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Shitty message aimed at me in school WhatsApp group chat

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Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 17:52

I’ve been working today so my DH did the pick up.

I received a notification that I’d been tagged in the school Mum’s WhatsApp group. For transparency, I’ve copied it here:

“@(me) and @(another Mum) if your husbands want to comment on Miss X’s TITS then I suggest they do so when other parents are not in earshot!!!”

The other Mum saw this before I did and replied to say she had no idea what she is on about but would have appreciated a message privately.

The reply:

“I think you need to reflect on what type of men you have settled for as they are disgusting!”

Anyway, I sent on to DH to ask what on earth happened. He said a Dad he was stood waiting with asked him if he had seen our DS’s new teacher. DH said no as he didn’t do the morning drop off. The Dad basically replied something along the lines of you’ll be in for a treat as she has massive tits and before DH could reply, a Mum who overheard (not the one who sent the messages above) snapped at him to shut up.

AIBU to find the Mum completely out of order to have sent those messages? She has an absolute cheek to say what she has about me needing to ‘reflect’ and it’s rich coming from someone who is a single bloody Mum herself!

OP posts:
250mlmax · 02/09/2025 17:59

It all sounds very classy. But she is BU for holding you to account for men's bad behaviour. | thought we were on our way to being done with that bullshit. What does she want you to do, tell him off like you're his mum?!

HappySummerDays · 02/09/2025 17:59

@Stowawaysue
Yes.

nellly · 02/09/2025 17:59

Squishymallows · 02/09/2025 17:53

Don’t engage, she has shown herself up.

Has she though? It sounds like OPs DH was innocent (convenient) but at least one Dad was stood at the gates in ear shot of others (so kids too?) discussing a teachers tits. That’s fucking tragically low standards of parenting and general adulting in my book. She shouldn’t have told the Mums off as they are not the ones doing the bad behaviour but I can sort of see how she thought that would get more of a response

Stowawaysue · 02/09/2025 17:58

HappySummerDays · 02/09/2025 17:56

All so strange..

Isn’t it!

Like a peephole in to the kind of families you see wandering around town centre and think “poor kids growing up in that”

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 17:58

growgrowinggrown · 02/09/2025 17:55

So by your logic better to be with a sexist pig than a single mum?

My point is don’t preach to others about how they need to reflect on their choice of men when your own choice is so brilliant you are no longer together!

OP posts:
MaudlinGazebo · 02/09/2025 17:57

😂

HappySummerDays · 02/09/2025 17:56

All so strange..

growgrowinggrown · 02/09/2025 17:55

So by your logic better to be with a sexist pig than a single mum?

No3392 · 02/09/2025 17:54

Of course your husband is all wide eyed and innocent.

And that last line... You deserve each other.

Good for her calling out gross men.

Stowawaysue · 02/09/2025 17:54

Ghastly

every adult in the scenario I suspect

just ghastly

all like extras in an episode of Shameless

BrunchBarBandit · 02/09/2025 17:54

namechangedforvalidreasons · 02/09/2025 17:53

Was right with ya til the final line. Is this a wind-up?

Ditto

EnchantedQuill · 02/09/2025 17:53

That’s absolutely mental.

namechangedforvalidreasons · 02/09/2025 17:53

Was right with ya til the final line. Is this a wind-up?

Squishymallows · 02/09/2025 17:53

Don’t engage, she has shown herself up.