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To feel like an outcast because my child is the only child who doesn't go to nursery school all day :(

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rainbowprincesschapell · 03/09/2025 12:08

Gosh i am in floods of tears and i know this IS unreasonable reaction. My DD attends a small school in the Nursery for half days and is 3.5. I am currently a single parent on LCWRA the reasons i won't go into but have posted before.

It seems like now the new rules have come in (which i know are great) she is the only one coming home at lunch time. Even if she did qualify for 30 hours we are happy with half days.

I feel like such a failure. Like i have a label on my head and she on hers.

we would both rather be at home together until she starts school next september. In some ways want her to grow up but obviously i do. we do enriching activities durning the afternoon. Her Dad does work more than full time but we are not together. Would she be better with him i don't know.

Is anyone else in this situation please that feels similar?

OP posts:
Whereland · 03/09/2025 12:16

What label?

SouthLondonMum22 · 03/09/2025 12:16

I'm struggling to understand what the issue is?

Even if she qualified for the 30 hours, you said you wouldn't send her anyway and are happy with half days....so why the tears? I don't understand.

Maybe focus on the fact that you are happy with half days instead of what other people are doing.

AncientHarpy · 03/09/2025 12:15

What exactly is your issue, though? Your child goes to nursery PT. You're happy with that. Yet you're crying and feeling like a failure?

rainbowprincesschapell · 03/09/2025 12:14

thank you ...🙏

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Bearbookagainandagain · 03/09/2025 12:13

I'm not sure I fully understand your issue. Plenty of children go to nursery part time. No one cares.