Would you be angry at this? Someone calm me down

Enterusername111333 · 21/11/2025 19:40

I wonder how they got on.

NewtoTS · 09/09/2025 15:46

Ponoka7 · 08/09/2025 19:15

They haven't given a reason. The GP refused and when we've attended A&E (she has other health issues/low immune system) because the GP didn't think a referral was needed, they haven't tested. She's had pneumonia and sepsis, was in hospital for around a week, so needed bloods, but no joy. We've tested at home and it's shown changing glucose levels. We go through A&E at least four times a year. She has some LD's, mobility conditions and moderate hearing loss. There's been nothing but neglect, blamed on Covid.

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The slightly reassuring thing is if she had T1 diabetes it would eventually make itself known and if she’s been unwell for a while would probably have made itself known by now.

persianfairyfloss · 09/09/2025 02:10

Ponoka7 · 08/09/2025 19:15

They haven't given a reason. The GP refused and when we've attended A&E (she has other health issues/low immune system) because the GP didn't think a referral was needed, they haven't tested. She's had pneumonia and sepsis, was in hospital for around a week, so needed bloods, but no joy. We've tested at home and it's shown changing glucose levels. We go through A&E at least four times a year. She has some LD's, mobility conditions and moderate hearing loss. There's been nothing but neglect, blamed on Covid.

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Glucose levels change for everyone, it's how they work. I'd be looking for sustained highs after eating--if it doesn't come down after 2 hours it's significant or if it is always high, it's also significant.

It's absolutely ridiculous to refuse to do glucose or HBa1C, I hope someone listens to you soon.

SummerFrog25 · 08/09/2025 21:00

Ponoka7 · 08/09/2025 19:15

They haven't given a reason. The GP refused and when we've attended A&E (she has other health issues/low immune system) because the GP didn't think a referral was needed, they haven't tested. She's had pneumonia and sepsis, was in hospital for around a week, so needed bloods, but no joy. We've tested at home and it's shown changing glucose levels. We go through A&E at least four times a year. She has some LD's, mobility conditions and moderate hearing loss. There's been nothing but neglect, blamed on Covid.

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oh poor wee dot!

even if they don't think it's a problem. Why not test when they're doing bloods anyway. As far as tests go, it's cheap for them, even if they're just doing it to satisfy you, rather than because they're think it's necessary.

it's awful that there's been neglect!!

my own experience (re my stroke) has been pretty poor, but for a child it's just unforgivable. Sending lots of strength & love xx

Ponoka7 · 08/09/2025 19:15

SummerFrog25 · 07/09/2025 13:47

Why???

it's easy enough to buy a monitor & strips yourself. So ud do that immediately. But WHY are they refusing to test her

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They haven't given a reason. The GP refused and when we've attended A&E (she has other health issues/low immune system) because the GP didn't think a referral was needed, they haven't tested. She's had pneumonia and sepsis, was in hospital for around a week, so needed bloods, but no joy. We've tested at home and it's shown changing glucose levels. We go through A&E at least four times a year. She has some LD's, mobility conditions and moderate hearing loss. There's been nothing but neglect, blamed on Covid.

SummerFrog25 · 07/09/2025 13:54

5128gap · 03/09/2025 15:03

If your MiL is forcing a slice of cake on your child with another 2 'huge slabs' on his plate presumably awaiting further forcing, then she is clearly unwell herself, and shouldn't be caring for a child, regardless of whether the child has a medical condition.

This is a good point & well worth repeating (even days later!!)

SummerFrog25 · 07/09/2025 13:47

Ponoka7 · 03/09/2025 13:52

The GP has refused to test my youngest granddaughter. She has every symptom and constantly smells 'sweet', but we've been refused and even when going through A&E (she has a ridiculously low immune system) they haven't/won't test her.

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Why???

it's easy enough to buy a monitor & strips yourself. So ud do that immediately. But WHY are they refusing to test her

SummerFrog25 · 07/09/2025 13:36

Meadowfinch · 03/09/2025 12:35

YANBU. For a child with suspected diabetes - what is she trying to do? Kill him? Children that young shouldn't be having any fizzy drinks at all.

Don't leave him in her care again until you have an answer re: his general health, and even then, I wouldn't trust her. She's ignorant and dishonest.

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Where does it say how old he is?

He's 'back to school', so presumably at least 5 & probably under 14 (needing babysitters in the holidays)

so??

I think fizzy drinks are a 'very occasional'thing for kids IF they ask for them, but why are you saying he shouldn't be having ANY at that age??

@Autumnscoming1 I'd find other care for him whether he has diabetes or not. No way would he be going there alone again.

i know it's hard £££ in the summer holidays, but I'd find a way.

I'm diabetic. It's scary when it's your child, but if he is (hopefully not!!) it will be OK XX

Pherian · 06/09/2025 21:43

Autumnscoming1 · 03/09/2025 12:25

So I have some concerns about my DS’s health, I have done an e-consult to the GP awaiting a reply. So over the holidays i’ve been noticing frequent urination, thirst during the night, getting up to pee during the night which he never used to, verrucas on his feet that wont budge and nausea. I am concerned about diabetes. I have been working alot over the summer and have told relevant babysitters of my concerns. I informed MIL to cut back on sweets/cakes/no fizzy drinks etc, which in all fairness she seemed very concerned and said “yes well youll have to watch his diet” I went to pick DS up after work yesterday, to see a bottle of fanta in front of him, 2 large slabs of cake on his plate, and MIL forcing another one down him! I reminded her of our conversation and her response was “he will have what he likes here!” I have had a number of conversations with her before this about the amount of cakes/pop etc she gives them, she agrees to my face, but I always turn up to find fizzy drinks/ sweets in excess in front of DS! I am fairly laid back about this sort of thing, fizzy drinks is a treat only and sweet stuff all in moderation. I feel so angry at mil for disregarding DS’s health. Luckily DS is back in school so no need to be in MIL’s care.

