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AIBU to seek a consensus on who is a socially acceptable recipitent of Mounjaro?

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Periperi2025 · 03/09/2025 19:05

So it seems that much of mumsnet and society judge users of WLI extremely harshly seeing them as fat and lazy people who should just eat less, move more and use more willpower. But apparently not all of us, some of us after divulging enough medical history as 'okay'..."not you just the other fatties!!"

So, are people with diagnosed endocrine and metabolic conditions, acceptable?

What about people with undiagnosed endocrine and metabolic disorders, it's taken me over a decade to get to the point i am now, which is under endcrinology with a confirmed 'problem' and a working diagnosis but nothing more, my story is sadly far from unusual. You don't know who they are, they don't know who they are (although they may have astrong inkling), quite the conundrum!!

What about people with diagnosed Type 2 diabetes, who once were also just fat people without type 2 diabetes (mostly)?

What about people who are just fat now but statistically likely to develop type 2 diabetes in the future, like the current Type 2 diabetes patients were 10 years ago?

What about the people with severely disordered eating? As a society and a health service we deem it justifible and, hopefully preferrable to treat Anorexia Nervosa, including as inpatients at great expense (£500+ per day in the NHS), compared to treating an obese eating disordered patient with Mounjaro at a cost of approx £9 per day to the NHS for the highest dose. Presuambly in a civilised society we think that both groups of patients deserve a chance at a better quality life and improved life expextancy, and we dont think that Anorexics should just eat more and move less?!

So my AIBU is?
Are all of the above groups socially acceptable recipitents of Mounjaro?

YABU - no there are not all acceptable the gluttunous, lazy, weak willed cheats.

YANBU - of course they are all socially acceptable recipitents given that they meet the prescribing criteria for Mounjaro which has been accessed for Risk vs Benefit via peer reviewed research.

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Periperi2025 · 04/09/2025 09:41

LayeredlikeanOnion · 04/09/2025 09:06

Why don't you lie and say you have xyz and therefore you are allowed to have it?

Because nobody should have to lie or feel shame, and doing this supports the attitude that there is something inherently shameful about obesity.

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PutThe · 04/09/2025 09:39

Digdongdoo · 04/09/2025 09:31

There isn't evidence of it because it hasn't happened before. Obesity is a modern phenomenon. There's no reason to believe that a push towards better nutrition and more active lifestyles wouldn't make a difference. We need to look at what healthier countries do that we don't. We can't medicate away problems- it doesn't work.

Yes, exactly. There isn't evidence of it, becaue it hasn't happened before. So you're guessing. You overstated your case when you said such societal change was 'certainly possible'. There's no certainty. And not one example of a society that's successfully managed obesity doing what you suggest, so it's not clear what you think we'd be studying.

Whereas we do actually know that ongoing WLI use works. There is one example of a country that has successfully reduced their obesity rate, and that's the US in 2024. It certainly wasn't because of food quality. Their WLI rates went up though!

The issue with WLI isn't effectiveness, as we know it works. It's with cost, which is going to come down over time. But what youre actually saying here is that we should reject something that we know works because of some idea you have with no evidence. That is not a risk we can afford to take.

Periperi2025 · 04/09/2025 09:39

RingoJuice · 04/09/2025 08:41

I think people need to get over their hesitation here. These drugs are here to stay and will be used in all sorts of health applications in the future.

I self-treated my PCOS with GLP-1s (I get compounded versions in the US) and it really helped with certain symptoms that I had been trying to treat for years. There seems to be some anti-aging effects to them as well, I can well imagine that most Western people of a certain age will be using some form to extend their lifespan. Needless to say, I plan to micro dose these drugs for the time being.

That's interesting. I was recently looking at all the ongoing and planned studies for new Mounjaro indictations (alcohol misuse, heart failure, PCOS, Fatty liver disease etc) and one thing that jumped out was they were all 'x condition' with obesity and no attempt to look at microdosing for these conditions in normal weight individuals which i found strange and a obvious missed opportunity.

