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Be absolutely honest, would you consider only fans/sex work if it guaranteed you’d be rich?

190 replies

Love13 · 04/09/2025 14:46

If you were being 100% honest hypothetically. Would you consider sex work/only fans/webcam work if you could guarantee you’d become rich.

Obviously completely hypothetical because in reality most of us probably wouldn’t be able to make much money, we’ve probably got children to consider, you might already be well off.

But if it was the difference between working in a job you hate until retirement, or doing sex work for 10 years and then being able to retire a millionaire, if it was safe and you only had yourself to please. Could you forget your morals and do it? Do you think you could live with it?

Yabu - no
Yanbu - you’d consider it.

If you would consider it, do you think you’re a highly sexualised person anyway, maybe multiple sexual partners, able to separate sex from emotions.

OP posts:
daisychain01 · 04/09/2025 20:27

I've got a reasonably paid job and don't have to worry about paying the bills so it isn't even a consideration, who cares about being "rich" at any cost.

Even if I was absolutely on the bones of my arse it would the last thing I'd do.

repulsive.🤮

arcticpandas · 04/09/2025 20:25

I don't even have sex with my dh. Have zero libido and I'm not a good actress so I doubt anyone would pay to watch a middle aged lady with small hangy tits toucuing herself whilst visibly not taking any pleasure in it.

But let's say I was a horny hot 20 year old. Still no. I have always hated having my picture taken, have never had a sm account because unlike Meghan Markle I do value my privacy😅

CharmCharmCharm · 04/09/2025 20:23

I’m almost certain I would have been all over it when I was young and dumb if it had been a thing back then which I’m very glad it wasn’t because I didn’t have appropriate sensible and protective factors around me as a youngster.

Now I’m a mother of teenage boys in a responsible career and I don’t think there is enough money in the world to make me want to put myself out there like that. I’ve heard the way men at work and boys in my sons’ schools speak about these women and the comments online are also vile. “Only fans detected, opinion rejected” etc. They get zero respect.

whenimnotcleaningwindows · 04/09/2025 20:18

No. The idea of people watching me has never made me feel attractive, more like prey. Especially true if you don't know who is watching you - creepy!

If I knew 100% who I was having sex with for money (which would be unlikely in this hypothetical) I would loose all attraction for them because they'd be doing it for money - i.e, their ego is all about buying me because they couldn't get me naturally. Not attractive in the slightest, huge turn off.

Not worth money to feel you've lost the power of choice with your body just for someone's sexual gain. I'd look back on that and feel like I'd failed myself over the decades after, even if I was in a big house. Not something you can explain to new partners or kids easily either.
Not even likely they'd care enough to get you off either!

Bookaholic73 · 04/09/2025 20:09

Yes definitely. I don’t see the issue with it.
I wouldn’t have sex with other people but would do solo stuff.
Unfortunately I am overweight, in my 40’s and not attractive so couldn’t.

Gladysknightjustwalkinmyshoes · 04/09/2025 19:57

Can't see many looking for for foot pics or any other pics of a 60 yr old mannie..be very disturbed if there were any takers!!🤯

Saz12 · 04/09/2025 19:13

I'd probably only attract some v wierd fetishist! But naked pictures, with face blurry or loads of thick make up etc, absolutely I would!
Video of me shagging someone else - hmm, only uf I was desperate for money. I mean, if I, or DC or DH might have their life saved by medical care only available in US I probably would.

SpottyAardvark · 04/09/2025 19:05

Nobody, however horny, desperate or sex-starved is ever going to pay good money to see me naked. But if I looked good enough I certainly wouldn’t rule out OF. It’s safe and it’s easy money for those who can create personal brands & market themselves well. Getting your kit off is easy but I learned from watching TV documentaries about successful OF users that the marketing is the difficult bit.

Having sex for money, no. But that’s easy for me to say because I am sufficiently well qualified & financially secure that I will never need to. I certainly wouldn’t judge anyone who has fewer options than me for making different choices to mine. No moralising from me.

