Sacked because of a spoon - aibu?

This is really sad…what a bully. I hope you’re ok.

Good grief, save the outrage. Where did I say she was dodgy?

Absolutely!

Who one earth are you to say what 'normal' is? Multiple posters have stated that they don't see anything odd about the way she has expressed that... just because YOU do doesn't make her dodgy! 🤦🏼‍♀️

I disagree. The normal way of speaking would be to say “I have never stolen anything” rather than “I have never been accused of stealing anything”
But as the OP responded to my post almost immediately to clarify what she meant, the huge number of vitriolic and outraged reactions from other people since then is quite baffling and unnecessary.

Bit of an unhinged response.

It’s obvious that she is also implying she hasn’t taken anything. This is a normal way of speaking.

How are you doing @SackedByaSpoon ? Have you spoken with Eileen? Hope you're both ok.

Completely agree with this- that poor lady having a son like that. It must have been so shocking, I hope you're feeling better now. Personally I don't think I'd go back- he sounds incredibly volatile and controlling too.

OP doesn’t need to do any of this. The son is not her employer, Eileen is. All OP needs to do is verify that Eileen agrees with her son and if she does, then OP should contact ACAS for advice as to how she proceeds to tribunal for constructive dismissal. If not, then OP should insist that the son is not present whenever she works.

Then go to social service as a safeguarding concern given his aggression

Pooor Eileen!

I'd also draft out a to the point letter...

Saying you value your honesty /integrity highly and you would NEVER take anything.

Point out also the circs... Eileen agreed you could use a spoon for your lunch and uou were bringing the washed spoon back.

The fact you are very upset that your integrity should be called into question.

The old lady needs a wellness check. If he bullied you, about his inheritance [even the jokes are bullying, in my opinion], you can imagine what he does to his mother when you are not there. The fact that she didn't stand up for you and say you had the spoon with her permission, says volumes.

The sin sounds like a vile abusive bully. When you said that he ‘ jokes ‘ sometimes about you using up his inheritance that speaks volumes about him. He’s obviously judging you by his standards. I was just going to ask if there’s any other siblings as well. Even if you don’t want to back. If there are and If you know them quite well and get on with them. I would contact them and just tell them ( if they already know about what’s happened. At the end of the day you borrowed a spoon for god sake. Sadly my own brother was similar. He ended up financially abusing my mum a few years before she died and he didn’t even want her to have a carer. I contacted Social services but they were absolutely useless. They wouldn’t even contact my brother as my mum didn’t want them to.

All he did ???!!!

Do you think the sons agenda is to have his mother isolated and reliant on him ?if it was she who employed you your contract (even if its only verbal is with you not him
is the son capable of meeting all her needs ?
if you are smelling a rat you should contact social services (you can do this anonymously they can get safeguarding in place you are prob best placed to describe her needs in detail

Despite the title, the OP hasn't actually been dismissed by her employer. All the son did was get angry with her and asked her to leave. OP, contact your employer and ask if she's terminated you x

Um… congrats in learning to read. Get over yourself

I don't find that strange wording...?

It’s fine to quote the OP, MN have contracted it so that only the first sentence appears.

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. I would speak with her other son, as it appears his brother is not acting in husband mother's best interests. Who would steal a stainless steel spoon? Seriously. I would also report this to social services, in case he does and ensure your statement is on the record. You do deserve payment in leiu of notice.

Horrid horrid horrid for you

And yes, please do put her on the "Register of Elders at risk of abuse" with social services - ring them up and you fill in the form. Basically with what you've said above concerning worries about son, and your losing your job on a pretext.

I was advised by hospital matron to do this for my Dad, given he was in an abusive relationship, and I am very glad I did

Did you really need to quote the whole post in your response? We all read it.

YANBU. He sounds like he was looking for any excuse to get rid of you because paying your wage really was eating into his inheritance (which wasn't a joke, he just wanted make that point but disguise it as a joke). I wouldn't go back if he's always going to be breathing down your neck, accusing you of things you haven't done and you don't deserve to be spoken to like that. Seek the appropriate advice and if you're owed money, pursue that, but then cut your losses and find another job.

Yes, or...horror of horrors....he actually has to care for his own mother. He'll have to choose then, between keeping his precious inheritance or paying for care!

Any updates?