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LittleMissPMT · 04/09/2025 22:08

AIBU to feel like I ruined mine and my partners date day/night?

we took the day off to spend time together as we both work long hours and he gets his DS all weekend so we can’t really do much as a couple.

I teased him about what I was planning for his birthday, I spent around 3 months researching stuff about his favourite game, and there wasn't anything grabbing my attention massively gift wise as I wanted it to be extremely special for him, so I came across an article about quirky air bnbs, I started looking up ones in Scotland and found one called airship 2, it looked really futuristic but rustic at the same time like the aesthetic of his favourite game, so I thought brilliant, a wee night in that he would probably love since it fits the vibe of the game so well.

He eventually got it out of me what it was and he said no, I didn't have an issue with him saying no at all I was just so gutted that I missed the mark with what he would like for his birthday, I didn't want to cry as that's all I've done for the last 2 weeks so I just sat quiet for a wee while in hopes that the lump in my throat would go away so I could chat without sobbing and he thought I was angry at him, so he eventually said “I’ll just stay at my mums tonight, don’t want to be where I’m not wanted”. After he said that I just felt absolutely gutted and upset like I’d ruined the whole purpose of the day/night.

AIBU?

OP posts:
HiCandles · 04/09/2025 22:12

Why didn't he like the idea? It sounds cool to me.
Did he think he was going to get an actual physical present? I love activity type presents as does my DH nowadays, who needs more stuff in the world.

FuzzyWolf · 04/09/2025 22:11

I think you come across as having been incredibly invested in giving him a great gift and perhaps that why his rudeness has hurt as much as it has.

Changeintheweathet · 04/09/2025 22:10

Why have you cried for the last two weeks?

PinkiOcelot · 04/09/2025 22:10

Why did he say no?

I don’t blame you for being upset.

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