men on mumsnet

but you see ,To me it is a women’s forum. Only women can be mums. Just like only men can be dads. The clue is in the forum name.

for many of us, it's NOT a women's forum at all, anymore than it is a "mum" forum.

I don't believe much in "women only" forum, because I fail to see why men are not involved?
Parenting: both, sometimes only the dad - and being a single dad is much harder because of the lack of support. Gay couples? Widower? Why wouldn't they belong on here?

Why can't the read about periods, first bra when their own daughter will be dealing with that, and they have no partner to take care of that?

Don't we want fathers, and men to know about periods in general, menopause, PND?

Pregnancy and birth? While only a woman can experience it, it would help if men could understand, and as I said, medical staff dealing and helping us are male too

Women seek out the opinions of other women because of these shared experiences and understandings.
but we don't have shared experience and understandings?
For women screaming they HATE men because in their experience men hate us, and they are abused and assaulted on a nearly daily basis, many of us have totally different experience.

And if something is that obvious to us, does it hurt for a partner to read and suddenly think: I didn't think of that!

Women liked having a safe space to chat
an anonymous forum is only ever going to be this, anonymous - and safe in that aspect, but it's naive to pretend it's a bubble.

I don't want "women's space" I want equality. Banning men is going backward in my opinion.

Maybe it was created for mothers, but most of the issues have nothing to do with motherhood, so if we accept non-mothers on here - and non-motherhood issues- I can't see why we have a problem with men.

To me it is a women’s forum. Only women can be mums. Just like only men can be dads. The clue is in the forum name.

Women’s and men’s experiences differ significantly biologically, culturally, socially and emotionally. Women are not one homogeneous group but our experiences are shaped and shared as a result of the way in which society is constructed and how we understand experience is a result of that. Women seek out the opinions of other women because of these shared experiences and understandings.

Men can never understand women’s experiences because they are not women and are not consciously and subconsciously subject to the societal forces which women are. So for example, I might ask my DH’s opinion on a range of subjects like where to go on holiday, what to have for dinner, which sofa to buy. But I would not seek his opinion on what coercive control looks like, how to deal with bullying in the workplace (although I’d want his emotional support) or the best way to deal with menopausal symptoms, as examples.

You might want to do that, other women might want to do that, but I don’t. I can’t stop men from posting and I would respond to a man if I felt like it - I do draw distinction between genuine men asking for advice (and like I said before, I get embarrassed if there’s an unjustified pile on) and those just generally pitching in with advice in response to women’s issues/concerns. That does give me the ick.

MN might now be “for parents”/anyone but it didn’t start out like that. If it was “Parentsnet” and aimed equally at women and men, I’d bet my last dollar that it wouldn’t have been as successful. Women liked having a safe space to chat and discuss their issues - given as many as 1:4 women have been victims of SA, many women are understandably cautious and downright afraid of men. The male voice almost always dominates when a space is shared because we live in a patriarchal society.

At the end of the day this is my opinion - that’s it - just my opinion. But sometimes I just want to scream “FFS just let us have something just for us - stop always having to encroach on women’s spaces!”

Nice passive aggressive try at making @thebabayaga2025 DH/DS sound like the problem (ie suggestion they somehow cannot cope with intelligent women) but I think we all know what @thebabayaga2025 means - well at least those of us who are not male apologists do.

As has been said up thread - there are plenty of resources for males/single dads etc - why can’t they just post there where they are more likely to chat with other single dads etc?

It’s fascinating that a website like Mumsnet can attract men to talk about all sorts of mainly female issues behind the anonymity of a screen yet if you started a conversation about such things in say, the pub or at work, they’d likely run a mile!

The decent men, like my husband and adult son, would have no interest in this place at all

Not even if they were single parents? That's a shame.

What is it about a website that's predominantly full of intelligent women that means they would have no interest in it at all?

The decent men, like my husband and adult son, would have no interest in this place at all

Not even if they were single parents? That's a shame.

What is it about a website that's predominantly full of intelligent women that means they would have no interest in it at all?

Yep, you're right. I do not welcome them at all. The world is full of pushy, loud mouthed men, if I want to hear them talk endlessly at me there's no problem at all finding as many as I like.

And yep, men (as a sex) are far more aggressive about sex, ignorant and pushy when it comes to women's sexual experiences and far, far, far more likely to post something really dodgy about children.

The decent men, like my husband and adult son, would have no interest in this place at all, so unfortunately that means it's mainly annoying ignoramuses who want to troll, lecture, be disgusting, minimise or otherwise throw their weight around who turn up on mumsnet.

As a happily married woman who has no problem at all with men in general, they do not belong on mumsnet and I wish they would just fuck off.

