Friends judging my side business because I’m a high earner

Haha give her a break

Hardly much?
Tell me you’re out of touch without telling me you’re out of touch!

What I would give to be on 6 figures and not worrying myself sick about getting through every single month.

The OP has said she doesn't think her friends are jealous but feels deflated that they are questioning the wisdom of what she's hoping to do. Even if some of her friends are jealous, it would be very strange for all of them to be jealous. I have been supportive of my friend in a side project and it took so much out of him and ultimately failed. The next time he was talking about similar I was one of the "critical friends/voices of doom." He is very successful and wealthy. Has a housekeeper, nanny, personal trainer 4 x a week and a mon-fri chef. Do I envy the ease that wealth brings... yes! Am I jealous? No.

Is it the sort of side hustle that is heavily marketed and people get bored of hearing about?

Ah Sod em! Do what makes you happy ,

I'm guessing that they are finding it harder financially so where they'd probably be supportive of a hobby I'm guessing they're thinking 'have they not got enough' especially if they know your job is stressful. It might even be coming from a good place eg is she trying to burn herself out kind of thought.
Just a different perspective.
Good luck 👍

Definitely this!

If you are expecting them to support this business venture/buy from you, then that's unreasonable.

If you are worried about what your friends think, are you tough enough for your own business?

It's OnlyFans, isn't it 🤔

If that's what you want to do do it. What others think is up to them but shouldn't get in the way of your plans. Simple don't ask for their approval/opinion.

‘Buckets of money’ is just a phrase – a relative one at that.

I didn’t say it ‘had’ to be obvious. I said it was fairly obvious, and in my opinion it is. I can tell who out of my friends and family who is more well off – from what they wear, their houses, their activities, their holidays, what cars they drive, what their kids have/wear/do, what jobs they have. Most adults have a good idea of what costs what and what jobs generally pay what.

Talking at extreme ends isn’t relevant or useful. In all likelihood, OP’s friends can tell how comfortable off she is – her job, her DH’s job and having a lot of holidays will be all the information they need.

Why does everyone expect their friends to jump up and down and be so interested in everything they do?!? People have their own lives, worries and passions. If you want to start a business get on with it … why do you need to run it by a load of friends and then moan when they aren’t that bothered or on board with it?!?

It’s none of their business OP! If you wan’t to, go for it, best of luck x

Probably jealous even if not intentionally I’m a bit jealous/ shows me up a bit as I can’t be this productive!

It might just be the people I surround myself with, but I think people nowadays appreciate a better work life balance and question why there is a need for people to constantly monetise hobbies; hobbies can be just that.

Even if it was, not everybody has than in their contract.

If one of my friends earned a lot of money and said they wanted to have another job on top of it, I'd also be asking them to re-consider. I just don't believe in working till you drop if you've already got plenty of money.
It's definitely not jealousy!

The OP doesn’t have buckets of money, she’s comfortably off.

It really doesn’t have to be obvious unless the person in question actually features on the Forbes rich list or is a wannabe reality tv figure. I have friends that live in £2- £10m houses who are actually very cash poor and can’t afford holidays and school fees. At the other end of the spectrum I know a billionaire family who drive 10 year old cars and never leave the country. Long haul trips can be budget affairs or £50k a week travelling in first class.

The fact that the OPs friends have such a lot to say about it, and the way the OP talks on this thread, makes me think they know a lot more about her finances than they should. Of course the other possibility is that all of her friends are just extremely presumptive but I think the evidence points more to the former explanation.

It's not a job though

As usual, OP hasn't returned after first page. OP, btw, have you got approval from your current employer to have another job?

And I hope you stop comparing people to racist because you haven’t read their posts properly.

I really don’t think you are the brightest, your logic is a bit off…..that’s all I have to say

Are you expecting them to buy your 'very outing' hobby trinkets? or promote them on their social media? I never understand why everyone on mumsnet thinks their or their husbands hobbies are so outing 😂If you want to sell your stuff sign up for a stall at your local art fair and leave your friends alone.

I was going to say something like this. I have a friend who writes books. I buy a copy and get her to sign it but it’s never enough - she wants me to put a review on Amazon, promote her (fairly niche) book on social media - I am not going to be good at promotion.