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To wonder whether there will be no childless female celebrities in the future.

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JNicholson · 03/09/2025 23:00

I’m turning 40 this year. Single. No kids. Over the last few years I’ve been conscious that there were a few female celebrities of about my age or a bit older who didn’t have kids yet - Elisabeth Moss, Hayley Atwell, Aisling Bea, Phoebe Waller-Bridge, Michelle Dockery. The first three have all had a kid in the last year or so, and PWB and MD are just recently announced as pregnant.

Obviously in one way it has no bearing on my life, but it sort of feels like the opposite of what the media seem to be constantly claiming, which is that fewer and fewer women are having children. In real life most women my age that I know of have had kids, and now that all of the above celebrities have or are having kids I’m not sure I can actually think of any well-known actresses in my age group who don’t have them.

I guess I’m just thinking that I can think of several famous women 50 or older who never had kids (Helen Mirren, Kim Cattrall, Jennifer Aniston), and a few who had kids at 45+ via adoption (Diane Keaton, Kristin Davis, Sandra Bullock). But I can’t actually think of famous actresses my age who don’t have them. AIBU to wonder whether with the improvements in reproductive technology and egg freezing etc, availability of surrogacy etc, childless female celebrities will become a thing of the past? Obviously us ordinary mortals can’t afford those things, but if you’re a celebrity and you can afford to have a baby on your own timeline, and as much childcare as you want etc, there’s sort of no reason not to?

I just feel increasingly isolated in my society and wider culture I guess, really doesn’t feel like what the statistics claim about more and more women being single and childless. I don’t really feel I know anyone like me, even the couple of women my age who don’t have kids have partners.

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JHound · 24/02/2026 14:34

JNicholson · 24/02/2026 13:09

Why do you think the only reason for people being childless is the lack of reproductive technology.

I don’t. But as I said in my original post, some of the other reasons, e.g. cost and time of raising a child solo if you don’t have a partner (or even if you do have one), aren’t prohibitive for celebrities in the same way.

Also OP conceiving from frozen eggs has very low success rates.

I know, that’s why I said ‘by that means or not’.

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In your title you had said “no childless celebs in the future”.

While technology helps more achieve their parenthood dreams there are many women for whom childlessness has nothing to do with being biologically unable. So there will always be childless celebs.

Crushed23 · 24/02/2026 14:09

JNicholson · 24/02/2026 13:01

Yeah but part of my original point was that with advances in reproductive technologies, 40 is no longer the cut-off date for female celebrities who can afford them that it is for ordinary mortals. E.g. Elisabeth Moss having her first child at 42 and Michelle Dockery at 44. I bet a significant number of the women you list here have frozen their eggs, and (by that means or not) will have at least one child in the next 5-10 years.

ETA: and before anyone pops in to say so, yes I know non-celebrity women do also sometimes have children over 40, but you need to be lucky and/or wealthy.

In the case of Lena Dunham who is one of the people on your list, she’s had significant health problems and I think has acknowledged she won’t be having a biological child, but she was talking fairly recently about plans to expand her family, and has always said she wanted kids. So I don’t think ‘child-free’ is the right term there.

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I don’t think 40 was ever the cut-off for having children, for both celebrities and regular women. You can look up the stats - tens of thousands of women give birth over 40 every single year. You picked a handful of celebrity women who had a baby at 39-42, I gave you a much longer list of celebrity women who are 40-45 who are child-free. I’m sure if we revisited my list in 5-10 years, most of the women will still be child-free. I just don’t buy the idea that every 40+ celebrity woman is just biding her time and relying on reproductive technologies. A lot simply don’t want children.

Also agree with PP, that normal course fertility treatment is not out of reach financially for most couples.

Redbushteaforme · 24/02/2026 13:40

I am not sure why you think fertility treatment/assisted reproduction is not affordable by ordinary women if they want to have children. Yes, there are limitations on access to NHS-funded teatment and, yes, some sorts of complex treatment can be very expensive, and it can also be expensive if you need repeated cycles of treatment.

However, if you need 'routine' IVF and are not eligible NHS funding, the costs are not out of the reach of most women, although I accept that some women on very low incomes might not be able to afford them (and that that does raise questions of fairness).

I was not eligible for NHS funding due to my age when we were ttc (started IVF when I was 41). We were just an average couple income-wise. We found the money to pay for three full cycles and a frozen embryo cycle plus additional money for complementary treatment such as supplements and acupuncture. We did this by cutting back on other things. We were lucky enough to have two children as a result. I reckon our treatment cost a total of around £20k (about £10k-£12k for the actual treatment) over a period of about six years. This was some time ago and costs have risen since then but so have earnings. I don't think basic IVF is beyond the reach of most women although, as I have said above, more complex treatment and numerous cycles of treatment is a different matter.)

