To be putoff intimacy with DP due to this?

Does he like a bit of oral before you do 'the deed'?? 💩🤮

Love this 😂😂

Maybe he's just paranoid about pooing himself at the crucial moment so goes as a precaution. Have a little more sympathy for your partner, maybe you suggest joining him in the shower as a starter. Do you shower personally before hand if not that's just hypocritical too.

When I was young, of course not. Now I am old, sadly yes. It’s not complicated

How is this thread still going 😳

I know a lot of people do it, but I've never ever ever got into bed after pooing without cleaning my bum. If I need to poo somewhere where I cannot have a proper wash afterwards (rare occurrence anyway!) It's the first thing I do as soon as I have access to soap and water.

The way I see it is, if a child/pet pooed on a surface, you wouldn't just wipe it with a dry cloth, you would use detergent and water. I don't want poo residue on me, OR my sheets or my clothes.

I really don't understand a lot of these posts.

If oral sex is gonna be involved then I like us to have just had showers, or at least a wash, but if it isn't (and I'll be honest, we didn't bother while ttc), then as long as hands are clean I see no need for a shower. We both wipe our arses then wash our hands.

It would only be from poor hand washing that transfered fecal matter from butt to vagina!

I understand being reminded about sitting before sex isn't sexy but I couldn't get too worked up about it.

I don't get it, because I'm perfectly capable of cleaning my bum?
Every night when I take my knickers off, there are no skid marks, and I often shit twice a day.
I cannot sleep with underwear on, and have never ever left a skid mark on my bed.....

I've seen the odd post about men leaving skids, but to be honest if that is their level of hygiene I'm amazed they're even having sex. It's certainly way outside of 'normal'

There are other things available to think about other than bills and defacation.

I'm not saying that I am totally unconscious of making a difference, I just choose to have the number of showers that I am comfortable with. We all have an environmental impact, even you, unless you completely pedal powered, ground source heat pumped, hand wash your clothes in the river and dry them on a blackberry bush, don't be so prescriptive. I'm freshly showered, not stupid.

Just whether your partner has showered after his shit...

Your attitude of "well I can't make a difference" is wrong

Everyone having that attitude is why things don't change

Yes, but a quickie is a quickie, it's a spur of the moment knee-trembler and might involve stubbly legs and that's the nature of it. There's room for both!

I'm not thinking about the water bill before or after a shag!

I might want a second shower for none of those reasons, you might not. And that's ok. My skin is perfectly healthy. The humans on this planet aren't going to have a radical change of fate if I reduce my showering habit to one a day, if nothing else changes. I'll stick as I am, but thankyou.

I do, yes! I hop in before hand and have a good scrub. I go back to the bathroom after to do a pee anyway, otherwise I get a UTI without fail, and it's no biggy to jump back in the shower for a quick blast. 9/10 times we both get in.

This- a man leaving skid marks on the bed sheets has a wiping issue and should be sent back to nursery. I wouldn't want a man like that in my bed, underwear or no underwear!

I sleep naked without underwear every single night when I'm in my own home (apart from when I'm on my period then I wear period pants)- I've never got shit on the bedsheets yet.

You won't be getting shit on the bed if you've wiped properly even "just" with loo roll

So long as he is maintaining good personal hygiene I can't see the problem with this.... I'd much rather he pooped before sex than risk a fart or worse in the act! Or felt too uncomfortable to fully commit. Obviously I'd want him to wipe his bum and wash his hands, and maybe have a shower / wash if he thought necessary. Personally I think a shower is helpful before sex for both parties as fresh smelling bodies are sexier than musty smells, so maybe initiate that? If it's the poo smell that's the problem, can you banish him to another loo in the house so it's not right there in the ensuite, assuming that's where it is?

Certainly not if he hasn't washed it!

I think there are a lot of people having very boring PIV sex in here and that's why they don't care if he washes.

I love how you're trying to imply its vanilla to want someone to wash their ass before sex 😂Would you eat someone's ass without them washing it?

I don't really understand how you don't get it, but if you are getting into bed with a bare bum after shitting and only using toilet paper to clean, you will be getting poo on your bed sheets.

Surely you have seen the posts on here about men leaving skid marks on the bedsheets?

How long after a shit does it stop being unsexy?
You know you live longer, if you poo more times in the day?

I wonder how the human race got past hunter gatherers…I mean really..we are so far from the natural state now, it is a surprise anyone gets to do anything but shower.
How did they manage to have sex and produce us with no showers and very little washing?. We didn’t even have showers in most homes even a hundred years ago.

And if your bums are so hard to clean after a shit that you need an actual shower, there is something wrong with your diet.

After the shit, the bowels should close and pull back inside, leaving no residue on the outside …you know ..watch a dog, or cat, . They depart clean. So should people.
A wipe should suffice , a wet wipe…the biodegradable ones…or a flannel and hands wash . This thread is hilarious, thanks for the laughs

Being used to it and wanted to shag someone just after they've had a shit are 2 different things. Thats downright unsexy

This thread is the gift that keeps on giving.
Love it!!