DH is annoyed because I didn't call him while I was away overnight for family funeral.

Because she was at a funeral and with family. Can he not survive a day without her?

And that’s normal for your family but as this thread proves, everyone is different.

I still think the OP’s partner is being pathetic and selfish regardless

Does his phone not work? He could have rung her or her messaged her to check if he was genuinely concerned which he quite clearly was not.

Because it’s considerate? Why would you not?

I’m 61, I always have 🤷‍♀️ UK motorways are probably a bloody sight (site/cite?) more dangerous than rain forests, tbf.
My husband at 66 always texts too, after long drives or flights, as do our adult kids.

Why?

It’s normal for you but not for everyone. I’m nearly 60 and can’t think of a time I’ve ever messaged anyone just to say I’ve arrived. It’s driving on a motorway not trekking through the rainforest.

Unless I had anything digits to discuss I don’t think I’d contact a partner if I was away the one day.

Huge assumptions there. You know nothing about their relationship.

I wouldn’t call someone who was attending a funeral or who I knew was driving

If he was really worried about you he would have called you. Phones work both ways! There's no way he didn't see your WhatsApp message or your DC responses. He wasn't worried, he's a dick who doesnt want you having a life away from him and now hes punishing you. How dare he do this the day after you've buried a relative. This is not a healthy relationship.

You should have messaged him at least to say you arrived safely

Neediness?

Our family always let each other know that we’ve arrived safely after a long drive, especially in circumstances where we are likely to be distracted. That’s normal, not needy, surely?

Im guessing these are the people who are also in these controlling/suffocating/cant cope without a partner permanently by my side kinda situs.

I go away on girls holidays for 3 or 4 days and don't necessarily contact my OH. He wouldn't necessarily contact me either unless there was a particular reason for it

We have young kids and they wanted to talk to their dad, was also the first time he had been away for a few days. I knew when the funeral was so knew when not to call or expect a call.

@NestEmptying- everyone saying he was worried, him saying he didn’t know if you were dead. Hmmmmm - just how many times during this did HE try to RING YOU?!?

IMO he’s being an arsehole, particularly given that you not only made contact (WhatsApp pic) and were away for a funeral.

He’s just being a prick either way. Either he wasn’t really worried and was just saying that to make you feel bad and be controlling, or, he really did think you could be dead and did absolutely nothing about it. Both equal prick

Knob. You needed support and not him. As many people have said he sounds like a massive baby.

I would suggest to all the posters living in constant fear that someone out driving must be dead if they’re not constantly updating them on their whereabouts, that you need to sort out your own anxieties instead of expecting others to pander to them.

If he hadn’t seen the wats app pic and 2 replies of your kids - who is to say he would have seen a text sent to him if you had sent one

he’s being a prat

you made contact with your family including him on the wats app group

Too much drama! If he wanted to know how you were, he should have messaged you. It’s unfair ( and a bit immature) of him to be annoyed because you are not psychic and didn’t know he wanted to know how you were!
If my husband or I are away separately, we might call and we might not - but we both accept that whoever wants to speak to the other makes the call. It’s much easier with texts and WhatsApp as extra options.
I don’t think OP has anything to apologise for.

Stuff him. Let him be annoyed. You can tell if someone has seen a WhatsApp post. I’d check if he did actually see it and is pretending he didn’t.

It’s takes 30 seconds max……. I could send that text while stepping out of the car and locking it.

Absolutely agree. I never get the ‘well that’s what we do so it’s normal and everyone else should be fling exactly the same’

The OP was at a funeral not a jolly up and even if she was, there’s no obligation to check in just to stop her DH being a whiney sulker.

His pathetic reaction afterwards shows he’s a selfish prick who thinks the world revolves around him.

The fact some PP think she owes him an apology is breathtaking

Maybe one where you park go and go straight into a funeral service.

Whilst I imagine he is being a typical sulking bloke about it. I have to say if my husband drove 5 hours and then didn’t give me a quick call to say drive was fine see you tomorrow I would be hurt too. To me that conversation shows that he cares for me. Maybe that’s how your husband feels too? There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. Honestly I would sit him down and say sorry I didn’t call I will be more mindful next time and move on with your lives. I wouldn’t make a bigger deal out it because really it isn’t a big deal, he has told you the expectation next time call that’s it.

I cannot imagine a world where I would do a 5hr drive and NOT send my husband a text to say “arrived safely x” 🥴