To hate all the gleeful revelling in back to school posts

as someone who is the end of getting both my 16+ teens out the house to an education facility, one of whom is disabled and needs 24/7 supervision.. you bet i'm rejoicing and basking in the silence.

I finally one day a week back where i have NEITHER of them here 9-3.30, and can switch off from the mental/emotional load of being a carer for a few hours.. which to be honest, i treat as respite, and spend just doing.. sweet fuck all.

Don't like it, don't watch them, but don't judge other parents til you've walked the proverbial mile in our shoes.

I always enjoyed summer holidays if I wasn't working, but they are such a pain if you are - juggling everything, sorting clubs (that they don't want to go to and which don't fill the whole day anyway) , visits to grandparents, and juggling time off with my children's father. I used to do a spreadsheet! It was just hard, and expensive and I was always relieved when they got back to school.

They are trying to be funny and failing.

I used to secretly look forward to them going back to school but I wouldn’t plaster it over social media.

Mummy’s what?

Let’s be honest it’s mainly the stay at home mummy’s who can’t wait to get a bit of me time back again by getting rid of their own kids.

Yes it’s uncomfortable and I also wonder why they even decided to have children if they can’t wait to get rid of them….Sad all round.

It’s like people saying that something ‘offends’ them. I mean… and? What do they want people to do about it?

Exactly. You're allowed to feel uncomfortable, lol.

Yeah, agree with this.

I also feel a bit when posters say they are “concerned” about things that have absolutely nothing to do with them and in reality they are most probably not concerned in the slightest.

Ditto when they describe things as “problematic”.

What an absolute cop out of a catch all word that is. So lazy.

No one needs to put anything on social media, it’s all entirely optional.

I dont have a view about whether people should or shouldnt or do or dont feel happy when their kids go back

But Im always intrigued as to why people who 'feel uncomfortable' about something need to share that they 'feel uncomfortable' and that they say it as if their discomfort is somehow significant and means something

So you're 'uncomfortable'

So what?

🤣🤣🤣

Not funny to you so we should all not do it?

I mean, nobody needs to put anything on social media.

People need to just learn to scroll on rather than get offended.

I said at work I was counting down the days this week - people laughed as it was a joke! If I’d said that in July - not so funny. 8 weeks together, most of it fun but yes last few days they were bored, bickering and I was fed up with Mum’s all day diner being open.

just wait in a few weeks there will be the omg so tired when is half term posts 🤣

Completely agree with your first paragraph but no one needs to put that on social media. I’m pleased my child has gone back, for her though not for me as she was starting to get bored.

But it’s true!! The night before back to school ds15, who I’ve been arguing with all summer about bedtime, suddenly said, well I’d better get to bed now. At quater to ten! I stood there in shock as there was just me for the first time in about four weeks! I had the first day of back to school of work and it was an absolute revelation, again first time it was just me.

Well yes, of course it does. The ‘truth’ is that summer holidays are often a massive juggling act for working parents, and even for parents who aren’t at work over the summer it can be intense and exhausting entertaining/feeding/caring for children all day every day.

I think parents who pretend their children are angelic 100% of the time and never ever make them feel like putting their head in the oven, are the ones doing us the real disservice.
It’s not true, and it’s not realistic. There’s no such thing as the perfect child, and we all get either exhausted or just plain “tapped out.”

This is exactly right. Ds1 has been a royal pain in the ass at times and he still has his moments when he acts like a complete dick head and he is nearly 30!!!!

I mean, so what?

Nobody is perfect. I love it when DH goes back to work after his Christmas break - doesn't mean I don't love him or want him around in general.

I think parents who pretend their children are angelic 100% of the time and never ever make them feel like putting their head in the oven, are the ones doing us the real disservice.

It’s not true, and it’s not realistic. There’s no such thing as the perfect child, and we all get either exhausted or just plain “tapped out.”

Seem to be in the minority but yes I agree with you.

Wouldn’t say it makes me feel uncomfortable, but it’s just so overdone and I really don’t find it funny.

But for the joke to exist in the first place it has to be rooted in some degree of truth.
I joked that I couldn't wait until mine left home. To be fair there was more than an element of truth with that! 😆 🤣

They finally both left at around 22 and joked with 'Happy now mother!' I was! It didn't mean I didn't live them miss them or wanted to stop seeing them it was a joke!

Its a good job we all knew i wasn't serious and they could have stayed as long as they liked ( well within reason)

The whole "slummy mummy, ooh where's the gin" thing is now massively overdone, but I had kind of hoped that it had a least finished off the idea that you're a shit human being and a failure as a parent if you're not HAPPY and having FUN and EMBRACING THE MOMENT all the time. This thread has disabused me of the notion.

Sure. I was delighted to send my children back to school. It’s been a very long nearly-ten weeks. 😆

Because for some people their child has died, or is unwell and dying, and won’t get older.