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Buying house - homeless outside

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Whatinthedoopla · 03/09/2025 21:21

Hi,

I'm buying a house, and opposite the garden is the community car park. Area is lovely, people are lovely. However, I've noticed thpere has been a van parked right outside the garden (obviously in a parking space), and has been there for weeks. I thought nothing of it, then saw they they open the door and it looks like people live in it! And they look homeless, I saw they legs popping out of the van.

The house has now been emptied, and I'm worried that the homeless people are going into the garden to get water from the tap outside.

My partner isn't worried, but I am, or AIBU?

What should I do?

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Shakespearandi · 04/09/2025 12:21

N1222 · 03/09/2025 22:05

💯

Yes!

GAJLY · 04/09/2025 12:20

To be honest that would bother me too. I'd take pictures and report them to the council to get moved off over night. I'd be concerned as to where they're going to the toilet and accessing water. Perhaps you can park your car and do a mini stakeout, to see if its going to effect your new house.

seasid · 04/09/2025 12:18

The way you have to point out you’re buying a house to show the stark comparison compared to you having the finances to buy a home and these people not even having the money to live anywhere except their car. You seem very snobby, they’re not affecting you. They’re not causing trouble. You should count yourself lucky that you’re privileged enough to have a roof over your head enough to actually buy a home. Maybe change your mentality of hating on homeless people because they’re lowering the status of what you have in mind of the area and change it to - hey they’re homeless maybe I should offer them some bottled water

Ginburee · 04/09/2025 12:14

For all the people being sympathetic to the van dwellers, take a trip to Bristol and see the state of caravan city in a beauty spot.
There has already been a case of a child who ended up with human waste in its eyes as there is excrement everywhere. Campers are not keeping it nicely inside thier caravans.
Also the health and safety aspect of the gas, there have been fires which could be devastating.

Someone2025 · 04/09/2025 12:08

Whatinthedoopla · 03/09/2025 21:56

I love the house and garden, but this has just made me worry a lot. I have little kids who will be running around in the garden, not sure if these people may be peeping through the gate, getting water at night.

Why don’t you just politely ask them if they would move on

BumpyWinds · 04/09/2025 12:04

Thelnebriati · 03/09/2025 22:04

If you look on Amazon you can buy a lock for an outside tap.

Or, like ours, make it possible to turn it off from the inside. It's always recommended anyway over winter to stop the pipes bursting.

Cucy · 04/09/2025 12:02

Whatinthedoopla · 04/09/2025 11:47

Exactly!

Many vans are like campervans and have toilets in them.
Or they use public toilets.

Do you think they’re also shitting in your garden?

Do you actually want to move or are you using this as an excuse?

Praying4Peace · 04/09/2025 11:58

Whatinthedoopla · 03/09/2025 21:56

I love the house and garden, but this has just made me worry a lot. I have little kids who will be running around in the garden, not sure if these people may be peeping through the gate, getting water at night.

OP, you are being prejudiced and judgmental

ChickalettasGiblets · 04/09/2025 11:58

Abitofalark · 04/09/2025 11:50

A cautionary tale for women is the horrific case of the female flat owner in west London who took in a homeless man and only to be brutally murdered a few days later. I read about it only very recently. Not typical perhaps but my goodness, appalling. You really don't know anything about who you'd be taking in.

Exactly. It’s one thing taking in someone you know or have a connection to who is homeless, but someone you don’t know at all is (to me at least) not wise. As someone said up thread, some homeless people are dealing with addiction and mental health issues which could cause them to behave in a way that’s out of character.

Catwalking · 04/09/2025 11:55

is the vehicle road taxed- u can look up the registration no. online etc
also think there’s a specific period of time a vehicle can b parked in a particular spot? Could be worth getting your Surveyor to look into this?

Abitofalark · 04/09/2025 11:50

ChickalettasGiblets · 04/09/2025 11:00

I don’t even know where to begin with how bonkers this response is. So you’re suggesting the OP take in someone they don’t know from Adam when they have young children? Someone they may not be able to remove when they actually want to live in the property???

Don’t suppose anyone on this thread has actually considered that maybe the person is happy as they are and doesn’t want help!!

A cautionary tale for women is the horrific case of the female flat owner in west London who took in a homeless man and only to be brutally murdered a few days later. I read about it only very recently. Not typical perhaps but my goodness, appalling. You really don't know anything about who you'd be taking in.

Whatinthedoopla · 04/09/2025 11:47

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Exactly!

