Be absolutely honest, would you consider only fans/sex work if it guaranteed you’d be rich?

Love13 · 2025-09-04T13:46:01+00:00

If you were being 100% honest hypothetically. Would you consider sex work/only fans/webcam work if you could guarantee you’d become rich. Obviously completely hypothetical because in reality most of us probably wouldn’t be able to make much money, we’ve probably got children to consider, you might already be well off. But if it was the difference between working in a job you hate until retirement, or doing sex work for 10 years and then being able to retire a millionaire, if it was safe and you only had yourself to please. Could you forget your morals and do it? Do you think you could live with it? Yabu - no Yanbu - you’d consider it. If you would consider it, do you think you’re a highly sexualised person anyway, maybe multiple sexual partners, able to separate sex from emotions.

XWKD · 07/09/2025 08:23

Nope. I'm not interested in being rich. If I was poor and desperately in need of money I might feel that I have no choice, which is often the case with prostitution.

AmberDuckBlue · 07/09/2025 08:19

As above I know from ONS I can't separate sex and emotions. I'd need therapy.

Furrylittlesweetpotatoes · 07/09/2025 08:17

Read enough on here in relationships to know there is often a female betrayed victim of a man’s spending on only fans…. I absolutely wouldn’t be part of an industry that supports men in the abuse of their primary partners.

And by abuse I’m referring to lying, manipulation, financial abuse and removal of personal agency among many other things..

TranceNation · 07/09/2025 08:13

Nope. Literally selling your dignity.

JamPotJenny · 07/09/2025 08:11

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 04/09/2025 15:51

I have no moralistic objections to truly voluntary sex work, but I also happen to be very basic in my wants and don't want to be a sex worker.

I can make money in more interesting ways - I've found a good but slightly boring niche and I'm happy enough with that

Would you mind sharing? I quite enjoy ’boring’ ☺️

Franpie · 06/09/2025 12:53

I think if you’re smart, savvy, hard-working and entrepreneurial enough to get rich doing sex-work (I.e. Bonny Blue) then you’d probably be able to get rich doing plenty of other things without needing to do sex work so why do it??

rasputinsghost · 06/09/2025 07:45

At my age, with my body, I would have to do something really filthy to make any cash from OF. However, if it was a one off, solo, I could remain anonymous and the money was a life changing amount (for me and my family), I would do it.

(Now, I have just confessed on an online forum that I would perform sex acts for money! It would have to be a LOT of money though! I would be kind of high end OF).

NoKidsSendDogs · 05/09/2025 20:29

ObliviousCoalmine · 04/09/2025 15:26

Depends what it involves. “Sex work” is a broad spectrum.

Exactly. If it's just me, no other people involved, yep.

CoffeeCantata · 05/09/2025 18:27

Ihaveoflate · 04/09/2025 15:54

I did some glamour modelling when I was younger in the days when it was still print magazines. I don't regret it but I'm bloody grateful it was the days before the internet took off. I wouldn't want it coming back to haunt me.

I also did escort work in my early 20s alongside a professional career. It didn't make me rich but with hindsight, it really damaged my relationship with sex. I can separate sex from emotion but that hasn't been advantageous in my life overall.

I think there’s a lot of naivety about sex work from non-sex- workers. I remember a thread on here a while back where OP was considering doing escort work for a bit of extra money and didn’t realise that it ALWAYS involved sex. Ex-escorts came on to explain that, whatever the agency blurb said, “extras” were pretty much expected and compulsory.

If you could just dress up and accompany an awful bloke to dinner for good money I’d consider it myself!

rainbowunicorn22 · 05/09/2025 17:03

No for three reasons;
1 I have more respect for myself and my body
2 These things have a habit of coming back and biting you when you least expect
3 When you start these things, they often escalate so you end up going further than you intended to or being caught up in some horrible things, including drugs

CharmCharmCharm · 05/09/2025 16:57

PermanentTemporary · 05/09/2025 06:59

I think those of us who are saggy, old and unattractive underestimate the number of men who actively enjoy humiliating women. There would be a market for us. It’s a market of men wanking while calling us disgusting old skanks and asking us to do increasingly degrading things to ourselves. Though tbh the same is true for the young and attractive. Hope nobody deluded themselves that ‘sex work’ involves people being nice and having fun.

This. It’s not a sexy little one night stand scenario as some people seem to be thinking. Men can be disgusting and lots of them hate women and wish them harm. Particularly women who can be bought.

Catpiece · 05/09/2025 15:07

Not with my gut, no

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Love13 · 05/09/2025 14:25

CoffeeCantata · 05/09/2025 14:04

I do realise it’s a bit odd. I think I must have a low sex drive! Yes, of course I love it with the right person but I’m incredibly shy and need to build up trust in my partner.

i have a friend who was much freer and had some horrendous experiences of being verbally abused and insulted about her physical appearance by men she’d gone to bed with immediately. I’d never recover from that…I’d be heading for the nunnery!

