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To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

282 replies

Nervousb2b · 05/09/2025 20:17

Hey guys, name change for this...

Will our wedding in a few weeks be a total disaster? The plan for the day:

  1. A morning, Christian ceremony in a rural village church with around 40 adults and 10 children. Our two children will also be in attendance (our DD is only 18 months, very clingy and will likely need to walk down the aisle with me...)

  2. A 40 minute drive to a rural pub located in the middle of a national park

  3. A sit down, relatively casual 2 course meal there (I think a few people want to say a few words but we haven't planned for it as such)

  4. A 20 minute drive to the final venue where guests who are staying will be with us. It has wild swimming in a natural lake, fire pits, hot tubs, and we've got a pizza van coming for evening food and alcohol will be there for when we arrive.

  5. No music is allowed at the final venue (eeeeek). We aren't party animals and I want an early night due to small children, so I'm hoping this might work in our favour? Or is it really boring?!

  6. For the following morning I have arranged for a caterer to come and provide breakfast, leaving for 10:00.

Does this sound okay to you? We are really panicking that it'll be a bit crap due to multiple venues, driving, children and no real plan!!!

EDIT:

You are being unreasonable - it will be fine
You are not being unreasonable - crikey, what a terrible plan that is

OP posts:
CopperWhite · 05/09/2025 20:23

It will be fine, because the people who love you will support you and as long as you end up married it’s not a failure. It’s a shame everyone will have to drive after the meal, but they’ll get over it.

Peptalk2025 · 05/09/2025 20:22

I'd love that. Nice and chilled. Plenty of opportunities to chat and no shitty dancing. However, I wouldn't particularly like the driving from place, to place to place.

Jobinterviewsandwich · 05/09/2025 20:21

The only bit that would put me off is the 40 min drive to the pub. That seems quite a lot. Surely there was a venue for the ceremony closer? I can see stress with traffic or finding parking etc.

The end venue sounds amazing and tbh it sounds like it’ll be a really lovely day overall.

Nervousb2b · 05/09/2025 20:21

PamIsAVolleyballChamp · 05/09/2025 20:19

Are you providing transport?

No.

It was supposed to be a very, very small ceremony and then word got out and it spread. If we'd had more time, we could have provided transport.

It's been planned in 2 months.

OP posts:
KeepCalmAndCarryOnScrolling · 05/09/2025 20:20

If your guests love you, and you love each other, then none of the rest (weather, travel, music) matters. I think it sounds idyllic.

loulouljh · 05/09/2025 20:20

Sounds gorgeous!

PamIsAVolleyballChamp · 05/09/2025 20:19

Are you providing transport?