Do you think there might be a degree of jealousy that we (obese people) are getting to play with the shiny new toys and they (normal weight people) aren't?!

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MargoLivebetter · 04/09/2025 09:38

@Periperi2025 brave post!

Personally, I think that if you are self-funding then it is entirely up to you and your prescribing physician and there is no moral judgement to be made at all. I don't even think it should matter what your BMI is, as that should be a judgement call by the physician, particularly as more people want to use WLI for maintenance.

I think there is a wider conversation to be had around the NHS. I think that obesity costs the NHS so much money it would be really, really sensible to get people on WLI asap. I really hope that the clever people at NICE will do their cost benefit analysis and this will become a no-brainer in a few years.

Despite what all the fat haters would want you to believe, people become obese for a very wide variety of reasons, not because they are scum of the earth sloths, who lack will-power, motivation etc etc etc. The causes are so deep rooted in so much of what is not working well in society generally that I think it will be harder to tackle all of it in the short term than just prescribe WLI. That is not to say that all the issues do not need to be tackled, but that is such a heaving, ginormous can of worms I don't see it happening any time remotely soon.

Digdongdoo · 04/09/2025 09:31

PutThe · 04/09/2025 09:01

You conflate two different things here.

There is evidence that healthy lifestyles mean lower obesity. There is no evidence whatsoever that telling an already majority overweight and substantial minority obese population to adopt healthier lifestyles will tackle that. And there is evidence that long term WLIs assist formerly obese people to stay at a healthy BMI, in greater number than diet too.

Japan is not a relevant example here because they have never been a majority overweight society, unlike us. What we need to undertake is a reversal process.

There isn't evidence of it because it hasn't happened before. Obesity is a modern phenomenon. There's no reason to believe that a push towards better nutrition and more active lifestyles wouldn't make a difference. We need to look at what healthier countries do that we don't. We can't medicate away problems- it doesn't work.

Periperi2025 · 04/09/2025 09:29

WickedWitchoftheDesk · 04/09/2025 08:12

I have lipoedema, a connective tissue disorder, sometimes called ‘painful fat disease’. I carry large amounts of nodular, unsightly fat on my limbs and upper arms.

I am on Mounjaro because it helps with the pain and inflammation. It is helping me lose any non-lipoedema fat and ready myself for much needed lipoedema liposuction reduction surgery, which is not available on the NHS and will cost me tens of thousands of pounds.

I am otherwise fit, active and healthy so have to pay for my Mounjaro and I will continue to take it. I eat very little now and will soon see my ribs and collar bones sticking out, lose hair and my face look gaunt - whilst still remaining a fat-legged high BMI.

My boss, a GP, won’t even prescribe privately for me (so I can obtain at cost price through our dispensary) even though she can see how much it helps.

I do admit to being mildly irritated by type 2 diabetics, who have brought on their condition entirely due to their unhealthy lifestyle, being given the drug for free but there is absolutely nothing I can do to influence NHS England’s prescribing criteria (I am also annoyed that my GP will prescribe different/special erectile dysfunction meds privately. 🙄) As I have a disease that only affects women, there is barely any research into how GLP1 drugs help the condition, despite all the anecdotal evidence.

It is clear that one of my daughters has the same condition as me, which will only worsen with each hormonal change so I’m saving now for her to be able to access surgery should she wish, before she gets to the stage I am at.

Thanks for your story. I have to admit, despite 25 years in the NHS i've only really learnt about Lipoedema since being on Mounjaro and reading other peoples stories, then noticing it occasionaly on the women i see.

It sounds very tough and unpleasant.

Mounjaro seems to be amazing for certain conditions and is being recommended by forward thinking doctors off label, for obesity with.....

I certainly feel way better than my weight loss alone, so i hope it is having some postive impact on my underlying endocrine condition, but only time will tell, and since what i am suspected of having (Cyclical Cushing's) is so vanishingly rare, it will be back of the line for any research funding.

