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YourOpenNavyAnt · 03/09/2025 03:54

Our neighbours, 2 highly skilled Indian immigrants, who have been in the UK for 8 years are emigrating to another country. He’ll get an 50% pay increase for doing the same job in another country, plus a lower housing costs. According to him, a sizeable cohort of his friends, also want to leave the UK.

I have two cousins who have spent £10000s for their children to study for a masters in another country to make it easier for them gain the right to work.

A colleague’s children (both junior doctors) have both migrated to Australia, with no plans to return. Another colleague’s daughter (a dentist) has moved to New Zealand for 6 months, to determine if she wants to settle permanently.

I have a large circle Aussie friends and acquaintances from my time living in London and most (8-10 people) have either returned or are planning to return. These are people who’ve lived here for 10+ years and have British citizenship but they view the UK as being in terminal decline.

Has anyone else noticed this trend? Is this country really that shit?

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IwasatClaines · 05/09/2025 09:59

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/09/2025 08:57

Well yes, because she ramped up spending at the same time. Madness. Spending needs to be cut drastically. I'd start with the untouchables of welfare, pension triple lock and NHS.

You’re not concerned about the resulting increased social instability with tearing up the social contract?

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:56

other countries are not in the same position and the lack of investment started long, long before then. The UK made very different decisions and here we are.

This

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:55

after 08?

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:55

What I don't understand is why everyone seems so blindsided by the current situation. If everything is shut down as it was in 2020, that has absolutely massive, decades long fallout.

Things were not good before covid though What was the peak 08?

Runssometimes · 05/09/2025 09:52

I would leave tomorrow if I could and I’ve lived here all my adult life since we emigrated from our home country after graduating. Never thought I’d say that as until about five years ago I loved it here, always said I’d never move ‘back’. DH would struggle to get work in our home country as the industry he works in is so much smaller there as is mine, but I could remote work more easily. But I think we’d have a better quality of life. DS would likely get a better education and more opportunities for the future. It’s very sad.

I don’t agree that we were blindsided by what happened in 2020, other countries are not in the same position and the lack of investment started long, long before then. The UK made very different decisions and here we are.

SomeLikeitSnot · 05/09/2025 09:52

It's interesting as I have friends who have emigrated here from Aus and Canada to get away from their issues and friends who have emigrated to these places to get away from ours.
Nowhere is perfect. The middle east sounds good with no tax and glamour but as soon as theres an issue or someone loses a job it becomes a risky place to be.
Lots of Europe are also struggling with cost of living and far right politics.
We arent perfect at all but everywhere has pros and cons and at least as a British citizen there is a safety net if needed.

AnPiscin · 05/09/2025 09:45

God how I hate it when certain phrases like 'terminal decline' come into fashion and people just start using them without any thought as to what they actually mean. It's great for the fearmongers - others do the work for them by repeating these things over and over often enough that even sensible people start to think 'gosh I've heard that a lot, there must be something in it.'

'Terminal decline' in the context of a country makes no sense. A country is not a person. There are peaks and troughs in a country's fortunes, things may change beyond recognition, but the country will still exist, it won't suddenly fall out of existence.

What I don't understand is why everyone seems so blindsided by the current situation. If everything is shut down as it was in 2020, that has absolutely massive, decades long fallout. We're experiencing that at the moment. It was 100% predictable and plenty of people warned about it at the time. If you were in favour of things being shut, then you were in favour of whatever suffering is being visited on the country at the moment, because logically it was inevitable.

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:38

Spending needs to be cut drastically. I'd start with the untouchables of welfare, pension triple lock and NHS.

The triple lock needs to be paused, it's madness & the winter fuel reversal was stupid but a lot of the public don't want it.

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:34

You are right to be concerned OP. For us, bringing pensions into IHT was the final nail in the coffin. We are a family of five tax paying professionals and by Christmas only one will still be in the UK.

As a younger person including pensions in IHT makes more sense to me than further income tax rises. We need to encourage spending money not hoarding it to pass on.

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:27

worried

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 09:27

As a higher earner I worries before labour was in power but maybe it's an age thing

Neemie · 05/09/2025 09:12

Labour is creating uncertainty for middle and higher earners and generally making, or threatening to make, their lives worse, so it is tempting to leave if you have the opportunity.

Covid and Ukraine have had a big impact on cost of living in lots of countries so not many places are having a marvellous time at the moment.

AzurePanda · 05/09/2025 09:02

You are right to be concerned OP. For us, bringing pensions into IHT was the final nail in the coffin. We are a family of five tax paying professionals and by Christmas only one will still be in the UK.

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/09/2025 08:57

IwasatClaines · 05/09/2025 04:27

Yet when Liz Truss dramatically reduced tax the economy crashed and she was forced to resign after only a few weeks. Even traders didn’t think it was a good idea.

I agree with the other posters that the financial instability accelerated after Brexit and is difficult for any government to manage but the voters who chose Brexit all knew best didn’t they?

Well yes, because she ramped up spending at the same time. Madness. Spending needs to be cut drastically. I'd start with the untouchables of welfare, pension triple lock and NHS.

