My daughter wants a boob job

Please don't tell her she can't have a mammogram - it's complete nonsense! I have implants and have had several mammograms - there are no issues.

I do understand your concerns about her self-esteem, but she is an adult so I think you have to support her as best you can.

Is she terrified of getting naked with another man because of asymmetrical breasts? What about getting naked with implants? Would that not make her feel more self conscious? Lots of women say they feel more confident in themselves when they have their implants removed. If she goes ahead with surgery she will regret it in the future. Talking therapy would be a better investment.

I hope she also asked about her ears rather than you just offered!!

You are being unreasonable, but let's be clear:

She is 25, an adult, and can make her own decisions. As someone who did this very same thing; it was perhaps one of the biggest and best decisions of my life imo personally. My confidence level soared through the roof, which helped me in my social life, as well as presented itself ultimately in my career through our life since no longer was I shy and hiding by myself: I was eager to have relationships with others, speak my mind, yet collaborate. Confidence helps in all areas of life. Let's be honest

But again, to be clear, as an adult: she should pay for it.

You totally can support her though!.By going to appointments. (If she is comfortable obvs.). And. helping ask questions about the process, the risks, will they need to be replaced (is she getting implants or just reconstruction I was not clear on this ...). And tbh I am not familiar with current types of surgery options (under breast/through armpit/naval, etc). or implant options either so those are good Q's Being a reconstructive surgery, it may entail a lift and even nipple movement on one breast, which could scar, but surely todays surgeons have better techniques... So long as your family history does not have bad scarring generally

Hope of help!

Op, I’ve had a boob job and still have asymmetry.
they look big and full- yes- but not symmetrical.
my surgeon said an augmentation can actually make asymmetry look worse so might be worth asking her how she would feel about that ?

“mammography can be less effective in women who have breast implants. This is because the X-rays cannot ‘see’ through an implant to the breast tissue behind it.”

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/breast-screening-breast-implant-guidelines/breast-implants-and-breast-screening#:~:text=and%2Dbreast%2Dscreening-,1.,be%20able%20to%20be%20screened.

I hope somehow that your DD will come to a conclusion that her breasts are perfectly normal and not want surgery. The only practical thing you can do is not offer to fund surgery.

Op, I would tell your DD once how you really feel. That's it.

I completely understand your feelings around this, but in the end it is your dd's decision.

Take her to a surgeon who specialises in breast reconstruction after cancer. They do do boob jobs, but will not be trying to encourage her to have implants like other breast surgeons. They will tell her straight if they think she has nothing to worry about.
from personal experience boob jobs don’t necessarily achieve same size breasts. Implants can contract with scar tissue and you can’t plan which boob would have this.

The boob job, although invasive, isn't the main issue.
WHO is she doing this for?
For herself, to feel better, more satisfied and relaxed - yes, OP, please support her.
To fit in with what "men find attractive" - absolutely not.

Why would she lie to her?

@nellietheellie75 @McSpoot thanks for clarifying!

My sister had a huge body hair issue, she was a 20yo virgin because she was mortified of her hair. She is blonde, pale and had the lightest fairest smallest amount of hair I've ever seen. She paid a fortune for laser removal pretty much everywhere. It's only now years later that she can see they weren't a big deal at all and she was just hyper focused on them and couldn't let it go. She regrets all of her insecurities around it. Hopefully if your DD is on a big waiting list or something she has more time to delve into why this is such a huge issue for her x

No. Though there may be some special considerations. We also don't know if she wants an implant/implants or a reduction of her "larger" breast.

No it's not. You can and should still have them.

Don't offer to pay and you could suggest that therapy to deal with the imperfections we all have might be an option, especially because there's a risk the surgery won't deliver the results she wants (greater confidence). But obviously at 25 you need to be supportive whatever she chooses.

Is that true ?

Most of us have asymetrical breasts. Before having a boob job your DD should consider that she is introducing a foreign substance to her body which may/will have long term consequences. Also, depending on what she has done, it will affect her ability to breast feed if she has children.

Don't tell her this, because it's utterly false and only likely to make her mistrust the other things you say.

Oh the poor girl and poor you. It's a horrible operation and should never be undertaken lightly. If we didn't live in this shit, porn soaked world filled with constant invasive, hateful and misogynistic messages about women's having to look like perfect pornbots she would not feel like this. I'd be really distressed too, if this was my daughter, risking her life and health for something so absolutely irrelevant, and ruining her chance to breastfeed in the future.

I don't know what to say, I hope she does not go ahead with this terrible idea.

She should certainly do her research about the dangers of the surgery and breast implant illness etc. Clips of Botched on YouTube were enough to put me off ever getting anything done.

Don’t offer to pay for the surgery because if she has any regrets / health complications later down the line she might blame you for it.

Definitely not. I've had 2 boob jobs and now removed them. Tell her to look up breast implant illness, they also need replacing throughout your life so more money to pay and more recoveries. Rupture, CC, bottoming out, pocket deformity, implant recall etc can happen at anytime.