My daughter wants a boob job

Thank God, such an invasive and sometimes dangerous operation, cutting up healthy flesh for no reason at all and ruining her ability to breast feed. There was nothing good at all about this idea, thank goodness she has come to her senses.

Great news. Sounds like she saw a brilliant surgeon 🙌

Thank you for the update OP.

Brilliant news.

That's good news, Op.

That's two completely different things though. What's the fact that mammograms dont check implants (of course they dont!) got to do with someone ranting about the other things mentioned. I did read it.

Yes, I know it’s true. . The guidance also states “Screening does not check your implants. If you think you have a problem with one or both implants, we won’t screen you. You need to see your GP who will check whether you need to be referred for further investigations.”

The person I quoted went off on a tangent stating “All the comments about 'make her watch a video of the operation being done' and 'tell her this/that/the other to put her off' are appalling…” If you read the entire thread perhaps you will understand.

Knowledge is power!

If she’s worried about this, how will
she feel about her body in 10/20 years? After kids?

Id love to have my 25 y/o B cups back. Id take asymmetrical for that!

What's your point about the mammogram? The person you quoted said you can get mammograms with implants which is true. If you read a few lines further it also says people with implants can get extra xrays taken to make it more effective. Also if the implant is behind the muscle then pressumably it's not so much of an issue anyway.

You do talk rubbish. There is nothing “appalling” about advising a person to do some research and watch the videos online prior to signing up for surgery.

Gov.UK guidance was posted upthread. It contains information about mammograms for those with breast implants. It clearly states “mammography can be less effective in women who have breast implants. This is because the X-rays cannot ‘see’ through an implant to the breast tissue behind it.” Take the time to read it and you might learn something.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/breast-screening-breast-implant-guidelines/breast-implants-and-breast-screening

I’m 25 too, and I’m one of the posters who said she should do a ton of research. Because it’s a fucking massive decision and lots of people have regrets. It’s also a decision based on body dysmorphia, and no one is going to tell her she’s beautiful just the way she is unless her mum does. We live in a world where plastic surgery is so normalised that people forget that there are risks. The surgeons are incentivised by money, it’s not in their interest to tell her she doesn’t have uneven boobs.

I had a boob job at 29 for the same reason and it was very noticeable as I very small anyway. I didn't go massive, knew what I wanted and have never so much as given a second thought to my breasts ever since which was such a relief after years of being painfully conscious both with clothes on and off.

It made a massive deference to my confidence, being able to buy bras that fitted, clothes looked better and even the way I held myself changed. My mum was really supportive and told me to go for it, I'm very glad she did.

I’m hoping they might say that they wouldn’t advise surgery because the difference is so insignificant but of course it’ll be about £.

Are there any ethical surgeons out there I wonder? I wonder is there any forum where they discuss plastic surgery where they could advise.

There's no guarantee that they'd be perfectly even after a boob job either.

I thought it didn't work on light, fair hair?

Honestly, it’s really upsetting me to think of her beautiful young body being sliced into

It's not about you. She's 25 years old, a grown adult woman. She can (and should) make her own decisions about what she does to her own body. You don't have any ownership over her body just because you happened to give birth to her and your own emotional response to her 'beautiful young body being sliced into' isn't remotely helpful or relevant to her choice.

I understand why you feel the way you do, but I'm afraid you need to face the fact that your feelings, when it comes to another adult's body, simply don't matter.

All the comments about 'make her watch a video of the operation being done' and 'tell her this/that/the other to put her off' are appalling, frankly. She's 25 years old and is just as capable of making an informed decision about her body as any woman on this thread is. She's not a bloody child FFS and it's beyond patronising for people to assume that she can't make her own choices on this matter.

Tell her she cannot get a mammogram with implants

That's utter bullshit. You can absolutely get a mammogram with breast implants.

This is false. Don't peddle bullshit

If she wants a boob job, be supportive. For her it's probably the best thing she will ever do.

I’d advise a GP appointment before going straight to an appointment with a surgeon. She will be reassured and I’m sure she’s also aware from having researched it, that if she does have asymmetry, she would or would have (depending on allocation of NHS funds) qualify(ied) for corrective surgery. She will be told this. If as you say it’s all her head she will also be told that. She can then look into:
elective surgery if she still wants it, accepting the reassurance from a medical professional, or looking into some therapy for body dysmorphia.

Tell her to watch a video the operation being done - it's horrific.

I'm glad your operation went well.
But breast surgery is major surgery and carries all the risks of major surgery.
Plus there are the very real possibilities of complications afterwards with the implants etc.

you don't often, if ever, hear of women dying in the UK with breast augmentation or other plastic surgery.
Not often hearing about it is no consolation to those who happen to die - think of poor Colin Hendrie who lost his wife.
And not hearing about the complications doesnt mean they don't happen.
We as women are always being pressurised into achieving perfection. I do not think it's worth putting life and health at risk just to conform to societies view of what women should look like.

Why? Because that would be lying?

total bollocks, of course you can get a mammogram with implants.

I disagree with the not worth the risk bit.

I had surgery (albeit not a breast surgery) and it was worth every single risk. I had therapy and was told I was normal but nothing worked.

the surgery has genuinely changed my life. Given me a huge confidence boost words could never give.

It depends on the person and how much the issue gets to them.

you don't often, if ever, hear of women dying in the UK with breast augmentation or other plastic surgery. Plastic surgery in the UK is very safe so long as research has been done and every other avenue explored.

It’s her choice at 25 to be honest you can only support her in what she chooses to do

Ah didn't read all the comments, I thought you meant mine.

I would advise helping her to chose the right surgeon who will listen to her concerns and advise.

I have mine done 12 years ago (which i am still very happy about) amd my surgeon was very clear about what could/couldn't be achieved and wouldn't operate if he felt my expectations were unrealistic. He also strongly advised sizes that would be too big/wide and explained what he would be happy and not happy to do.