What I can say, however, is that the costs of our IVF and complementary therapies were an absolute drop in the ocean compared with the costs of bringing up children that all parents have, such as food, clothing, accommodation, furniture and equipment, activities, holidays and the huge costs of childcare and loss of earnings/earnings potential (in latter case, for me, as I was the primary carer).

I get your point that celebrities are likely to have access to lots of money, but I think the real issue for most ordinary women is not the cost of IVF in itself but the more general issue of the costs of raising children.

JNicholson · 24/02/2026 13:09

JHound · 24/02/2026 13:03

Why do you think the only reason for people being childless is the lack of reproductive technology. It doesn’t matter what technology exists there will always be childless people: voluntarily and involuntarily.

Also OP conceiving from frozen eggs has very low success rates.

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Why do you think the only reason for people being childless is the lack of reproductive technology.

I don’t. But as I said in my original post, some of the other reasons, e.g. cost and time of raising a child solo if you don’t have a partner (or even if you do have one), aren’t prohibitive for celebrities in the same way.

Also OP conceiving from frozen eggs has very low success rates.

I know, that’s why I said ‘by that means or not’.

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JHound · 24/02/2026 13:03

Why do you think the only reason for people being childless is the lack of reproductive technology. It doesn’t matter what technology exists there will always be childless people: voluntarily and involuntarily.

Also OP conceiving from frozen eggs has very low success rates.

JNicholson · 24/02/2026 13:01

Crushed23 · 24/02/2026 04:27

Gosh OP, I’m finding the exact opposite. I am coming across more and more female celebrities who are child-free at 40. I posted this on another thread but copying here:

“Celebrities turning 40 in 2026” popped up on my Instagram, so I googled the women to see how many had children:

Lady Gaga - 0
Lindsay Lohan - 1
Lena Dunham - 0
Mischa Barton - 0
Leighton Meester - 2
Brittany Snow - 0
Megan Fox - 4
Alexandria Doddario - 1
Mary-Kate Olsen - 0
Ashley Olsen - 1
Charlotte Le Bon - 0
Amanda Bynes - 0
Kat Dennings - 0
Emilia Clarke - 0
Jameela Jamil - 0”

Yeah but part of my original point was that with advances in reproductive technologies, 40 is no longer the cut-off date for female celebrities who can afford them that it is for ordinary mortals. E.g. Elisabeth Moss having her first child at 42 and Michelle Dockery at 44. I bet a significant number of the women you list here have frozen their eggs, and (by that means or not) will have at least one child in the next 5-10 years.

ETA: and before anyone pops in to say so, yes I know non-celebrity women do also sometimes have children over 40, but you need to be lucky and/or wealthy.

In the case of Lena Dunham who is one of the people on your list, she’s had significant health problems and I think has acknowledged she won’t be having a biological child, but she was talking fairly recently about plans to expand her family, and has always said she wanted kids. So I don’t think ‘child-free’ is the right term there.

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RingoJuice · 24/02/2026 06:46

LlynTegid · 05/09/2025 09:52

I am sure there will remain some, given the proportion of women who are unable to conceive, carry to term, remain single, or whose partner/husband (if they are straight) cannot father a child.

I am saddened to read that you feel isolated. The last figure I read was that one in five women by their mid-forties have never had a child, don't know if that is current but doubt it is much different.

iirc about 15-20% of English women never had children in the 1800s, I think a lot were never able to marry for financial reasons or there were no men of suitable status or income (guess this problem had always been with us tbh)

I mean, none of this is a surprise to those of us who read Jane Austen, but the general decline in TFR in modern times is more related to married couples limiting the size of their families. Although the rise of singles is definitely a factor too.

FastFood · 24/02/2026 06:44

garlictwist · 06/09/2025 01:05

I’m 44 and child free and would say 70 percent of my friends are too. Maybe it’s the circles you mix in but I’ve known these women years and many could have had children and are in relationships but haven’t wanted to.

Same, I'm 46, got plenty of friends, all between 35 and 55. most of us have no kids by choice. A good 85% I'd say.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 24/02/2026 05:25

EmeraldShamrock000 · 05/09/2025 19:19

At 39, they want DC but don't want them yet, that's extremely self indulgent, trying to squeeze the last drop of child-free months.
I'm sure their future DC can't wait to have a mother that's dealing with perimenopause when they're toddlers, full blown menopause when they're teenagers, fun times.

If you think perimenopause with a toddler or menopause with teenagers is the wotse thing than can happen then you have very little life experience. Read books. Women have always had babies in their late 30s and 40s, it's not something feminists invented with the Pill.