Batelyboo · 05/09/2025 06:44

Batelyboo · 05/09/2025 06:27

I agree with all of this. Everything just seems so shabby and yet overpriced/overtaxed. And don’t get me started on wage inflation for those of us on “average” wages. I am leaving the UK to another European country early next year.

Edited

Sorry I meant to say wage stagnation not inflation lol

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 06:39

What is mind blowing is that 52k today is the equivalent of 28k in the early 00s.

Even child benefit hasn't kept up with inflation & it was universal at one point.

banananas1999 · 05/09/2025 06:39

YourOpenNavyAnt · 03/09/2025 03:54

Our neighbours, 2 highly skilled Indian immigrants, who have been in the UK for 8 years are emigrating to another country. He’ll get an 50% pay increase for doing the same job in another country, plus a lower housing costs. According to him, a sizeable cohort of his friends, also want to leave the UK.

I have two cousins who have spent £10000s for their children to study for a masters in another country to make it easier for them gain the right to work.

A colleague’s children (both junior doctors) have both migrated to Australia, with no plans to return. Another colleague’s daughter (a dentist) has moved to New Zealand for 6 months, to determine if she wants to settle permanently.

I have a large circle Aussie friends and acquaintances from my time living in London and most (8-10 people) have either returned or are planning to return. These are people who’ve lived here for 10+ years and have British citizenship but they view the UK as being in terminal decline.

Has anyone else noticed this trend? Is this country really that shit?

Im EU citizen/british husband/kids born in the UK and we are taking steps to move due to harassment and hate incidents myself and our kids are targeted with,nearly every other week.

Sparklesandspandexgallore · 05/09/2025 06:39

There are lots of factors at play.
One of them being the constant doom and gloom perpetuated by the media. They prefer to focus on immigration rather than discuss the idea of taxing privately owned companies which other countries have nationalised. Examples include water companies. They should be nationalised. How on earth you can justify a water company being privately owned, whereby customers have no choice whatsoever as to who they buy their water from is mind boggling. At least with say a bank, I can chose to stop using them and chose another provider, I am well and truly stuck with the water company.
We live in a society which is neither one thing nor the other. We have private completion yet people demand high levels of state intervention such as benefits. This current government tried to clamp down on free hand outs, such as the winter fuel allowance, yet were shouted down. His oats for these free hand outs? The working population.
Places such as Dubai encourage fit, young people to go and work there and they reward them well. They do not however support them when they become old and need state help.

UncertainPerson · 05/09/2025 06:37

I’m definitely encouraging my kids to think of university options in Europe.

I think we’ve had a period of profound uncertainty about Brexit then the Tories burned through PMs. It feels like everyone is burned out, tired, and angry.

We made consumerism quite central to our society compared to other places. We’re lacking a strong social fabric to fall on when times are tougher.

PeonyPatch · 05/09/2025 06:34

We have a lot of doctors as neighbours and one couple has said they’re moving back to Singapore once they’ve completed their training.

SaidAHipHopTheHippieToTheHippie · 05/09/2025 06:34

I don’t blame him. Given these idiots putting flags up all over the place! It’s absolutely shameful.

Batelyboo · 05/09/2025 06:27

PeonyPatch · 05/09/2025 05:57

We are also considering emigrating and both myself and DH are British Citizens. I feel wages are low, stagnant, and taxes are too high for what we get in return. I wouldn’t mind paying higher taxes or this level of tax if services were better. Quality of life in the UK is ok, but it could be a lot better. Our high streets are deprived and littered with charity shops, takeaways and vape shops. There are also a lot of drunk and disorderly people on drugs. Our local park is ok, but at times very unkempt. Train prices into London are extortionate. Food and energy is high.

I agree with all of this. Everything just seems so shabby and yet overpriced/overtaxed. And don’t get me started on wage inflation for those of us on “average” wages. I am leaving the UK to another European country early next year.

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 06:17

And that's the issue but low interest rates masked a lot of it, nowhere to hide anymore.

NameChange23456790 · 05/09/2025 06:15

sundayfundayclub · 05/09/2025 05:30

I don't think it's anything to worry about, after recessions comes growth and change which is a good thing of you can ride the storm.

We never recovered from 08 & haven't had much growth since.

We really have never recovered from 08, we had a ‘false’ growth post Covid for 2021 and some of 2022. It was catch up.

NameChange23456790 · 05/09/2025 06:14

Yes I agree my cousins in their 20s not a single one has chosen to set up their life here. 1 has gone to work in Canada (EV mechanic gone to Tesla), 2 (GPs) gone to Australia, 2 have moved to Dubai (IT and another in Sales)..if I look at my wider circle the list goes on. I have several lawyer friends who go out to Dubai/Doha to earn tax free for several years then some do return but bring their wealth buying property here/rental properties.

I’d say it’s well known in the groups I mix in that you won’t make your fortune here, if you want to live here you need to go generally to the Middle East and bring your wealth back. With Canada and Australia I’ve found people seem to permanently leave but they do return from the Middle East.