and arranged an amazing day. Guests we’ll know the plan, see you just go with the flow now.

Have a wonderful wedding day.

@AliceMcKhow to make it sound even worse get someone to play a musical instrument badly at you with no were to escape too? That would make me 100% unable to attend. I know I said before you do you but the more I have read the less I believe that now.

Where is it I want to go!

Hi there,
I would absolutely love to go to this wedding!

A couple of solutions to concerns you raised

1. is there any way to include some music/dance at the pub? Eg if you have a private area, even for a first dance? If not dj perhaps you could hire someone with a guitar to play and sing a few romantic Ed Sheeran type love songs and have a first dance to that, then do some kids songs to entertain them?
2. the drinkers and drivers can work it out between them and anyone who really wants to drink can elect to stay at the final venue.
3. i strongly advise you hire at least one babysitter for the day to be ‘eyes on’ the children. I know you said your daughter is clingy but thinking of the fire and the wild swimming water that is risky, and you’ll feel better and more able to relax if someone is exclusively ‘on’ that and isn’t a guest. Rhys babysitter can also put your child to bed early if you want to stay up later with your guests.

Sounds lovely. None of your concerns, lack of music, the drives to the pub and venue, would bother me. People are coming because they want to celebrate with you. Try to relax and not stress, it sounds fabulous.

Sounds like you’re doing what’s right for you and your guests. Enjoy!

Lovely and chilled. Don't worry and have a wonderful day x

Sounds lovely. Congratulations