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Periperi2025 · 04/09/2025 09:19

Homec00k · 04/09/2025 07:51

Right so having lived a life costing the NHS double that of everybody else you now want end of life care cut so that even more can be spent on the same group of people that are getting the most already.

No

Have you ever considered that you obvious deep hatred of obese people could be a contributing factor in your childs mental health condition?

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RingoJuice · 04/09/2025 09:15

GeckoClimber · 04/09/2025 09:01

@MizzeryGuts in 1950 the UK was still under rationing.

There’s an argument that rationing contributed epigenetically to the current obesity epidemic (contributed to also by access to cheap UPFs).
One of the things that comes out time and time again is that following a restrictive diet results in overeating and weight gain, even in the absence of junk food.

Hmmm people were literally starving to death in the final year of WW2 in Japan. It was a very very serious situation.

There are certain things they do now to avoid that experience—if you ever wonder why they have rice fields in inexplicably urban settings. If anything the Western countries (minus Germany) were very well fed at the time.

PutThe · 04/09/2025 09:14

GeckoClimber · 04/09/2025 09:01

@MizzeryGuts in 1950 the UK was still under rationing.

There’s an argument that rationing contributed epigenetically to the current obesity epidemic (contributed to also by access to cheap UPFs).
One of the things that comes out time and time again is that following a restrictive diet results in overeating and weight gain, even in the absence of junk food.

And before that, hunger was a very real problem. People often forget what a recent development it is to have whole societies with the resources to give their entire populations 3 meals a day for their entire lives- I realise that doesn't always happen in the UK even now but it's not because the food isn't available. Most of us probably are not very far removed from a malnourished ancestor.

There's also smoking rates. In the 70s, half the population were on an appetite suppressant drug.

Periperi2025 · 04/09/2025 09:11

DancefloorAcrobatics · 04/09/2025 07:06

But diet's do work!
I have a low UPF diet, it does have the desired effect of feeling better and I lost some of the extra weight I am carrying.

I'm currently doing what is known as carb loading for a multiday hike next week- ok I put some weight on (that I will have lost by day 3 hiking up & down some mountains!)

The question is, does the average obese person care enough about themselves to embrace a diet with low UPF's, lots of plain vegetables, fruits and meals cooked from scratch? Do they have the skills and time?

WLI are just creating a dependency that will make some companies billions! Billions that will be paid by individuals, governments and health services.

I've been very low upf for almost 2 years, and it wasn't a huge shift from by prior diet.

It has kept my rising HbA1c in check, but that is it, no weight loss and cholesterol continued to rise.

I also exercise regularly (all my hobbies and socialising have been outdoors sports based since i was a teenager) but with limitations as recovery from exercise is really tough with very low testosterone.

It is great that it works for you, but for people that have an underlying endocrine/metabolic condition (whether diagnosed or not), it is unfortunately not that straightforward.

Obviously, that doesn't mean we shouldn't all be striving to eat less UPFs and the government should definitely be leading on this, and I'd recommend every one reads ultra processed people (just for the description of ice cream processing and their future hopes and for the history of nazi coal butter if nothing else!!).

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LayeredlikeanOnion · 04/09/2025 09:06

Why don't you lie and say you have xyz and therefore you are allowed to have it?

GeckoClimber · 04/09/2025 09:04

RingoJuice · 04/09/2025 08:41

I think people need to get over their hesitation here. These drugs are here to stay and will be used in all sorts of health applications in the future.

I self-treated my PCOS with GLP-1s (I get compounded versions in the US) and it really helped with certain symptoms that I had been trying to treat for years. There seems to be some anti-aging effects to them as well, I can well imagine that most Western people of a certain age will be using some form to extend their lifespan. Needless to say, I plan to micro dose these drugs for the time being.

I remember my grandmother criticising me for being treated for asthma 50 years ago. She felt it was weak spirited to need help in this way.

