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Ex Husband in hospital, no idea why

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ThereIsAlwaysWine · 05/09/2025 15:21

He just text our 16 year old son that he’s in hospital, not the local one, a large London hospital. But he didn’t say why, just that he’d let him know later. So I messaged to ask if he’s ok, and he just replied with a fingers crossed emoji and said he’s about to run out of battery! Even adult DD text to ask and he just said the same to her. What sort of behaviour is this? I’m angry that he’s left our children worrying about him with no way of getting in touch. What a knob!

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Remingtonsteele · 05/09/2025 15:35

MissMoneyFairy · 05/09/2025 15:34

They don't know where he is in the hospital, do they even know which hospital?

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From the op I took it that they were told what hospital. They just ring and say they’re looking to speak to <his name> can they please be put through to the ward he is on.

MissMoneyFairy · 05/09/2025 15:34

Remingtonsteele · 05/09/2025 15:31

Why can’t your kids phone the hospital and ask to speak to him?

They don't know where he is in the hospital, do they even know which hospital?

Remingtonsteele · 05/09/2025 15:34

Yeah I’d be bouncing if my ex was ringing the hospital next week when I’m in for surgery demanding my medical info.

dodobedo · 05/09/2025 15:33

ThereIsAlwaysWine · 05/09/2025 15:25

We don’t even know if he’s on a ward, just that he’s in the hospital

The hospital will tell you which ward he is i.

To be fair though OP, his kids should do that because his private medical business is just that, private. It's one thing his kids asking, it's another thing entirely his ex wife demanding to know.

InterestedDad37 · 05/09/2025 15:32

Maybe cut him some slack and leave your feelings/experience of him out of it?
He might be in A&E, he might not have a clue what's going on, he might not even know why he's in there.
Or he could just be a bit of a knob, as you say.
Yes, he could have given more details, but has said he's not got much battery left. In such a situation, I'd try to give the benefit of the doubt, personally.

Remingtonsteele · 05/09/2025 15:31

Why can’t your kids phone the hospital and ask to speak to him?

CommissarySushi · 05/09/2025 15:30

Maybe he doesn't know yet and doesn't want to worry them, if it turns out to be nothing?

FabuIous · 05/09/2025 15:29

If it helps, you can phone the hospital and they will usually give you info about what ward they are in.

DwarfBeans · 05/09/2025 15:29

It wouldn’t have taken any more effort to type a few more words. He could be in for a minor cosmetic thing. It feels like he’s purposely creating drama and it’s really unfair to do that to your DC

Linenpickle · 05/09/2025 15:28

Why not just call the hospital?

Ihavetoask · 05/09/2025 15:28

Sounds like he is worried.

MissMoneyFairy · 05/09/2025 15:27

Did the m3ssagd say which hospital and which ward. I wouldn't respond, he said he'd let them know later.

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ThereIsAlwaysWine · 05/09/2025 15:25

We don’t even know if he’s on a ward, just that he’s in the hospital

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dodobedo · 05/09/2025 15:23

If they ring through to the ward they'll probably be able to speak to him on the landline.

But yes, why tell them he's in but not tell them what for. Although there is always the possibility that he doesn't know himself and is waiting for test results. Some things present very similarly to others and only a blood test/scan/etc can tell.

Anyway, thats for your kids to tell him. They're old enough to deal with that now.

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