Dropping her T’s

Dropping the Ts is nothing, imagine my horror having to watch my sweet little children develop Glaswegian accents when they went to school! Now they sound like their dad and I’m getting ganged up on in my own home.

In all seriousness OP I do think you’re being silly. Don’t move her schools that’s insane, correct her at home if you must, but don’t move her.

The poster knows it isn’t right, that was entirely her point!

War-er ?!
Sorry but that isn’t right! Where did the r in the middle come from?!
wart-err is much closer!

Why did you move her in the first place? You can’t move schools for things like this. You are going to make her very unsettled.

I'm London-born of working class 1x Welsh & 1x EMidlands parents. I spoke accentless English till I went to Secondary ("Grammar") School, when I felt obliged to adopt a Norf Lundn accent to fit in with the other pupils.
Your child will need "registers" to fit in with their peer group.

However, at home, if I were you, I would continue always to correct pronunciation - merely repeating the word properly enunciated. Not by shaming your child's speech.
I would, perhaps, have joined the "All Dialects Are Equally Valid" school of thought, which was becoming prominent when I trained as a teacher in 70s, UNTIL one pupil (Elizabeth, 7, SheBu '74) wrote in her Weekend News Book:- "Narss night (spelling of 'night' provided by me) I wen ...".

That was the end, for me, of acceptance of "All Registers Are Equal". Elizabeth's spoken register was interfering with her learning of spelling.
"Narss" = Last.

She was trying to write: "Last night I went ...".
Elizabeth taught me that clear enunciation is important. It's not about snobbery or class. Tho' it is about Class, in a way, it's about the duty of all teachers to try to ensure their pupils get the best chances out of their education and are not discriminated against because of their social background. If they can't speak clearly or spell accurately they are, most probably, going to be held back all their working lives. Employers judge. They judge and they select.

Totally agree, the child is almost certainly picking it up from her peers so what does OP want the teacher do, follow the kids round all day correcting them

Huh

And yet in RP, and to an extent the other non-rhotic dialects of English, you routinely swallow/delete 'r' sounds in certain positions, eg in 'hard' and 'better'.

Whereas in the phrase 'better eggs', the 'r' is pronounced ('linking r' -- see also the insertion of an 'intrusive r' into phrases like 'AfricaR and India', 'lawR and order' etc).

It's far more complicated than 'correct English enunciates all sounds'. It doesn't. It deletes some and inserts others which aren't present.

@Thursdayschild2025 I agree with you 💯

If a word has an "r" at the end, e.g "water" is the correct pronounciation it 'wohtawh', like the queen, or 'wohtur', like my rough as guts BIL? Because I dunno, based on your reasoning, a lot of extremely well educated and rich English people are mispronunciating a lot of English words.... "Pass the buttawh, Alistawh, and ask Petawh to ohdawh the cawh".

I very much doubt her teacher is teaching her to drop her t’s, most likely she’s picking it up when the teacher is not paying attention. Moving school is ridiculous.

Not read every post but I agree with others that she’s trying to fit in and copying others’ speech. It’s reminded me how I had a phase of copying the accents from Grange Hill in the 70s; probably stuck out like a sore thumb in Lancashire 😂

Poor kid has been made to move schools, she's changed the way she talks to fit in because she is probably feeling very vulnerable/unsure of herself in new surroundings (even if she is a 'confident and happy child') and her mum is pulling her up about it. She needs support right now not a verbal ear bashing. Give your head a wobble and think about how she might be feeling and stop thinking about yourself all the time and your ridiculous embarrassment about how she is speaking.

Yeah, there is. It's called pronunciation and enunciation. If a word has two T's, the correct pronunciation is to say them.

I do understand why it would annoy you but the teacher won’t be able to help. Only you can decide whether you want to move her or not but it will be fitting in with her peers so is it worth all the upheaval?

Ewwww your snob is showing put it away noone wants to see it 🤮🤮🤮🤮

As a mum of 4 honestly I can say this will be just to fit in with others speak like her friends also as a northerner we often drop letters as part of our vocabulary whilst we still remain well educated and in exceptionally good jobs. It will have no impact on her future or job prospects

Maybe quietly mention it to the teacher if you're worried it's a speech issue... Otherwise just speak normally to her at home.

I don't associate dropped Ts with the Midlands so I'd be a bit concerned... Especially with the distance you've travelled!

I hate the dropping of Ts. My academic DD started saying La'in for Latin and then I met her teacher...from Somerse' 😁

Peer pressure. I hate the glottal stop and I admit I am probably being very unreasonable. I tell my DGD ‘ Don’t miss out the T, sweetheart. It makes you sound common and not very clever.’ Lol

I think it will iron out it's self. I wouldn't correct her too much it can be disheartening for both of you.
I suddenly got a vision fly through my head of you going to school asking for her teacher and her coming out with a broad accent & no 'T's in sight👀😳. I'd leave it imo.

My mother was English but we lived in Ireland. She constantly corrected my speech because I spoke like the locals. It's very degrading to be corrected. I believe it made me very shy.

I was the same with my son. He started picking up the wrong pronunciation of some words when he started school. I hate words starting with TH being pronounced F.
I remember a lady I used to work with telling me about a pub call the Free Feathers - she meant the Three Feathers!! You’re right to keep correcting your children. It’s not being snobbish it’s bringing up your children correctly 👍

My 5 year old dc came home to a surprise today and the response was ' what the sigma?' Whateve that's meant to mean but they certainly never said it before returning to school , apparently 3 boys in class say it.

Wait till she calls you Bruv - Bruh and uses the slang