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It’s not odd and probably a very responsible and safe way to behave.

I was watching a programme about a porn star/only fans creator and she said that she spends a lot of the time thinking about sex and will usually look at someone and imagine what it’s like to have sex with them or to see them naked.

I think that I am a lot like that. I could be at work or at my child’s football match and I’ll be looking at my colleagues or the football dads or dads at the school gates and thinking “I wonder if they are any good in bed”. I get crushes on people all the time. My sex drive isn’t as high as it was when I was younger but I was always desperate to get home from work to have sex.

No idea if that is normal. I’m actually very shy though, very average looking and married so I keep my thoughts to myself 🤣

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Love13 · 05/09/2025 13:43

I certainly don’t think you’re a Victorian weirdo, I just think that different people view sex differently.

I’d have found it difficult to be seeing someone I liked and fancied and not have sex. I wouldn’t have the willpower to wait. Yes that has resulted in me having sex with men that I’ve ended up not liking, but I don’t feel particularly bad about it.

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I do realise it’s a bit odd. I think I must have a low sex drive! Yes, of course I love it with the right person but I’m incredibly shy and need to build up trust in my partner.

i have a friend who was much freer and had some horrendous experiences of being verbally abused and insulted about her physical appearance by men she’d gone to bed with immediately. I’d never recover from that…I’d be heading for the nunnery!

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Love13 · 05/09/2025 13:43

CoffeeCantata · 05/09/2025 13:19

Honest answer?

No, I haven’t. I’m interested only in romance (never been fussed much by sex). I have always really loved the wooing, getting to know each other part of a relationship, and I’ve only had 2 serious relationships in my life. I couldn’t countenance sex without the long preliminaries of what used the called wooing. Its absolutely heavenly and if you go straight to the sex, you don’t know what you’re missing!

I do not give a single f that people will think I’m a Victorian weirdo - this is what works for me and I’ve had a happy emotional life because of it.

I most definitely would be traumatised and humiliated by sex without a disgusting stranger. They would be disgusting be definition - buying a woman’s body for their pleasure.

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I certainly don’t think you’re a Victorian weirdo, I just think that different people view sex differently.

I’d have found it difficult to be seeing someone I liked and fancied and not have sex. I wouldn’t have the willpower to wait. Yes that has resulted in me having sex with men that I’ve ended up not liking, but I don’t feel particularly bad about it.

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CoffeeCantata · 05/09/2025 13:19

Love13 · 05/09/2025 11:41

Those of you who say it would be humiliating/traumatic, why humiliating and traumatic?

I get that people would find it gross, risky, awkward. But I don’t quite get the humiliating aspect.

Have you never had sex with men after nights out or dates because you were a bit horny or were wearing beer goggles only to think afterwards no way.

Honest answer?

No, I haven’t. I’m interested only in romance (never been fussed much by sex). I have always really loved the wooing, getting to know each other part of a relationship, and I’ve only had 2 serious relationships in my life. I couldn’t countenance sex without the long preliminaries of what used the called wooing. Its absolutely heavenly and if you go straight to the sex, you don’t know what you’re missing!

I do not give a single f that people will think I’m a Victorian weirdo - this is what works for me and I’ve had a happy emotional life because of it.

I most definitely would be traumatised and humiliated by sex without a disgusting stranger. They would be disgusting be definition - buying a woman’s body for their pleasure.

Midnights68 · 05/09/2025 12:34

welcometotheblackparadee · 05/09/2025 12:26

I think this is where the opposing views are coming from. You're (quite rightly) looking at the larger picture and societal implications - I'm taking a lighthearted approach from my own experiences and the thought experiment.

It might be beyond naïve in terms of real life, and I completely agree with you there, but for imaginary, ridiculously large sums of money, I'm happy with saying, yeah, I'd fuck strangers for financial security that is out of reach for me in my real life.

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Yes I guess so. I think - in the realms of the complete imagination - I can say yes, I would be willing to shag men I am attracted to in a safe scenario in return for large sums of money from a mystery benefactor. I would also happily accept big fat cheques for one night stands I had 20 years ago 😂

OP did use the phrase ‘sex work’ though which is why I’ve considered the reality. And what I’ve just described isn’t ‘sex work’, it’s complete fantasy.

Ihateboris · 05/09/2025 12:30

Love13 · 05/09/2025 11:41

Those of you who say it would be humiliating/traumatic, why humiliating and traumatic?

I get that people would find it gross, risky, awkward. But I don’t quite get the humiliating aspect.