Crushed23 · 24/02/2026 05:16

JNicholson · 03/09/2025 23:00

I’m turning 40 this year. Single. No kids. Over the last few years I’ve been conscious that there were a few female celebrities of about my age or a bit older who didn’t have kids yet - Elisabeth Moss, Hayley Atwell, Aisling Bea, Phoebe Waller-Bridge, Michelle Dockery. The first three have all had a kid in the last year or so, and PWB and MD are just recently announced as pregnant.

Obviously in one way it has no bearing on my life, but it sort of feels like the opposite of what the media seem to be constantly claiming, which is that fewer and fewer women are having children. In real life most women my age that I know of have had kids, and now that all of the above celebrities have or are having kids I’m not sure I can actually think of any well-known actresses in my age group who don’t have them.

I guess I’m just thinking that I can think of several famous women 50 or older who never had kids (Helen Mirren, Kim Cattrall, Jennifer Aniston), and a few who had kids at 45+ via adoption (Diane Keaton, Kristin Davis, Sandra Bullock). But I can’t actually think of famous actresses my age who don’t have them. AIBU to wonder whether with the improvements in reproductive technology and egg freezing etc, availability of surrogacy etc, childless female celebrities will become a thing of the past? Obviously us ordinary mortals can’t afford those things, but if you’re a celebrity and you can afford to have a baby on your own timeline, and as much childcare as you want etc, there’s sort of no reason not to?

I just feel increasingly isolated in my society and wider culture I guess, really doesn’t feel like what the statistics claim about more and more women being single and childless. I don’t really feel I know anyone like me, even the couple of women my age who don’t have kids have partners.

Re-reading your post, you’ve definitely (consciously or unconsciously) cherry picked those celebrities!

How about:

Alexa Chung
Miquita Oliver
Anna Kendrick
Tessa Thompson
Perdita Weeks
Aubrey Plaza
Britt Lower
Janelle Monae
Marin Ireland
Cici Coleman
Bella Mackie
Lana Del Rey
Cheryl Burke
Mircea Monroe
Sian Clifford
Avril Lavigne
Cristin Milioti
Natalia Tena

All 40-45, all child-free.

NotMeAtAll · 24/02/2026 04:46

I have no idea who these celebrities are. I know many women who decided not to have children.

Crushed23 · 24/02/2026 04:33

The other thing is, whenever I watch a series, I google the cast and in most cases at least half the actresses who are 45+ are child-free. I watched White Lotus S3 not long ago and in just one season of that show alone there were multiple child free actresses:

Parker Posy (57)
Leslie Bibb (52)
Natasha Rothwell (45)
Jennifer Coolidge (64)

Crushed23 · 24/02/2026 04:27

Gosh OP, I’m finding the exact opposite. I am coming across more and more female celebrities who are child-free at 40. I posted this on another thread but copying here:

“Celebrities turning 40 in 2026” popped up on my Instagram, so I googled the women to see how many had children:

Lady Gaga - 0
Lindsay Lohan - 1
Lena Dunham - 0
Mischa Barton - 0
Leighton Meester - 2
Brittany Snow - 0
Megan Fox - 4
Alexandria Doddario - 1
Mary-Kate Olsen - 0
Ashley Olsen - 1
Charlotte Le Bon - 0
Amanda Bynes - 0
Kat Dennings - 0
Emilia Clarke - 0
Jameela Jamil - 0”

garlictwist · 06/09/2025 01:05

I’m 44 and child free and would say 70 percent of my friends are too. Maybe it’s the circles you mix in but I’ve known these women years and many could have had children and are in relationships but haven’t wanted to.

JHound · 06/09/2025 01:02

EmeraldShamrock000 · 05/09/2025 19:19

At 39, they want DC but don't want them yet, that's extremely self indulgent, trying to squeeze the last drop of child-free months.
I'm sure their future DC can't wait to have a mother that's dealing with perimenopause when they're toddlers, full blown menopause when they're teenagers, fun times.

Ew.

JHound · 06/09/2025 00:58

Cellarorhotel · 05/09/2025 19:08

This is the case for almost all the countries with low birth rate- singapore south Korea Japan Taiwan. I am from singapore and I don't even know anyone who had a baby out of wedlock; even when i was growing up divorced parents were unheard of. Divorce rate now is 30% but it seems to be a lot of childless couples who divorce.. One of my cousins has divorced and has kids but he is one of those men who thinks singaporean women are too modern; well both his Thai wife and Malaysian wife have divorced him..

It does mean the birth rate is a lot lower as people don't have kids until they find the right person to marry.

So men thinking local women are “too modern” and them desiring silent bangmaids is a global thing, I see! 😆

IcedPurple · 05/09/2025 20:10

Ihitthetarget · 05/09/2025 19:44

I think that surrogacy isn't in the best interests of the child 99% of the time - taking a baby away from its mother at birth. And that's before thinking of the birth mothers wellbeing.

