I was repeatedly sexually abused by a man as a child and even as a 40 something year old it has always affected me, although I never reported it as I was too scared.
He wasn’t family or even known to my family but I have heard he has died and read details of the funeral.
I really want to go and see for myself he is gone and hopefully get closure from this but I don’t know any of his family and they don’t know who I am.
I’m not afraid to say if anyone asked me who I am or what I was doing there or how I knew him but I’m hopeful nobody would as I am sure I could blend in discreetly.
I’m in two minds about what to do, is it appropriate to go for my own personal closure?
I do on one hand hand think it’s inappropriate but then what he did to me was inappropriate but he didn’t seem to mind ruining my childhood memories but to be clear I’m not looking to ruin his funeral and I’m certainly not going to make a scene and this has nothing to do with revenge or anything apart from helping me to move forward seeing he is gone now.