I think we’re seeing a similar reaction with GLP1s right now, compounded with the poor and judgmental attitude towards obesity.

GeckoClimber · 04/09/2025 09:01

@MizzeryGuts in 1950 the UK was still under rationing.

There’s an argument that rationing contributed epigenetically to the current obesity epidemic (contributed to also by access to cheap UPFs).
One of the things that comes out time and time again is that following a restrictive diet results in overeating and weight gain, even in the absence of junk food.

PutThe · 04/09/2025 09:01

Digdongdoo · 04/09/2025 08:32

Of course there's evidence that healthy lifestyles reduce obesity. Medication may be easier, but societal level changes are certainly possible. Japan is a good example.

You conflate two different things here.

There is evidence that healthy lifestyles mean lower obesity. There is no evidence whatsoever that telling an already majority overweight and substantial minority obese population to adopt healthier lifestyles will tackle that. And there is evidence that long term WLIs assist formerly obese people to stay at a healthy BMI, in greater number than diet too.

Japan is not a relevant example here because they have never been a majority overweight society, unlike us. What we need to undertake is a reversal process.

RingoJuice · 04/09/2025 08:41

I think people need to get over their hesitation here. These drugs are here to stay and will be used in all sorts of health applications in the future.

I self-treated my PCOS with GLP-1s (I get compounded versions in the US) and it really helped with certain symptoms that I had been trying to treat for years. There seems to be some anti-aging effects to them as well, I can well imagine that most Western people of a certain age will be using some form to extend their lifespan. Needless to say, I plan to micro dose these drugs for the time being.

spoonbillstretford · 04/09/2025 08:36

MizzeryGuts · 04/09/2025 08:29

In 1950 the average British woman was 5’2” and weighed 59kg.

By 1993 according to the NHS average height of a woman had increased to 5’4” and weight was now 66.6kg.

By 2019 the NHS reported average weight of a woman is now 72.1kg and obesity prevalence among the overweight has shot up to 29%.

There are lots of reasons why this happened, but there hasn’t been a genetic or evolutionary shift towards all of these complicating conditions that you mention in the OP. So it’s - combination of lifestyle choices and environment.

I am overweight and I absolutely know that I have caused this situation - not entirely by choice but certainly I could have done more to stay fit and active. I was clearly educated at school on the benefits of healthy food and an active lifestyle.

So I think that’s what there is judgement. It’s not that people don’t understand there are conditions causing obesity but that many people have made choices that trigger or drive these conditions to become worse.

72kg is ok if you're 5'7" though. I know as that's what I now weigh after 16 years of being between 79kg and 91kg. It would be interesting to know what the height distribution is like these days. Though I'm not doubting that there is an obesity problem.

Digdongdoo · 04/09/2025 08:32

PutThe · 04/09/2025 08:26

I expect we all think they would be better. If they existed. But there's no evidence they do, whereas there is evidence that long term WLI use keeps the weight off. Your argument is essentially that there must be a way to deal with societal obesity in an environment completely different to what humans evolved in, because you want there to be.

We ought to address the obesogenic environment anyway, and improve access to healthy foods. Thin people can be malnourished, skinny fat is a thing, so MJ doesn't deal with that specific problem. Being a healthy BMI doesn't mean a person can access adequate nutrition, their 5 a day. But we also can't afford to indulge ourselves with people's vague ideals when we have a societal obesity crisis and a drug that actually works and will be much cheaper in a decade or two.

Of course there's evidence that healthy lifestyles reduce obesity. Medication may be easier, but societal level changes are certainly possible. Japan is a good example.

MizzeryGuts · 04/09/2025 08:29

In 1950 the average British woman was 5’2” and weighed 59kg.

By 1993 according to the NHS average height of a woman had increased to 5’4” and weight was now 66.6kg.

By 2019 the NHS reported average weight of a woman is now 72.1kg and obesity prevalence among the overweight has shot up to 29%.