To me it is a women’s forum. Only women can be mums. Just like only men can be dads. The clue is in the forum name.

Women’s and men’s experiences differ significantly biologically, culturally, socially and emotionally. Women are not one homogeneous group but our experiences are shaped and shared as a result of the way in which society is constructed and how we understand experience is a result of that. Women seek out the opinions of other women because of these shared experiences and understandings.

Men can never understand women’s experiences because they are not women and are not consciously and subconsciously subject to the societal forces which women are. So for example, I might ask my DH’s opinion on a range of subjects like where to go on holiday, what to have for dinner, which sofa to buy. But I would not seek his opinion on what coercive control looks like, how to deal with bullying in the workplace (although I’d want his emotional support) or the best way to deal with menopausal symptoms, as examples.

You might want to do that, other women might want to do that, but I don’t. I can’t stop men from posting and I would respond to a man if I felt like it - I do draw distinction between genuine men asking for advice (and like I said before, I get embarrassed if there’s an unjustified pile on) and those just generally pitching in with advice in response to women’s issues/concerns. That does give me the ick.

MN might now be “for parents”/anyone but it didn’t start out like that. If it was “Parentsnet” and aimed equally at women and men, I’d bet my last dollar that it wouldn’t have been as successful. Women liked having a safe space to chat and discuss their issues - given as many as 1:4 women have been victims of SA, many women are understandably cautious and downright afraid of men. The male voice almost always dominates when a space is shared because we live in a patriarchal society.

At the end of the day this is my opinion - that’s it - just my opinion. But sometimes I just want to scream “FFS just let us have something just for us - stop always having to encroach on women’s spaces!”

To me it is a women’s forum. Only women can be mums. Just like only men can be dads. The clue is in the forum name.

Women’s and men’s experiences differ significantly biologically, culturally, socially and emotionally. Women are not one homogeneous group but our experiences are shaped and shared as a result of the way in which society is constructed and how we understand experience is a result of that. Women seek out the opinions of other women because of these shared experiences and understandings.

Men can never understand women’s experiences because they are not women and are not consciously and subconsciously subject to the societal forces which women are. So for example, I might ask my DH’s opinion on a range of subjects like where to go on holiday, what to have for dinner, which sofa to buy. But I would not seek his opinion on what coercive control looks like, how to deal with bullying in the workplace (although I’d want his emotional support) or the best way to deal with menopausal symptoms, as examples.

You might want to do that, other women might want to do that, but I don’t. I can’t stop men from posting and I would respond to a man if I felt like it - I do draw distinction between genuine men asking for advice (and like I said before, I get embarrassed if there’s an unjustified pile on) and those just generally pitching in with advice in response to women’s issues/concerns. That does give me the ick.

MN might now be “for parents”/anyone but it didn’t start out like that. If it was “Parentsnet” and aimed equally at women and men, I’d bet my last dollar that it wouldn’t have been as successful. Women liked having a safe space to chat and discuss their issues - given as many as 1:4 women have been victims of SA, many women are understandably cautious and downright afraid of men. The male voice almost always dominates when a space is shared because we live in a patriarchal society.

At the end of the day this is my opinion - that’s it - just my opinion. But sometimes I just want to scream “FFS just let us have something just for us - stop always having to encroach on women’s spaces!”

If my DH was posting on a board named “mumsnet” it would be a major ick for me - him thinking women need his opinion on anything.

but it's not a female forum, so is it a ick for a man to post of a forum?

Why do you think anyone need your opinion then? (or anyone's opinion?) By definition a forum is a conversation, why can't people put their opinion on there?

And if he was asking a question, or trying to help, would that be a ick too?

Very bizarre attitude.

One pervy PM is one too many. The men who think they can just send their disgusting PMs to women on here can fuck off.

Missing the point much?

no-one said it was a MALE forum, who said you couldn't have what you think are female threads? And all the male working in the fashion industry might disagree on that one, but whatever.

If all these threads I screenshot scream FEMALE to you, care to tell us what areas are MALE only? I am curious.

One of those is a thread about women's clothing sizing and another is about a man demanding sex from his female partner. Screams female to me. But whatever.

Current active threads...

These don't scream FEMALE ONLY forum to me, or am I missing something? You'd think as a female I should have received the memo that all of these are protected female issues 😂

Absolutely 100 percent agree. I would NEVER post on a site called Dadsnet, no interest at all. Decent men don't post here, so right away as soon as I see it's a man I assume he's a pushy wanker.

Nah. There are two sexes, and they have different concerns and ways of looking at things. Women of ALL races, cultures, ethnicities have the SAME concerns worldwide. Women of ALL races, cultures, ethnicities are welcome on sites built by women, for women.