I think your sons health issues aside - your mother in law sounds incredibly disrespectful and instead of working with you and being supportive, she’s being a complete cow.

I would include her in less and less.

Bontasha · 06/09/2025 21:25

My Mum is the same, she is luckily on a diet herself now so less treats lying about. As soon as my kids were old enough they politely declined offers of excess sweets.

broney · 06/09/2025 21:16

You are doing absolutely the right thing, and I hope he will be ok. And there is absolutely no problem with having a rant about MIL on here, you are quite right.

YourCraftyBear · 06/09/2025 21:10

I did not mean to misunderstand you. Please accept my apologies.

IfHeWantedToHeWould · 06/09/2025 20:55

YourCraftyBear · 06/09/2025 20:04

My folks had a small business that sold healthy garden-grown vegetables and sugary snacks, and sodas. Fanta is loaded with sugar, and so are snack cakes, et al. Diabetes is real.

Sugar and cakes have nothing to do with type 1 diabetes!

FFS.

Cyb3rg4l · 06/09/2025 20:30

At the GP remember to bring up the persistent veruccas - could point to something autoimmune and needs investigation

YourCraftyBear · 06/09/2025 20:04

My folks had a small business that sold healthy garden-grown vegetables and sugary snacks, and sodas. Fanta is loaded with sugar, and so are snack cakes, et al. Diabetes is real.

Teddy1949 · 06/09/2025 19:49

Coldnightsapproachingwhereismyduvet · 03/09/2025 12:29

Tell mil she won't be watching him again as you need to monitor his diet and she won't do that.
And don't feel bad for saying it. A fat dc with health issues isn't ideal. If it's preventable why wouldn't you do your best?
My mil told me our vegetarian dc would eat meat at her house when she had them.
So she never had them. Not until we divorced did they eat more than a biscuit there... While I was there also. Never went without me.

My friend took her vegetarian grandson to a dietician as she was concerned about his food, without the mother

Bluddyellfire · 06/09/2025 18:31

I'm not surprised OP hasn't come back with an update, I wouldn't either after such a pile-on. I hate it in here sometimes, everyone else being so very perfect 🙄

Rosscameasdoody · 05/09/2025 19:18

Sallywag134 · 05/09/2025 13:44

I said you are being unreasonable… he needs a quick 30 second blood glucose test. Why haven’t you taken him to a walk in centre? An e doctor can’t physically do this.

A quick 30 second blood test doesn’t diagnose diabetes - either type one or two. It only tells you what the blood glucose level is at that moment in time, which doesn’t mean much. What is needed is an HbA1c test, which gives an average blood glucose over the last three months and is used to diagnose and monitor diabetes.

gamerchick · 05/09/2025 13:50

How's he doing OP?

Although I would understand if you didn't want to come back to the thread. There are some people having a reet shit time going on some of these replies. Wtf is wrong with people atm?!

I hope he's alright. Your MIL sounds like a right one.

Sallywag134 · 05/09/2025 13:44

I said you are being unreasonable… he needs a quick 30 second blood glucose test. Why haven’t you taken him to a walk in centre? An e doctor can’t physically do this.

MellersSmellers · 05/09/2025 10:45

Even if I wasn't concerned about diabetes, I would be very concerned about that kind of diet! The only response is to not trust her with unsupervised childcare.

Blablibladirladada · 05/09/2025 07:14

If you aren’t happy, don’t use the care.
if you can’t do but to use her care then I am afraid you can’t do much…she doesn’t seem to care and you can’t force her.

I suggest you use school time to find relevant care for the future.

Hopingtobeaparent · 05/09/2025 06:51

@Autumnscoming1 How is your son, OP? What did the test show? Hope he’s ok!

Agree with others, MiL is a problem!!

Member984815 · 05/09/2025 06:45

Autumnscoming1 · 03/09/2025 13:14

Erm… where on EARTH does it say i have not done anything. He his due GP call back today. His symptoms have been noticeable but inconsistent! Can be put down to the excessive hot weather we have had , noticeable YES but nothing to SCREAM at me “OMG diabetes!” It is when he began getting up to wee at night which only started 2 nights ago did I say “Ok, hnmm” this needs to be looked at.

I think people are missing that you have arranged to see the gp, I hope the testing goes well . I wouldn't be allowing unsupervised visits with mil in the meantime . Outside of the diagnosis she seems to think she can do what she wants even if it endangers your child's health.

BreatheAndFocus · 05/09/2025 06:37

VickyEadieofThigh · 03/09/2025 13:29

If he has T1 diabetes, the statement to MiL needs to be blunt: "here's his diet sheet. If you give him ANY sugar/too much carb, you're risking his life. Is that what you want?"

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FFS! That’s completely wrong 🙄 I really wish people who knew f-all would stop offering ‘advice’ that’s utter rubbish. People with T1 can eat sugar - in fact, sometimes it’s a literally lifesaver if they’re hypo. They can also eat carbs. Type 1 is nothing like Type 2, which is a completely separate condition.

OP, I hope your son is ok and you have some answers now.