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AIBU? My hair is awful! What do I do?! Pics included….

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forgoodnesssakee · 04/09/2025 17:48

I went to a hair appointment this afternoon, which I was scheduled in for since 2 weeks ago. It was a free of charge ‘model’ appointment for the hairstylist, who was completing a trial session in the hair salon. (But many many years of experience in other salons)!

I was booked for today at 4.30pm - and messages at 4.05 and again at 4.15 to say I’m running behind as two taxis cancelled on me back to back, so I had to walk from home to the closest shopping complex (8’ min walk) to find a taxi that was available to get me to the salon, which was 22 minutes away.

On the way there, as expected, we hit every single red light imaginable and I ended up arriving at the salon at 4.36pm - so six minutes after my allotted appointment time.

On the journey there, the stylist was kept informed on my estimated arrival time etc. when I text to say I was 2 minutes away, the stylist text me to tell me their next client had arrived, and that they will no longer be able to do my colour appointment and will just be able to do a wash and dry.

Baring in mind that at this stage, I’d just arrived to the location and had paid £52 for the taxi as I was stuck in heavy stop start traffic almost the entire journey.

When I get into the salon, the stylist is rude and extremely unwelcoming and tells me - again, that he is not willing to do the color service. I explained that I was sorry for being late, and another member of staff came over to ask what the problem was.

The stylist then proceeded to tell the other member of staff that I was 36 (!!!!) minutes late for my appointment, and that I was actually booked for 4pm. This is categorically untrue and I showed them both my appointment confirmation for 4.30. Again, I explained that I was sorry for being late and at this point I was getting extremely upset and red and embarassed. It turns out he had a 2nd client booked at 5 and the salon closes at 7. He’s not left enough time.

The stylist then reluctantly tells me he will do some minimal ‘scatter’ highlights if that makes me ‘happy’ and that will be it.

Before I can answer he’s sectioning out my hair - no prior consultation to ask me what I’m looking for - and proceeded to start putting the bleach on. This literally happened in the blink of an eye. I had no time to react and didn’t even have a gown on at this stage.

Fast forward and he’s added some random highlights to diferent sections of my hair, and it’s left on for 35 minutes, before being washed out.

When washed out by the assistant, the stylist was asked if he wanted to check the highlights. The stylist then proceeded to come over and say they’re fine without even really looking, and when the assistant asked which toner they wanted to use, the stylist said none - my hair doesn’t ‘need’ it.

I’ve been blonde all my life and NEVER have I ever had highlights without a toner.

When I was back in the chair and my hair was being dried, the stylist didn’t speak to me.

Once dry he told me I’m done. The other member of staff then came and looked, signed off his work and I was told I’m finished and can leave. I’ve never felt so rushed and unwelcome in my entire life. I know this was a free appointment but I’ve left feeling even worse about my hair than I did going in.

Girls - what do I do? My highlights are uneven, chunky in parts and thin in others, some start up higher on my root than others, and they’re so brassy they look yellow.

Please give me some advice? I feel like I don’t have grounds to complain but I also feel humiliated and disrespected and like I was an inconvenience for helping the stylist out on their assignment.

I wouldn’t want anybody else going through this. I’m so upset I’m in tears.

I’ve tried to take a photo as clear as I can, and to be honest the photo doesn’t even do it justice, it’s so yellow and awful. The blonde is so yellow and it’s making my hair even look oily?

I don’t want to cause an issue as I don’t want to cost this stylist their potential job - but at the same time I’m really disappointed with the outcome. It’s only since I got home that I’ve noticed how bad it is! In the salon the lighting was very low and moody and it didn’t show so much.

AIBU? My hair is awful! What do I do?! Pics included….
AIBU? My hair is awful! What do I do?! Pics included….
OP posts:
saveforthat · 04/09/2025 17:58

In the picture it looks nice to me but don't ever hesitate to complain if you had the terrible customer service you described. Part of being a good hairdresser is communication so it's their problem if they lose their job over this, not yours.

Didimum · 04/09/2025 17:57

Firstly, it’s looks fine.

Secondly, they aren’t obliged to honour late appointments. Your spend on taxis is your or issue – that’s just life sometimes.

Thirdly, it did not ‘literally’ happen in the blink of an eye. You should have spoken up.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 04/09/2025 17:57

You are unreasonable because you could have walked away before anything started. Why on earth would you allow someone to touch your hair in the mood they were in? You should have just calmly showed your appt time and asked to be rescheduled given your efforts and updates and only being 6 mins late. If they refused accommodation then you could always leave s review.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 04/09/2025 17:56

I think it looks fine too.

But I also think you would be reasonable to complain that he was rude and just started applying bleach before asking what you actually wanted.

I would personally take the view that a free appointment runs the risk of not being done well, and wouldn't complain that you don't like the result. I would think it reasonable to ask if they can do anything to make it more to your taste though, toner etc, which I would expect to potentially pay for.

TwilightSkies · 04/09/2025 17:54

I think it looks fine! Honestly.

QPZM · 04/09/2025 17:53

Looks ok to me.

Really confused at how this actually happened?

"Before I can answer he’s sectioning out my hair - no prior consultation to ask me what I’m looking for - and proceeded to start putting the bleach on. This literally happened in the blink of an eye. I had no time to react and didn’t even have a gown on at this stage."

You can't section hair and apply bleach in the blink of an eye.

It's impossible.

Didntask · 04/09/2025 17:53

Get some purple shampoo to tone it a little. It's not half as bad as you're making it out to be!

ThankyouBakedP0tato · 04/09/2025 17:51

It looks fine.