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Don’t want Dh to start getting home from work earlier

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Alltheladshaveweirdhaircutsthesedays · 03/09/2025 16:08

Dh used to get home from work around 6 onwards, in summer they’ve been going into work earlier and arriving home earlier at 4.30, due to the heat. They’ve all decided they prefer this at his workplace and will stick with these hours.
I pick Dd, 6 up from school and am home for 3.30, I really used to enjoy this time for just us, we’d have a snack and cuddle up together on the sofa, read books, watch tv and chat, we’d then maybe play for a bit, take the dog for a walk, then i’d get dinner ready later.
It just takes this away with Dh arriving not long after, changes the dynamic
At weekends we’re all home and also she’s at friends houses or has friends around

Aibu to be sad at missing this quiet time just for us?

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Alltheladshaveweirdhaircutsthesedays · 03/09/2025 16:19

Sorejaws · 03/09/2025 16:18

Do you work op?
how old is your child?

6
I work part time

OP posts:
Sorejaws · 03/09/2025 16:18

Do you work op?
how old is your child?

1457bloom · 03/09/2025 16:12

Wait until he retires!

Someonelookedatmypostinghistorysoichanged · 03/09/2025 16:11

i can see your point of view but also what about your dh wanting to spend time with his family.
The her out for picnics and to library … just to two of you.
I love an empty house but I’d be rightly pissed off to find dh didn’t want me home early.

BirdBathSpaNowOpen · 03/09/2025 16:11

I think it is lovely your Dh also gets this time with her too. Maybe you get an hour just the two of you and then Dh and DD get an hour just the two of them. Dh was always a very involved Dad, still is and the children are adults. You get to do the pick up every day, maybe he would love to do that too but working hours prevent it.

I think you should embrace it and share it.

casualcrispenjoyer · 03/09/2025 16:11

But how does him being there stop you doing that?

if I liked the solo time with DC, I’d say ‘I’ve got the child for an hour- can you go do prep dinner/clean the bathroom/sort that bag out for the charity shop?’

Sorejaws · 03/09/2025 16:11

Not unreasonable to feel sad, no

but bugger all you can do about it

so as long as you don’t mope around dabbing at your tears, you’ll get used to it