Would you be angry at this? Someone calm me down

Good luck.

That's good that they're acting quickly.

Your husband needs to pull his mother up sharply on her behaviour and her complete and utter disregard for your instructions re your son's health!

I hope your DS is fine and it’s just a false alarm. I mean imo that sounds like a lot of sugar for anyone, let alone a child with possible diabetes. I’d tread carefully with the MIL though, especially until you have a diagnosis…if you bring it up with her again I’d focus on discussing your concerns about your DS’s health rather than criticising the food she’s given him, so she doesn’t take it personally or get defensive. It might help her appreciate how serious it is and see it’s for his benefit.

Fizzy drinks is absolutely not the "Fastest way to develop child diabetes" stop being thick

If your MiL is forcing a slice of cake on your child with another 2 'huge slabs' on his plate presumably awaiting further forcing, then she is clearly unwell herself, and shouldn't be caring for a child, regardless of whether the child has a medical condition.

If you think your kid has diabetes you don’t cut down on crap! You take the straight to the doctors or A&E.

Good luck OP. As a mum of a T1, I really it’s not diabetes but even if it is, you’ve got this.

As to your MiL, she’s shown her colours and that she is happy to risk your child’s health just to prove a point. She can’t be trusted to look after him unsupervised.

True. But there are many children developing Type 2 because of diet, lack of exercise and a genetic predisposition.

The OP said in her opening post that she has concerns about her child's health and done an e-health with their doctor and is waiting for a reply.

Many of us mothers knew when something wasn't right with our kids. Often was something not serious but in some cases, it was.

Until medical tests are run, the OP only has her instincts to guide her.

Your MIL sounds thick as shit. Your DH needs to tell her that she won't be looking after your child again until she addresses that.

At the moment you don't know if he has diabetes or not. Your absolute priority is to get him seen today. If he has got diabetes then you will have a diagnosis and I'm sure she will learn about his dietary requirements.

And fizzy drinks I just didn’t tolerate at all. I remember a conversation with my dentist years ago even before I had my own kids where he said he allowed his own kids everything in moderation except fizzy drinks. So mine never had them. Even now at 16 and 19 they would very rarely choose them. I’d have gone nuts if my parents had given mine fizzy drinks

Just to clarify majority of children who have diabetes, have Type 1. Type 1 is an autoimmune disease, and is not related to diet and lifestyle.

Hmm YANBU but I do think if you’re getting free childcare there’s an element of having to suck up that it may not be to your standards. What a stupid woman though. Hope your son is OK

Your priority is to get your DS tested for diabetes with the GP. Not just a standard urine but a blood test. It could be that he's drinking more because of the warm weather (and weeing more as a result) or a health concern. Until the GP runs the tests, you won't know. As a mother of 3 children, I always trusted my instincts and 90% of the time, I was right.

Regarding your MIL, I wouldn't leave my child with her if she keeps giving him Fanta and as much cake as he wants to because it's "what he wants to here". It's the fastest way to develop child diabetes, teeth issues and weight problems in the future.

Sit her down and tell her exactly what Type 1 diabetes is and how it can lead to amputation and death if not controlled. Show her pictures if needs be. Then ask her if she still thinks 3 huge slices of cake is a good idea for the grandson she professes to love.

OP read like she'd been worried all summer and was annoyed at mil and only just contacting GP.

You need to find alternative childcare for holidays. Yes, I'd be furious, but I'd also be channeling that fury into having him investigated for diabetes, and finding other childcare.

Oh I see the twats are out in force today. Can you nasty cows not read? Op literally said she was waiting for the doctor to get back to her, how is that doing nothing?

I would be furious OP.

Hope all is well with your DS.

Within reason, like anyone else.

Best of luck OP, I hope everything is ok

Your MIL thinks she knows better than you. She's shown she's going to do what she wants with your kid even if it harms him.

Time to stop any childcare for her. She's a big potential danger.

Someone who knows a child is showing symptoms of diabetes and goes against parental instructions to feed them crap that could put their glucose into orbit is abusive. She would harm a kid to prove a point.

Op u are doing the right thing and getting him checked. Doesn’t matter when u did it u are doing it now so that’s all that matters, you have been right to be suspicious and if something comes of it then at least it’s now been diagnosed and u take it from there. If not and it’s something easily explained then good for u for checking, but then I have to deal with the MIL. I absolutely do not think she should have ur child alone. Not only is she putting all sorts of rubbish into your child she is blatantly disrespecting and ignoring your requests as a Mother which is then showing your child how to disrespect you too. She is a total cow and as for saying child will
eat what they want here, well that will be the last time the child will be in her home, end of, no matter what dp says either.

Don’t let her look after him any more, sadly