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ChickalettasGiblets · 04/09/2025 11:47

Petitchat · 04/09/2025 11:24

My nephew and his wife did exactly this.
Took a homeless couple with a baby in, to help out. Silly, because he didn't even know them, just being too soft.

Cousin was attacked and money stolen in the night.
Is still injured 2 years later, wife still traumatised.

FInancial compensation doesn't alleviate at all, after what they went through.
So, please never let strangers stay over in your home...

That’s awful that happened to them when they were trying to be kind.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 04/09/2025 11:43

Why don't you go and speak to them.
See what's what.

LeticiaMorales · 04/09/2025 11:41

housebrick · 04/09/2025 10:40

There seems to be a lot of 'fear of strangers' in these posts.

A sensible seller will have turned the water off - I can't see any mention of them actually taking water. (Not of disposing of toilet waste either)

Lots can't afford houses/have left for a variety of reasons. The economy has.t been kind to many.

As to ones own children - statistically aren't they more at risk from members of ones own family/friends - not people who happen to live in a van.

What about the other to be neighbours?

Chances in they'll be gone in a bit. A quiet van in a car park - better than it being a dogging destination?

So to many on here be less Karen, more Alan Bennett.

Cheers.

I agreed with you, until your use of the term "Karen".

Abitofalark · 04/09/2025 11:38

What's does community car park mean? Is it a public car park that anyone can use? Is it owned by the council? Or is it a private facility designated for a housing development? We had someone living in a caravan in our street some years ago and two parked fairly recently but not being lived in. They were reported and removed. I imagine it was the local council that dealt with them.

Based on having an outside tap myself, there will be a mechanism where you can turn off the supply to it inside the house or you can have one fitted. Yours may be different but you need to look at the water supply pipes and figure out if there is already a facility to turn it off from inside.

StripyShirt · 04/09/2025 11:38

I wouldn't buy a house opposite a car park, or anywhere else that allows the possibility of people hanging around.

LeticiaMorales · 04/09/2025 11:37

WiddlinDiddlin · 04/09/2025 10:55

Wellllll... it is likely that they are stolen legs.

Could be...😉

Gall10 · 04/09/2025 11:26

GeniuneWorkOfFart · 03/09/2025 21:34

Report it to who? It's not illegal Hmm

First of all put the vans number plate into the dvla website….if it’s taxed, insured & has a valid MOT then I doubt there’s much you can do about it. If it’s isn’t then report to ? Council

Petitchat · 04/09/2025 11:24

ChickalettasGiblets · 04/09/2025 11:00

I don’t even know where to begin with how bonkers this response is. So you’re suggesting the OP take in someone they don’t know from Adam when they have young children? Someone they may not be able to remove when they actually want to live in the property???

Don’t suppose anyone on this thread has actually considered that maybe the person is happy as they are and doesn’t want help!!

My nephew and his wife did exactly this.
Took a homeless couple with a baby in, to help out. Silly, because he didn't even know them, just being too soft.

Cousin was attacked and money stolen in the night.
Is still injured 2 years later, wife still traumatised.

FInancial compensation doesn't alleviate at all, after what they went through.
So, please never let strangers stay over in your home...

MissMoneyFairy · 04/09/2025 11:22

Have you spoken to the estate agent and your conveyancing solicitor about your concerns.

limegreenheart · 04/09/2025 11:19

Have you seen anyone use the tap, or even come onto the property? Someone in the situation you describe is likely to be pretty careful about being detected, whether they're actually doing anything illegal or just conscious that they might be spotted and reported even if they're not. It's possible they might have used the tap when the house was empty (assuming the water was not turned off) but much less likely when some's clearly bought the house/moving in.

If you know people are using it, can you turn the tap off at the source and just turn it on when you need it? A bit of a pain, but would save you the worries over cost.

Petitchat · 04/09/2025 11:16

SeaAndStars · 03/09/2025 21:47

Could you speak to the vendor/estate agent and get the tap turned off at the stop cock?

I live in a seaside area and we have lots of van lifers and house boaters OP. We've never had any trouble with them at all - they mostly seem to be quiet folk just living off grid.

And who can blame them?

Inyournewdress · 04/09/2025 11:13

From what you have said this could be something or nothing and various things in between. Maybe ring a bell next door and ask if any issues.

Catwalking · 04/09/2025 11:12

I’d just turn water off @. mains until you’re actually in residence.
We had a dustbins stolen by ‘travellers’ ( yeh they were parked in woods up hill & i saw it) they’d chucked our rubbish out onto the ‘drive’!
The other thing is, they see other things they might help themselves to, whilst accessing (illegally) the water.