To be putoff intimacy with DP due to this?

Genuinely worried about how some people on here shit if they are making such a big splash

You can say shit but you can't say cum?

🤣🤣🤣

And how exactly, do you propose he does this?

How does going to the loo give you bad breath?

Does he get cleaner the longer he waits after doing one??

I actually hadn't thought of that, grim but probably true. For me it's really a respect thing. Other people shitting is disgusting and there is certainly nothing sexy about telling your partner you are going to empty your bowels right before sex. You might have to do it, but just say I'm popping to the loo love. And wash afterwards, ffs, it's not difficult.

Yes, we all shit - and there's a really really good reason for the standard disgust reflex normal people automatically feel about being around shit. Faeces can carry pathogens, parasites, bacteria. Disgust prompts avoidance and reduces the chances of disease transmission. Basic hygiene around shitting lowers the risk of disease. It's just that simple.

The OPs response is normal and reflexive, no matter how many women want to have their face printed on a doormat for a grubby man to wipe his feet on.

And before any clown jumps in to scream "BUT NAPPIES!!!!" - just because we have to change nappies does not make it pleasant. We are ok with it because we have to be, not through enjoyment of being around shit and piss.

Some women apparently are happy to let their husbands defecate while they are in the same room and showering - I've read that here before. There are some grotty people with low standards on this site for sure.

Exactly balls and all . A big fart whilst on the toilet could spray faeces on his penis , balls and thighs .Without washing you could get his faeces in your VJ.

Can you change the time of day? If he regularly has a crap every night- and that’s not something you can ‘force’ to happen, maybe change the sex time?

To say - I just need to pop to the loo is fine. To conjure up the image of him doing a giant shit right before he wants you to feel like sex is, of course, not.

And of course he should at least wash, the reality is that shit can be left around the arse area no matter how much we wipe, so he needs to wash properly, balls, penis and arse before he gets naked with you. It's basic respect to want to smell clean, be clean and not have the idea of doing giant shit in your partner's head before sex.

But there are some incredibly low standards on mumsnet and they will make any excuse for men to be (and have, it seems) grubby arseholes.

You can't, unless he has diarrhoea and has managed to get poo on his penis.

But what happens if you touch his bum cheek and it's not clean?
I wouldn't touch my fella if he had just done a poo.

*down, not fine

of course, but excrement isn’t the same as baby gravy. Theres only one place for it and that’s fine the toilet.. 🚽

Thank you all for a very much needed laugh! Think I'm leaving with more questions than answers though if I'm honest 😂 Can't figure out how a bowel movement can make quite so much mess. Are most people's not clean cut?! Like definitely not a smear on toilet paper never mind requiring a hose down! Can't figure out how you can clean your bum hole with a hose facing backwards and downwards whilst seated. If from the front my bum hole is backwards and upwards and if from the back, it's the equivalent of wiping back to front surely? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Can't figure out how showers can take a max of 2 mins. Takes me longer to wait for the hot water to come through 😂 More importantly, I can't figure out how some posters could be so repulsed by normal bodily functions, yet potentially have children. But all in all a great laugh. Now must get off the internet as I haven't showered since morning, couldn't possibly share a bed with my husband 😂😂😂

Exactly bum germs on the sheets

I would hate that , he shouldn't announce it , not romantic , very off putting .
He should definitely be having a shower.
I would not want to do it either.

You sound surprised by that?

Is that not kind of par for the course if you stick your finger up someone’s arsehole?

Thats why I don’t do it 🤷‍♂️

Put a foot towel down, use a flannel and pat dry with your towel - you’ve seriously never had a quick ho’s bath to make sure everything is fresh down there? If I want my DH to go down on me, I’m not going to make him deal with the day’s mustiness. And if I’ve just had a poo and I think we’re having sex, I want to make sure I’m clean. But it doesn’t require a full shower - just a bidet or sink wash.

I am now quite worried about travelling to these places and being met with a bum gun. Are they actually in public toilets? I just know I would want to try it out and probably make a godawful mess - often look like I've wet myself just washing my hands!

I am staggered at how overly fastidious so many mumsnetters are.

How on earth will they cope with babies with shitty nappies??

I am staggered at how overly fastidious so many mumsnetters are.

How on earth will they cope with babies with shitty nappies??

It's anonymous and online. Get a grip.

I wasn't sneering. They just happen to be 3major hubs that most planes stop at ( with bum guns) If you go pretty much anywhere except Europe or America

The poster i replied to says she travels a lot

Sex is messy, sex is smelly, sex is crude, sex is great.
I am stunned by people's attempts to turn it into a clinical, tidy activity.
How very very boring!
Just get stuck into it and glory in it's basicness!

iirc she came back and made a comment about the toilet bowl shape and how it was difficult to fit her hand or something and we were both “but why is your hand anywhere near the bowl…?”

then it transpired that she wiped back to front and it lead to a conversation about wiping. a customer came in the exact moment all 3 of us were demonstrating how we wiped and she just looked at us “…………..”

I’m normally very quiet, we just bonded all too quickly