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Be absolutely honest, would you consider only fans/sex work if it guaranteed you’d be rich?

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Love13 · 04/09/2025 14:46

If you were being 100% honest hypothetically. Would you consider sex work/only fans/webcam work if you could guarantee you’d become rich.

Obviously completely hypothetical because in reality most of us probably wouldn’t be able to make much money, we’ve probably got children to consider, you might already be well off.

But if it was the difference between working in a job you hate until retirement, or doing sex work for 10 years and then being able to retire a millionaire, if it was safe and you only had yourself to please. Could you forget your morals and do it? Do you think you could live with it?

Yabu - no
Yanbu - you’d consider it.

If you would consider it, do you think you’re a highly sexualised person anyway, maybe multiple sexual partners, able to separate sex from emotions.

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Vargas · 04/09/2025 22:58

Not enough money in the world for all the potential trauma. No way.

Sprogonthetyne · 04/09/2025 22:53

I really don't think I'd be good at it. I'm not expert but I imagine there is limit market for chubby middle aged, and don't really know what you are meant to do on webcam anyway. If you were to take all these obstacles away and focus only on the moral side of, I'd definitely consider it, if it my safety could be guaranteed.

JHound · 04/09/2025 22:51

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 04/09/2025 22:34

You have only looked at one part of my sentence. It continues “…for money”.
That is the key point here.

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Why is “for money” the only unacceptable reason to have sex?

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 04/09/2025 22:34

Love13 · 04/09/2025 21:38

Just to pick up on this.

People (men and women) have sex with people they don’t like/love or fancy, all the time, for free. For all kinds of reasons, being drunk, loneliness, just to have an orgasm, because they enjoy sex, having a laugh.

Are you saying that they all need psychological help?

I feel as though there’s a spectrum and on one side you’ve got people who’ll shag anyone but on the other end who decides who a women should/shouldnt have sex with and what her reasons should be?

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You have only looked at one part of my sentence. It continues “…for money”.
That is the key point here.

Franpie · 04/09/2025 22:05

To be rich, no. But then I’m not very materialistic.

Would I do it if I was on the breadline and desperately needed to feed my kids and keep a roof over their head, yes.

MindytheWonderHorse · 04/09/2025 22:01

Now, as a rich middle-aged woman, no fear.

When I was broke and hot, definitely.

FluffletheMeow · 04/09/2025 21:59

For me morality doesn't really come into it.

If I could guarantee to be safe and rich, then heck yeah! How rich? Where do I sign?

But back in the real world you never could guarantee that, so I never would.

And while I'm fantasising about things that are never gonna happen, how about a nice lottery win with no strings attached...

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Love13 · 04/09/2025 21:56

Those saying they’re not bothered about money. It isn’t just about being destitute.

Dh and I will probably have to work until we are at least 67. Dh and I are both in a really stressful jobs, dh job is putting all kinds of strain on his body (tradesman). Being rich isn’t all about having a lavish lifestyle. With being rich can come peace of mind.

Obviously this is all hypothetical because I doubt anyone is paying me 5p to see me naked, in fact I might have to pay them.

But I can see why it’s tempting for attractive young women.

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LindorDoubleChoc · 04/09/2025 21:47

No, I'm genuinely not fussed about money beyond being secure and able to afford a couple of holidays per year.

ilovepixie · 04/09/2025 21:47

CosmicMountain · 04/09/2025 15:38

I dont think it's my thing really but I'm not even sure what is involved. Do I have to record myself having sex with someone?

Or is it more 'solo' work for others to pay to view?

I'm not sure I could be bothered with the waxing...

Some people pay extra for unwaxed!

ilovepixie · 04/09/2025 21:45

Yes. I would do only fans, cam work, phone sex, I could only do sex work if the person was good looking, not a smelly old man!

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Love13 · 04/09/2025 21:43

UsernameMcUsername · 04/09/2025 21:34

No, genuinely. Ethically its wrong, but also can you imagine the kind of men who use those sites??????....my stomach isn't strong enough

I actually can’t imagine.

I try to imagine but I can’t think of anyone I know, but the truth is most of them are probably just ordinary men. Most men aren’t going to advertise it to their wives, girlfriends and children are they?