Have you never had sex with men after nights out or dates because you were a bit horny or were wearing beer goggles only to think afterwards no way.

That's so different though...you must have WANTED to shag them at the time, but you'd only be shagging dirty old men cos you're getting paid. Imagine shagging a smelly old man for money. I'm damned sure it's not like Pretty Woman 🤔

welcometotheblackparadee · 05/09/2025 12:26

Midnights68 · 05/09/2025 12:18

When I was younger I certainly did have ONSs with men after a few too many drinks or whatever (in fact I’m now married to a man I intended to be a ONS!)

But I think it’s beyond naive to think that the reality of most sex work would be the same as a couple of consenting adults having a shag after a night out without cash changing hands. It’s not the same. It’s transactional. It’s with a man who feels ok about paying for sex and wants to pay for sex. Why does he want and need to pay for sex? Why does he feel ok about it? What might he want or expect in return for his money? What will his attitude to women be?

Not that I want to direct traffic to it, but to get an insight you could look at the comments on that horrific site UK Punting - it’s a site where men rate prostitutes they’ve visited, like Tripadvisor.

And with all that said, I actually have several friends who had some pretty horrific and scary experiences with ONSs even where money didn’t change hands - being choked without consent and so on.

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I think this is where the opposing views are coming from. You're (quite rightly) looking at the larger picture and societal implications - I'm taking a lighthearted approach from my own experiences and the thought experiment.

It might be beyond naïve in terms of real life, and I completely agree with you there, but for imaginary, ridiculously large sums of money, I'm happy with saying, yeah, I'd fuck strangers for financial security that is out of reach for me in my real life.

LastOneDancing · 05/09/2025 12:25

Nope.
The thought make me want to puke.

xanthic · 05/09/2025 12:24

I couldn't consider it unless all my family were dead. Actually, same re being a politician. There are lots of things I wouldn't do because it would have an impact on my family and it's not fair when your personal choices impact negatively on those around you, who you know wouldn't make those same choices and negatively impact you.

I'm not sure if I would do it even if all my family were wiped out, as I don't think my confidence and/or mental resilience could cope with it. I think I'd always struggle to divorce the commercial from the personal.

And if everyone around me was dead... and I did something like that without a support network... yeah, that probably wouldn't end well.

I think part of me admires anyone who could do it, as I do think you need quite a high baseline of self-esteem and fearlessness.

Midnights68 · 05/09/2025 12:18

welcometotheblackparadee · 05/09/2025 11:58

So glad it's not just me!

I understand their angle too and absolutely agree with a lot of it. However, I have woken up from many a night after and been utterly mortified, 98% of the time I've gotten over myself quickly and it's become a thing of the past and an amusing story by the same afternoon.

I've got a fairly relaxed attitude to sex when I'm single to be honest and on a personal level (for me and my life) hypothetically wouldn't mind being large amounts for something I do for free anyway.

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When I was younger I certainly did have ONSs with men after a few too many drinks or whatever (in fact I’m now married to a man I intended to be a ONS!)

But I think it’s beyond naive to think that the reality of most sex work would be the same as a couple of consenting adults having a shag after a night out without cash changing hands. It’s not the same. It’s transactional. It’s with a man who feels ok about paying for sex and wants to pay for sex. Why does he want and need to pay for sex? Why does he feel ok about it? What might he want or expect in return for his money? What will his attitude to women be?

Not that I want to direct traffic to it, but to get an insight you could look at the comments on that horrific site UK Punting - it’s a site where men rate prostitutes they’ve visited, like Tripadvisor.

And with all that said, I actually have several friends who had some pretty horrific and scary experiences with ONSs even where money didn’t change hands - being choked without consent and so on.

Anchorage56 · 05/09/2025 12:11

Love13 · 05/09/2025 11:30

I think I must be wired wrong too because that’s how I feel.

Even though I absolutely agree with what other posters are saying about sex work being all kinds of wrong.

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Just out of interest - what is your view of men who pay for sex ? If you would be happy to provide that service.

Sh291 · 05/09/2025 12:10

No, I'd rather work a minimum wage job and keep my dignity and self respect.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 05/09/2025 12:06

I did wonder about this when I heard (decades ago now) about an air stewardess on a regular stopover in a Middle Eastern country, who was propositioned by a member of their royal family, at one of the parties they regularly threw for aircrew.

She went to bed with him, just IIRC for the one night, and was given £30k, enough at the time to buy a very nice house in the SE UK.

At the time I had a close friend, also aircrew, who had been propositioned by the same royal, had politely declined, and had felt the need to ask crewing not to send her there again, since it could have been Very Awkward.

But I did ask myself whether I’d have done it, at the time, for £30k!