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To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

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Nervousb2b · 05/09/2025 20:17

Hey guys, name change for this...

Will our wedding in a few weeks be a total disaster? The plan for the day:

  1. A morning, Christian ceremony in a rural village church with around 40 adults and 10 children. Our two children will also be in attendance (our DD is only 18 months, very clingy and will likely need to walk down the aisle with me...)

  2. A 40 minute drive to a rural pub located in the middle of a national park

  3. A sit down, relatively casual 2 course meal there (I think a few people want to say a few words but we haven't planned for it as such)

  4. A 20 minute drive to the final venue where guests who are staying will be with us. It has wild swimming in a natural lake, fire pits, hot tubs, and we've got a pizza van coming for evening food and alcohol will be there for when we arrive.

  5. No music is allowed at the final venue (eeeeek). We aren't party animals and I want an early night due to small children, so I'm hoping this might work in our favour? Or is it really boring?!

  6. For the following morning I have arranged for a caterer to come and provide breakfast, leaving for 10:00.

Does this sound okay to you? We are really panicking that it'll be a bit crap due to multiple venues, driving, children and no real plan!!!

EDIT:

You are being unreasonable - it will be fine
You are not being unreasonable - crikey, what a terrible plan that is

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Coastaldreamer88 · 27/09/2025 09:06

It sounds perfect!
I'm a wedding supplier, so i see every type of wedding you can imagine.
In my opinion the best weddings are those that are focused around your preferences and loves, rather than tradition and external expectations of others!
No matter what you do on your wedding day, the outcome is the same as every other wedding... you'll be married! And as long as you've done it how you want, it'll be YOUR perfect day!
Congrats!!!

100Otters · 25/09/2025 18:06

Congratulations! Sounds like a magical setting, hope you had a great day. do come on and share some more once you have come down from the post wedding glow.

Cheekily would you mind sharing the details of the evening venue?

FairyBatman · 25/09/2025 10:40

I am so pleased it went well. Sounds fabulous!

nettie434 · 20/09/2025 20:30

I knew it would be a success. How lovely that it all went so well.

Goldengirl123 · 20/09/2025 16:21

Sounds perfect!

Grapewrath · 20/09/2025 16:05

Sounds incredible- I find most weddings boring and samey so I would love to be invited to this!

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 20/09/2025 15:28

Nervousb2b · 19/09/2025 20:01

I can confirm...

It was a total hit!

I knew it would be.. congratulations! 🥂
Any chance of a photo? ❤️

WeightLossGoal2024 · 20/09/2025 09:49

Glad it was a hit. Congratulations

BadActingParsley · 20/09/2025 08:45

Brilliant!

Wildefish · 20/09/2025 07:25

Nervousb2b · 19/09/2025 20:01

I can confirm...

It was a total hit!

We need pics! Congratulations.

IsThistheMiddleofNowhere · 19/09/2025 23:27

I knew it would be! It sounded amazing! So pleased to hear that and congratulations!

mygrandchildrenrock · 19/09/2025 23:01

Congratulations, lovely to read it went well!

Wingsnfly · 19/09/2025 22:47

I wish I was your friend. That sounds like my perfect day. Glad it went well and congratulations!

AlleycatMarie · 19/09/2025 21:58

Yay!! Congrats OP!!!

NorthenAdventure · 19/09/2025 20:50

Yaaaaaay!

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 19/09/2025 20:29

Woohoo!!!! Congratulations OP. 🍾

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 19/09/2025 20:08

Nervousb2b · 19/09/2025 20:01

I can confirm...

It was a total hit!

Yay!! So glad!! Please tell….. (and congrats!)

Original poster
Nervousb2b · 19/09/2025 20:01

I can confirm...

It was a total hit!

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AmyDuPlantier · 08/09/2025 15:24

Ok, any invitation to a wedding that involves bringing a swimming costume then. It’s not for everyone is it.

cestlavielife · 08/09/2025 14:46

Hot tubs.
I am sure no one is forced to swim !

AmyDuPlantier · 08/09/2025 14:44

Honestly, a wedding invitation that includes two separate drives and cold water swimming…is a hard no. In October especially.

Its so interesting though, the amount of people on this thread dying for an invite, I must be in the minority!

DataMum88 · 08/09/2025 13:59

I actually think this sounds lovely! You'll be busy trying to see everyone anyway and guests can entertain themselves. As long as they know what to bring (swimming costume etc.) it'll be fine?

Maybe appoint someone as the point of contact for questions/directions on the day, so you don't need to worry about that and can just forward stuff on (no idea why people think it's appropriate to bother the bride and groom, but...)

xmaswiththeinlaws · 08/09/2025 13:47

Silent disco for anyone that wants music, bring headphones and listen to your own?

SleepyLemur · 07/09/2025 23:10

I missed that small children would be at the final venue with all the water. This would be far too stressful for me. I love children at weddings, but not when I am worried about drowning risk. As lovely as the final venue sounds for a relaxing day out, I would stay at the pub if I were a wedding guest. I would still have had the honor of watching you get married and having a lovely celebration meal with you, but would politely thank you and go home after the pub.

DelphiniumBlue · 07/09/2025 22:56

Why different venues? Seems odd to have people go to a pub, where they won’t be able to drink, and then go on somewhere else. I’d ditch the middle venue, maybe lay on transport, and make sure there’s someone detailed to make sure the DC don’t toddle off into the water unobserved. It doesn’t really sound like a child friendly venue, though lovely for teens and adults.
The entertainment sounds just fine, very chilled. I’m sure you’ll all have a lovely day!