There are lots of reasons why this happened, but there hasn’t been a genetic or evolutionary shift towards all of these complicating conditions that you mention in the OP. So it’s - combination of lifestyle choices and environment.

I am overweight and I absolutely know that I have caused this situation - not entirely by choice but certainly I could have done more to stay fit and active. I was clearly educated at school on the benefits of healthy food and an active lifestyle.

So I think that’s what there is judgement. It’s not that people don’t understand there are conditions causing obesity but that many people have made choices that trigger or drive these conditions to become worse.

spoonbillstretford · 04/09/2025 08:27

FurForksSake · 04/09/2025 08:22

@spoonbillstretfordi am 5ft2. I’ve lost 5st7.

Ah, sorry. I can't find my reading glasses at the moment. Also, well done on your weight loss!

PutThe · 04/09/2025 08:26

Digdongdoo · 04/09/2025 08:04

Well it's the consequence of short term politics isn't it. These changes should have been made decades ago. We need the sugar tax on steroids.
A full belly isn't expensive. We would do well to take note of how poor people in other countries, or in our own history ate. A little bit of fatty meat is enough to meet protein and fat needs and is far cheaper than adding healthy fats to lean protein.
I did also mention subsidies to make these choices more affordable. I'd rather government spend money on healthy lifestyles than medication. I appreciate you don't agree but I believe longer term, wider reaching solutions would be better.

I expect we all think they would be better. If they existed. But there's no evidence they do, whereas there is evidence that long term WLI use keeps the weight off. Your argument is essentially that there must be a way to deal with societal obesity in an environment completely different to what humans evolved in, because you want there to be.

We ought to address the obesogenic environment anyway, and improve access to healthy foods. Thin people can be malnourished, skinny fat is a thing, so MJ doesn't deal with that specific problem. Being a healthy BMI doesn't mean a person can access adequate nutrition, their 5 a day. But we also can't afford to indulge ourselves with people's vague ideals when we have a societal obesity crisis and a drug that actually works and will be much cheaper in a decade or two.

Snoken · 04/09/2025 08:24

I think the reason why a lot of people view WLI negatively is because of how it started. It started with rich and famous people who carried a few extra pounds (if even that) who bought up medication (I think mainly Ozempic back then) that was desperately needed by diabetics who because of it had to go without. It was seen as a greedy, vain and quite cruel. The situation and production volumes have changed since then but I think the reputation has stuck with many.

I think any way to safely reverse the growing obesity crisis is good and needed. It will cost us all so much more in the end if nothing is done and if this is what works for people right now then great. Something else might come along eventually and then that will be seen as controversial and WLI will be the old trusted method.

FurForksSake · 04/09/2025 08:22

@spoonbillstretfordi am 5ft2. I’ve lost 5st7.

Oakcupboard · 04/09/2025 08:18

I’m diabetic and use it, I wish it had have available before I became diabetic

Worralorra · 04/09/2025 08:14

YABU for thinking it’s any business of anyone other than the person either getting it for free on the NHS under their extremely stringent guidelines or paying for it out of their own pocket, and their respective doctors.
Societal approval/judgement is neither expected, welcome nor wanted.
MYOB people!

Deepbluesea1 · 04/09/2025 08:12

What about the people with severely disordered eating? As a society and a health service we deem it justifible and, hopefully preferrable to treat Anorexia Nervosa, including as inpatients at great expense (£500+ per day in the NHS), compared to treating an obese eating disordered patient with Mounjaro at a cost of approx £9 per day to the NHS for the highest dose. Presuambly in a civilised society we think that both groups of patients deserve a chance at a better quality life and improved life expextancy, and we dont think that Anorexics should just eat more and move less?!

you clearly know nothing about anorexia. it's a severe mental illness from which people (if they restrict eating) would die very quickly. Its a very very different illness. YABU unreasonable to link it to the conversation.

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