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MrsMillyFluff · 04/09/2025 21:42

If I didn't look like the obese version of Bella Emberg I might have thought about it, although post menopause I have the libido of a rock. Maybe when I was younger, maybe sex chat lines, I was always good at being filthy to my partners over the phone 😁

ColinOfficeTrolley · 04/09/2025 21:41

No. No matter how poor I was, the thought of a man paying to objectify me is sickening.

I understand I am talking from a position of privilege and I don't judge the women who are sex workers.

I judge the men.

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Love13 · 04/09/2025 21:38

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 04/09/2025 21:12

No.

I have nothing but sympathy for women who are forced into porn and prostitution.

I won’t pretend it is anything other than that by using modern sanitising terminology.

There is no dignity in selling yourself for sex no matter what you call it.

However those who choose this just to avoid a proper job are utterly irresponsible and selfish. They are letting down women throughout the world by normalising sex and the female body as a commodity for men.

Also, on a personal level I think that if you can distance yourself from reality far enough to let a man you don’t like or love or fancy inside your body for money then I think you need psychological help.

Just to pick up on this.

People (men and women) have sex with people they don’t like/love or fancy, all the time, for free. For all kinds of reasons, being drunk, loneliness, just to have an orgasm, because they enjoy sex, having a laugh.

Are you saying that they all need psychological help?

I feel as though there’s a spectrum and on one side you’ve got people who’ll shag anyone but on the other end who decides who a women should/shouldnt have sex with and what her reasons should be?

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Batstink · 04/09/2025 21:37

It depends what it would involve but in principle, yes. Get enough to be made for life, and then move on.

UsernameMcUsername · 04/09/2025 21:34

No, genuinely. Ethically its wrong, but also can you imagine the kind of men who use those sites??????....my stomach isn't strong enough

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 04/09/2025 21:12

No.

I have nothing but sympathy for women who are forced into porn and prostitution.

I won’t pretend it is anything other than that by using modern sanitising terminology.

There is no dignity in selling yourself for sex no matter what you call it.

However those who choose this just to avoid a proper job are utterly irresponsible and selfish. They are letting down women throughout the world by normalising sex and the female body as a commodity for men.

Also, on a personal level I think that if you can distance yourself from reality far enough to let a man you don’t like or love or fancy inside your body for money then I think you need psychological help.

Midnights68 · 04/09/2025 20:38

No. Not unless I was absolutely destitute. Certainly not in order to be ‘rich’.

I think the kind of male behaviour you’d be exposed to would be indescribably disgusting and scary, even if just on the other side of a camera. And I think it would quite traumatic and difficult to get over.

Ihateboris · 04/09/2025 20:35

arcticpandas · 04/09/2025 20:25

I don't even have sex with my dh. Have zero libido and I'm not a good actress so I doubt anyone would pay to watch a middle aged lady with small hangy tits toucuing herself whilst visibly not taking any pleasure in it.

But let's say I was a horny hot 20 year old. Still no. I have always hated having my picture taken, have never had a sm account because unlike Meghan Markle I do value my privacy😅

This really made me laugh 😃 😀.."small hangy tits" 🤣🤣

bumbaloo · 04/09/2025 20:32

No. If I could guarantee I would get £100 million for photos only I might. But not for normal rich

RaraRachael · 04/09/2025 20:32

Nobody would pay 50p to see me naked 😅

GagMeWithASpoon · 04/09/2025 20:31

When I was younger , possibly, no actual sex though. I do not have the patience or bandwidth to deal with that kind of shit now. I’d have to be really desperate, not just wanting to be “rich”.

JHound · 04/09/2025 20:31

I am lazy so, no. But if I was up for editing videos / photos I would probably have an OF for my feet.

Just my feet.

arcticpandas · 04/09/2025 20:30

Bookaholic73 · 04/09/2025 20:09

Yes definitely. I don’t see the issue with it.
I wouldn’t have sex with other people but would do solo stuff.
Unfortunately I am overweight, in my 40’s and not attractive so couldn’t.

Oh, there are surely men into that as well. There are some who like obese, elderly, anorexic, tattooed you name it women. But if you have children would you be comfortable if anyone sent them a screenshot with you in action? Or to your employer/ neighbours? I think you have to have very thick skin, be very money hungry and not have a reputation to save.