PermanentTemporary · 04/09/2025 18:58

For riches, no, absolutely not. Being of course aware that OF doesn’t give riches - it’s a pyramid scheme with people going on social media to promote it as an option.

If the alternative was starvation or homelessness, absolutely yes. I can separate sex from love, but I think it would pretty much ruin my relationship with sex, which is the nearest I get to a spiritual practice these days.

Powerof321 · 04/09/2025 18:47

If i was destitute, struggling to keep a roof over our heads and couldn’t feed or cloth my kids then yes i’d do whatever i had to do.

Just to be “rich” then no, i couldn’t do it “just” for money.

Ihateboris · 04/09/2025 18:44

No, I wouldn't let men rape me for money. No amount of money.

PeonyPatch · 04/09/2025 18:38

RoverReturn · 04/09/2025 18:33

Is this to do with Footwear perchance? I ended up down a weird rabbit hole involving 'trashed shoes' on ebay.
Ver mind boggling!

Would i go on onlyfans?. Probably best i don't, not much call for my body parts.

What on earth is that?!?

Yes, I would just post photos of some old footwear I was selling (couple of heels and a pair of sandals) and I thought it might be helpful to upload pics of me wearing them on holiday! My face concealed of course! Two blokes messaged asking for more pics! Yuk!

RoverReturn · 04/09/2025 18:33

PeonyPatch · 04/09/2025 15:12

Yes to feet pics. No to anything else.
in fact, I’ve had men preying on my feet on Vinted of all places 🙄🙄🙄

Is this to do with Footwear perchance? I ended up down a weird rabbit hole involving 'trashed shoes' on ebay.
Ver mind boggling!

Would i go on onlyfans?. Probably best i don't, not much call for my body parts.

FenderStrat · 04/09/2025 18:30

Clearly for a sizable percentage of women (40%), sex work IS work.

ViolaPlains · 04/09/2025 18:23

Yes, but no, but.

FenderStrat · 04/09/2025 18:21

Morningswim · 04/09/2025 17:51

Why are they "selling other women down the river"?

It's probably a good point but I am only half awake!

The more this is normalised and accepted, the worse society becomes for women. In general.

MonsterBoo · 04/09/2025 18:19

No

AgentPidge · 04/09/2025 18:08

No. It would make me feel dirty (not in a good way!).

LetsTryAgainNowThen · 04/09/2025 18:06

No, the money wouldn't compensate for my loss of morals. But I've sometimes thought, if I had no morals, I'd be a great stripper, because I'm confident dancing, acting and comfortable being naked!

PansyPotter84 · 04/09/2025 18:04

Never.

Not a chance.

Though I respect others’ freedom of choice to do as they wish with their bodies, this would be against my personal code.

CeciliaDuckiePond · 04/09/2025 18:03

I would be concerned about the safety implications of having such a prominent online presence and that would probably outweigh any benefits for me, so no.

I am quite creative and in terms of content I think I could do well catering for different fantasies etc. and it might be interesting as a job. I'm not convinced that taking a moral stand against it would achieve much, as people who want sexual content online will find it somewhere, and, arguably, better it's me they find choosing to do it and making (in your hypothesis) a very good living from it, than some trafficked person being forced to do it, or someone underage.

However, I'm in my 50s and was never an object of very much desire even in my prime, so in reality even if I took this path, I doubt I'd even make min wage from it.

333FionaG · 04/09/2025 18:03

The only way for a non-celeb person to get rich from sex work, is to provide niche content, and that involves gross and disgusting stuff. I have too much self respect and would rather be skint, working for NMW, than earning ££££££££££ providing scat and other revolting videos.

JustPinkFinch · 04/09/2025 18:00

LarkspurLane · 04/09/2025 17:59

Presumably if yes, then you'd be fine with your father/partner/sons viewing and paying for content like that?

I hate to break this to you about your dearest male relatives...

EvelynBeatrice · 04/09/2025 18:00

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, but lose his own soul “.

Oldrockchic · 04/09/2025 18:00

Only fans yes, sex work no.