I hope that legislation reduces this option, particularly when done for lifestyle reasons eg I didn't want to be pregnant due to my work schedule/ figure etc.

Surrogacy is already completely banned or highly restricted in most of the world. 'Lifestyle' surrogacy is mostly an American thing, and then only in a few states.

NoKidsSendDogs · 05/09/2025 20:09

ComtesseDeSpair · 05/09/2025 10:22

Virtually all the women I know are childfree and intend to stay that way. I went on a hen weekend with 16 other women in their late thirties to late forties last month; only one of us had a child, only one other is undecided.

I don’t pay enough attention to celebrities to know what proportion of them don’t have children tbh. I’m sure things like reproductive technologies and their cost will play a part, as well as the knowledge that they can outsource more childcare if they want to. I might be tempted to have a baby myself if I knew there would be the option not to have to be pregnant and only do the odd bit of fun-mum stuff before handing back to the nannies!

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Out of all of my close female friends only one had kids and we always joked that if I ever wanted one, she would carry it and I would pay for her boob job and tummy tuck.

Strictlysober · 05/09/2025 19:54

I think that as the effects of climate change become more and more evident, more and more women will choose not to have children. Surely the best reason not to have a child is a realistic assessment of how difficult life would be for that child? It's not all about money, either. The world is starting to go downhill very quickly, and it's a one way trip.

Ihitthetarget · 05/09/2025 19:44

I think that surrogacy isn't in the best interests of the child 99% of the time - taking a baby away from its mother at birth. And that's before thinking of the birth mothers wellbeing.

I hope that legislation reduces this option, particularly when done for lifestyle reasons eg I didn't want to be pregnant due to my work schedule/ figure etc.

Cetim · 05/09/2025 19:24

JNicholson · 05/09/2025 19:10

I’m not denying that some people always know they want to be childfree, and stay with that. But some people do think that when they’re younger, and then change their minds. I’ve seen lots of posts on here by women saying they had no interest up to x age, then suddenly and unexpectedly the desire to be a mum hit and they had a child. So I’m not sure I’d really put that much stock in what younger women are saying now. Let’s see how many of them are still childfree at 45, and whether the numbers are really so different.

I was that younger woman who had zero interest until like you say suddenly one day the urge struck and with 4 years I had 3 children! So yes people do change their minds 🤣

IcedPurple · 05/09/2025 19:20

Obviously us ordinary mortals can’t afford those things, but if you’re a celebrity and you can afford to have a baby on your own timeline, and as much childcare as you want etc, there’s sort of no reason not to?

No matter how much money you have, you can't get away from the huge responsibility of being a parent. The endless worry is still there no matter how rich you are. Speaking for myself, even the 'good' parts of having children just don't appeal and I wouldn't want to do it even if I was loaded.

Having said that, I too have noticed a recent trend in high profile women getting pregnant in their 40s. I don't think it has an awful lot to do with the realities of life for 'ordinary' women however.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 05/09/2025 19:19

Cetim · 05/09/2025 18:53

I think more and more women are postponing having a child until 40s rather than outright saying they don't want them. But there is a growing amount of women younger than us who are ruling it out completely. I am 39 with several friends my age who want children but don't want them yet. But I work with many younger women who know they do not want them. So I think you maybe right for our generation but definitely younger women are saying no to motherhood.

At 39, they want DC but don't want them yet, that's extremely self indulgent, trying to squeeze the last drop of child-free months.
I'm sure their future DC can't wait to have a mother that's dealing with perimenopause when they're toddlers, full blown menopause when they're teenagers, fun times.

CrispySquid · 05/09/2025 19:11

I was at hen-do a couple of weeks ago. There were 14 of us, all aged between 37-42 and only 2/14 women had children or wanted children. The other 12 were happily childfree

JNicholson · 05/09/2025 19:10

Cetim · 05/09/2025 18:53

I think more and more women are postponing having a child until 40s rather than outright saying they don't want them. But there is a growing amount of women younger than us who are ruling it out completely. I am 39 with several friends my age who want children but don't want them yet. But I work with many younger women who know they do not want them. So I think you maybe right for our generation but definitely younger women are saying no to motherhood.

I’m not denying that some people always know they want to be childfree, and stay with that. But some people do think that when they’re younger, and then change their minds. I’ve seen lots of posts on here by women saying they had no interest up to x age, then suddenly and unexpectedly the desire to be a mum hit and they had a child. So I’m not sure I’d really put that much stock in what younger women are saying now. Let’s see how many of them are still childfree at 45, and whether the numbers are really so different.

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